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Dear Poll: In Dating, Is Your Parents' Approval Important?

Dear Poll: In Dating, Is Your Parents' Approval Important?

The holidays are here, and I bet some of you are bringing your significant others home to meet your family for the first time. The thought of introducing a new guy to the family could easily make you feel anxious — especially if you fear he may not measure up to the picture-perfect guy your parents have in mind — so what would happen if you consider him marriage material and your parents don't approve? Ladies, what I want to know is . . .

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calli-gurl calli-gurl 7 years
for me yes. but a friend of mines mom didnt let her date this guy she really loved just because she was bad looking. i hated, well, my friend and i both hated her for that
kh61582 kh61582 7 years
I said no. My family is not a very close affectionate family. We're one of those families that always get together but everyone is always bad mouthing everyone else the minute we leave and it can be tense. I just never felt very close with my parents emotionally so I don't think I should have to care much what they think about the man I'm with. My mother loves my current boyfriend and my dad tolerates him well enough. That's all fine and good but I know that he's not permanent. Fact is, I like older men and that's always going to make my parents a little uncomfortable but it's my taste. It would be almost impossible for me to find someone they completely approve of that's a good fit for me.
Grandpa Grandpa 7 years
The world has changed so much, just in my lifetime, particularly with regards to race relations and sexual orientation..Thank the Good Lord.
kristints kristints 7 years
Well, being gay, it complicates matters with my mom and siblings, they're ok, but not really warm about it. I trust my dads judgement and would never date a girl he strongly disliked. My dad and I are super close, I work at the family business and we have plans to start another, we're just together way to often for him to not like someone I'm with.
yellowshoe yellowshoe 7 years
I say yes, but that is because I spend so much time with my family that it is important that they all get along. One of the last guys I dated, my parents were not a fan of him, but I didn't know that until after I broke up with him. When it looked as though things were getting serious, they tried to make sure I was ready for it, but they let me see on my own that he wasn't right for me.
psterling psterling 7 years
My family knows me better than anyone else so if they saw red flags, I trusted their judgment. HOWEVER, my mom tends to think that nobody was good enough for her little girl so it was always taken with a grain of salt. Everyone loved my husband right away though, so luckily there wasn't any drama.
bbkf bbkf 7 years
No, not at all. I'm the one dating him, not them.
Grandpa Grandpa 7 years
I don't think there is a "correct' answer. It depends on many factors, how do you rate your parents’ marriage? How close are you to them? How much do you respect their opinion? I am blessed that my wife of 43 years was able to overcome initial objections. My wife and I lived "My Big Fat Greek Wedding". The only things different was "spitting" for good luck, neither of us ever heard of such a thing. Through a cousin we found out it was an Athenian custom, and all my wife’s family was from the island of Chios. My father in law did not use Windex, and when they roast the lamb on the spit it is in the backyard not the front. The first 5 years of our marriage, I was referred to as “Xano” (The outsider, or stranger), when they would discuss me. Over time I became a member of the entire extended family. The cousins of the next generation have been able to marry outside the Greek community, but always within the Greek Church.
Swen Swen 7 years
It matters to me, but it wouldn't cause to me to break it off with a guy. I think my parents have good judgment, and we have a close relationship, so I do appreciate their input. If they hated a guy, then there would be a good reason for it, a reason that would matter to me too. I can't imagine my parents really interfering enough to tell me they don't like a guy though. I think they'd figure I'd move on and figure out for myself that he's no good.
lemuse20 lemuse20 7 years
I think it is somewhat important, although if the parents don't approve and you have something really special with your mate, then oh well, it shouldn't determine your relationship's status. I have a thing with my brother's gfs always trying to get MY approval, particularly my brother's current gf, she wants to be total BFF. I let her know that I like her, but I'm not up to be BFF! I have had to befriend so many of my brother's gfs that it gets so tiresome. So she doesn't know what to think, but I know it doesn't matter what "I" think. I know that all just sounded confusing, maybe someone understood, haha.
sobe101 sobe101 7 years
I'm big into family so the guy I'm dating has to get along with my family or he's out.
missangelique999 missangelique999 7 years
Although I have a good relationship with my parents and value their opinions(most of the time;-) ) in this area, I don't feel their ideas matter as much to me. They have VERY traditional values: no sex before marriage, no living together before marriage, etc., and I am a lot more modern in my approach.
khadeekiinsz khadeekiinsz 7 years
It matters kind of. If your parents have YOUR ideal mate in mind, and if it isn't what they like, and dont approve, then no it doesn't matter what they think. But i would take some of their reasons into consideration. They might see something you dont.
lilwildone1202 lilwildone1202 7 years
i also value my parents opinion. besides...if they dont like him and i mean *really* dont like him--that can make awkward family get togethers...
Kimpossible Kimpossible 7 years
like aprilmayjune's sister, my Dad has impeccable "loser radar". He is an extremely good judge of character. I learned this one the hard way. I ignored my Dad's very gentle warnings about someone and it ended up being a very abusive relationship. After I got out of it, and was back in the dating world again, I took Dad's opinions very seriously, even breaking up with one man because of Dad's again gentle input. I'm no longer in the dating scene but I'm so glad for my parents insight, thankfully now that I'm older and wiser I've learned to be a better judge of character myself. So, if I were to ever find myself in the dating world again, I think my parents would be proud of my choices.
sundaygreen sundaygreen 7 years
Dating no, because I don't introduce any guys I'm just 'dating' or 'seeing' to my parents. Relationships, yes.
Hymelami Hymelami 7 years
I'm italian, and the approval of my parents is not so important... They met my boyfriend but I don't really know if they like him or not!
valancyjane valancyjane 7 years
I want my parents' approval to the extent that I'm sad when I don't get it. But my mom (the more judgmental one) hasn't really approved of anyone I've dated - I would have had to date a Kennedy to make her happy. (That is: Irish Catholic, educated, well-mannered, and from a family she can be proud of.) She's coming around to my husband, but it's taking a while - I think by the time we hit our 10-year anniversary she might warm up to him. Oh well, her loss ... he's not part of any religion and he doesn't even have a bachelor's degree, but he's smart and funny and he treats me incredibly well ... I could hardly ask for more!
oohsexypenguin oohsexypenguin 7 years
My parents never met my ex, but they would've loved him: smart, good looking, musically talented, going places. But he was a douchebag who broke my heart. They've also welcomed into the family my sister's many, many smarmy boyfriends. My parents took a reeeeeally long time to warm up to my fiance, but he's the man of my dreams and treats me like a princess. Their approval would be nice, but in the end I just don't trust their judgment. I'll date who I want.
oohsexypenguin oohsexypenguin 7 years
My parents never met my ex, but they would've loved him: smart, good looking, musically talented, going places. But he was a douchebag who broke my heart. They've also welcomed into the family my sister's many, many smarmy boyfriends.My parents took a reeeeeally long time to warm up to my fiance, but he's the man of my dreams and treats me like a princess. Their approval would be nice, but in the end I just don't trust their judgment. I'll date who I want.
chatondeneige chatondeneige 7 years
Honestly, my parents are so close to me, and have my best interests at heart, so if they didn't like a guy, I'd take a look at what their reasons were.
punjabibyotch punjabibyotch 7 years
my boyfriend of 4 years is marrying a girl he's never met before in his life, because his parents dont want him to marry me, even though they've never met me. My dream man is a man whose parents are dead. I don't care what my parents think. Its only my opinion that counts when it comes to who i spend my life with
resamac resamac 7 years
It would depend. IT would deeply bother me that my parents really dislike a guy if I was absolutely smitten with the guy. But, my parents raised me. They trust my judgment. Especially since whenever we've ever disagreed we talked it out, and many times I have taught them something from it. Plus I have to feel that the guy is just overwhelmingly awesome to get to meet my parents, and they usually feel the same anyway.
resamac resamac 7 years
It would depend.IT would deeply bother me that my parents really dislike a guy if I was absolutely smitten with the guy.But, my parents raised me. They trust my judgment. Especially since whenever we've ever disagreed we talked it out, and many times I have taught them something from it. Plus I have to feel that the guy is just overwhelmingly awesome to get to meet my parents, and they usually feel the same anyway.
simplyfab87 simplyfab87 7 years
Nope, its not important. When I first started dating my boyfriend, they didn't like him at all but I didn't care. They've warmed up to him though.
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