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DEARSUGAR Needs Your Help: How To Make The First Move

DEARSUGAR and Shy Shauntrice need your help. Ladies, I know that you've all got some seductive and saucy tricks up your sleeve. Help a sister out and make some suggestions on how to catch the eye of her high school crush when she's home for the holidays. She's been waiting a long time to make a move on this guy, but she can't seem to get up the courage to take action.

Dear Sugar
I've just started college but I still harbor feelings for one of my high school crushes. We've been friends all throughout our school years together, but it seems like we are both just too painfully shy to do anything about it.

Before school gets too far away from us, I'd like to try and make a move on him when we are both home for Thanksgiving. I originally wanted to ask him to prom, but I never got up the courage. We have all the same friends and since we're always together with everybody, it seems too difficult to send him a clear message that I want to be more than just one of the gal pals within the group.

Sometimes I'll ask him to do things alone with me, or to pick me up early, before everyone goes out, but I don't know how to be clearer than that without scaring him. Even my friends wonder why we don't just act on our feelings already. They talk to both of us about it, but still neither one of us has ever made a move.

We both get very quiet when our friends try and push us together and I feel like it's because we're both too scared to say anything. I'm so confused and I don't know what to do anymore. Does anyone have any ideas for me? Shy Shauntrice

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