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DEARSUGAR Needs Your Help: When Helping A Friend Backfires

DEARSUGAR and Recruiter Ruthie need your help. Should she bother to warn her friend that she's doing a terrible job at work, or has she done enough and should she just stay out of it?

Dear Sugar
I just helped an old friend of mine get a new job. Well, it was actually she who got herself the job, but I put her in touch with a friend of mine who is a top manager at the company, passed her resume along and then helped to get her the salary that she wanted.

I think that she's a great girl and I wanted her to be happy so I really went out on a limb with a glowing recommendation. The problem is that I haven't seen her in about five years even though I talk to her every couple of months. We used to study together in college and she was extremely diligent and hard working.

I guess I really put her on a mental pedestal because my manager friend is terribly let down and she's taking it out on me. She claims the girl comes in late, is lazy, has a rotten attitude, doesn't pay attention to detail and is super careless with her work.

I don't know what to do about it. She's asked me to talk to her and if things don't change, she's planning on letting her go. Should I get involved in this or should I tell my manager friend to do what she thinks is best for the company? Recruiter Ruthie

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