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DEARSUGAR Needs Your Help: Is There Really A G-Spot?

DearSugar and Searching Sara need your help. She and her husband have always heard about the magic little pleasure spot inside of a woman. It's been years however, and they still can't seem to find it. She rarely climaxes and when she does, it's usually because they have had extensive foreplay.

Sara, from what I understand, the g-spot or the The Gräfenberg Spot is located behind the pubic bone and surrounding the urethra. It is inside the vaginal wall and when it is stroked, you may feel the urge to go to the bathroom, but hang on....if it is continually touched, it can lead to orgasm. Does anyone have any helpful hints for her? Here's more on her story.

Dear Sugar
I am at a loss. I have heard time and time again about the female g- spot, yet I'll be darned if I can find it. My husband and I have been exploring for years and yet, nothing seems to happen. We are both pretty upset about it. We have read books, articles and have searched online for hours trying to feel around.

I am almost 32 and am wondering if maybe I just don't have one. Sorry to be so graphic, but I love your site and I feel like your readers may be able to give some pointers. Thanks a million. Searching Sara

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XDeexDeeX XDeexDeeX 9 years
My-Opinion My-Opinion 9 years
I always thought it was right above where you are showing? Maybe I'm just lucky and are super sensitive! :D
J-Dunk J-Dunk 9 years
I know where it is. My bf found it a while ago. We've tried positions that hit it, and even after long romp sessions I still get nothing.. maybe theres something wrong with ME.
J-Dunk J-Dunk 9 years
I know where it is. My bf found it a while ago. We've tried positions that hit it, and even after long romp sessions I still get nothing.. maybe theres something wrong with ME.
KimmiAnn KimmiAnn 9 years
Ohhhh yeah it exists....and my husband found it a looooong time ago! Wooooohooooooo! Well "Sinead O'Rebellion." Shock me shock me shock me with that deviant behavior. Gina - Empire Records
MandyJoBo MandyJoBo 9 years
I used to think there wasn't a g-spot...until I had sex with someone who didn't "activate" it. I've just always had sex with men who did! (Lucky me, I guess.) A g-spot orgasm is very explosive, where as a "normal" orgasm is just "good". I used to think there was something weird about me because I "came" like a in extreme squirting (which my husband loved), but turns out, it was just caused by good g-spot action! When I don't get the g-spot "activated", I don't squirt.
fashion_doll24 fashion_doll24 9 years
I didn't say I found it either, I just noticed that some positions definitely make a big difference as to how it feels.
3Sweeties 3Sweeties 9 years
Well, I guess I am the only one to say I've never found it! My hubby is on the larger side, and thus doggy style is uncomfortable for me. But we have figured some other things out, so its all good :P
getstinko getstinko 9 years
My wife swore that the g-spot was male propaganda, until she had our second son (and perhaps that changed her physically/hormonally) - now she has g-spot orgasms like a professional. she has it by mounting me (her on top) and really riding hard. Depends on the shape of your mate.
fashion_doll24 fashion_doll24 9 years
I don't know if it's the G-spot, but there are definitely some positions which pleasure me even more! *graphic* The ones boxem and bluejeanie described work for me too, except for the fact that I don't tilt my pelvis in the air during doggie style. You could try this one: you lying on your back, with both of your legs straight up in the air (you can rest them on his shoulders). It may help to put a pillow under your lower back.
dreamsugar dreamsugar 9 years
Y-E-S !!!!! It exist -- and it's great once found.
boxem180 boxem180 9 years
as bluejeanie said, GRAPHIC WRITING ahead: this depends on the shape of your man's penis and what position you use. my favourite position is what i call modified missionary. on my back but with my knees wider and closer to my chest. this allows his to be deeper and to reach that spot. it's great and i've definitely had some enjoyment because of it.
regalbeagle regalbeagle 9 years
Ah...the ever elusive G spot. How does one REALLY know they've found it...Isn't that the million dollar question?
bluejeanie bluejeanie 9 years
the G spot totally exists and it's awesome. if it's touched too hard or too much it hurts and i have to pee, i don't know why but i just do. it's super sensitive, i guess. *warning graphic writing ahead* :pepino: i'd try doggie style with your pelvis tilted so your butt is in the air and your bellybutton is closer to the bed/kitchen table/floor/couch/desk/whatever. that ought to do it. everybody and her partner is built differently so it might take some adjusting.
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