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Dear Poll: Do You Get Along With Your Man's Mom?

Dear Poll: Do You Get Along With Your Man's Mom?

Mother-in-laws are notorious for being difficult to get along with — we know how moms are protective of their little boys! But sometimes I wonder if the moms of our men get a bad rap because of the few especially controlling ones out there. I have to think that if our boyfriend or husband is a great guy, in most cases his mom had a lot to do with it. Still, I know it can be treacherous terrain to walk when both women are trying to assert their influence so let's hear it — is this just a nasty rumor or is there some truth behind it? Do you get along with your man's mom?

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areidz areidz 8 years
My husband's mom lives about 2000 miles away. We don't see each other often.. but when we talk on the phone it's a very easy conversation. I think we would get along just fine if we lived closer... especially because she doesn't covet her sons' every move and is supportive of the decisions we've both made. We also make a trip out to see her and the rest of his family once a year. I'm so lucky not to have a difficult mother-in-law!
hottemper hottemper 8 years
What should I do if my bf's mom is so dependent on him? She wants to draw his attention all the time in different ways: sick, tired, drama little things. She's a nice person, but she's so demanding and sometimes I think she has a problem. My bf was tired and stress with it, and he just accepts the fact that he has to satisfy her needs!! He expect me to help him with that. But, I can't do that. It's just unreasonable for me. I don't know if I'm so selfish. I can't tolerate her drama. She acts like a very nice woman, and try not to disturb other ppl. But her way is "I'll try to work when I'm really sick, and I let my son know I'm sick, but I'm strong blah..." So my bf was more worried and it disturbed his job. And she wants him to live with her for the rest of his life, even if he gets married !! not even a moment far from her. He didn't come home one night, and next day she was sick. I'm in trouble..really in trouble because I don't want to nourish her bad habit, but I don't know how to get rid of it.
gossipqueen gossipqueen 8 years
she HATES me...in a truly, truly ridiculous way....we have been married for 5 years and she still thinks one day he's gonna call her and tell her we're done, the marriage was not real and it was all a joke!!! she doesn't want me in her house... she doesn't want to see me... she doesn't want to talk to me... WHY? She thinks marriage distracts him from having a better future????? yeah...??????????? :oy:
gossipqueen gossipqueen 8 years
she HATES me...in a truly, truly ridiculous way....we have been married for 5 years and she still thinks one day he's gonna call her and tell her we're done, the marriage was not real and it was all a joke!!!she doesn't want me in her house...she doesn't want to see me...she doesn't want to talk to me...WHY?She thinks marriage distracts him from having a better future?????yeah...???????????:oy:
kaenai kaenai 8 years
I don't have a current, but my ex (whom I still speak to) says that his family is constantly asking about me. It makes me a little uncomfortable, since he says they think I'm really important (for him, I guess), and that's kinda weird to say about an ex-girlfriend, but they're nice, so it's not a bad thing.
alphaxigirl07 alphaxigirl07 8 years
My boyfriend's mom & and I get along great! She is a really sweet person. She was the youngest of all her siblings and acts older than she is, so I almost feel like the relationship that I have with her is like one I have with my grandmom lol. I know that sounds weird, but it's true! She is always complimenting me, asking about things going on in my life & giving me cards/little gifts out of the blue when she is thinking of me or sees something that reminds her of me. We are very different in a lot of ways, but that's okay. I think our relationship is just fine, especially after hearing my mom complain all the time about her MIL issues while growing up haha!
graylen graylen 8 years
My boyfriend's mom really never grew up, so she's more of a sister role. She's the kind that just wants to be your best friend and take you shopping- works for me! His grandmother has the traditional mother role and I was much more nervous meeting her! She's a jewish grandmother and that role fits her perfectly. You always want to please her. Apparently, she's had a great reaction to me... which makes me very happy! I even like hanging out with her when he's not around. My ex's mom though was really crazy. My mom always used to say, "Remember sweetie... you marry the WHOLE family!"
lemassabielle lemassabielle 8 years
I never understood all the jokes about mother-in-laws until my current relationship. It's not that I don't think she is a nice person but she doesn't like me very much. I wish we had a good relationship but she looks down on me. Why put effort into someone who has a bad opinion about you? It would take too much effort to change. Let her think what she wants...I know that I'm a good person.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
I used to think that we got along, but as the years go by she just rubs me the wrong way doing thing like: -asking me if i would consider having babies at home and let my hubby deliver them, after all she did it with 5 kids. I get asked this all the time -when i am not at family functions she badmouths me to the other daughter in laws saying things like "they never invite us over" or "they never call us" or some other piteous story about how we shun them. We dont, i just dont want to hang with them 24/7 -We had to stay with them between apartments once for a month, they said it was completely fine and we offered to pay for part of the electric bill, and buy our own food. they tried to get hundreds of dollars out of us because they were in debt. I have never ever felt so uncomfortable, they even took to taping the electric bill to our door and asking for the full amount highlighted in yellow with smiley face. Plus they ate our food, we never ever touched thiers.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
I used to think that we got along, but as the years go by she just rubs me the wrong way doing thing like:-asking me if i would consider having babies at home and let my hubby deliver them, after all she did it with 5 kids. I get asked this all the time-when i am not at family functions she badmouths me to the other daughter in laws saying things like "they never invite us over" or "they never call us" or some other piteous story about how we shun them. We dont, i just dont want to hang with them 24/7-We had to stay with them between apartments once for a month, they said it was completely fine and we offered to pay for part of the electric bill, and buy our own food. they tried to get hundreds of dollars out of us because they were in debt. I have never ever felt so uncomfortable, they even took to taping the electric bill to our door and asking for the full amount highlighted in yellow with smiley face. Plus they ate our food, we never ever touched thiers.
sass317 sass317 8 years
My in laws LOVE me, Im really lucky -she was babysitting a friends grandbaby once and the baby was dropped off while we were at the house (this was when we were still dating). The dad handed the baby to my then-bf and I was sitting next to him on the couch and I look up and my future MIL was staring at us like she was picturing us married with a new baby(she did admit later that that was exactly what she was thinking) -she sent over a jewelry catalogue that was almost entirely engagement rings with the suggestion that he look through it when we were dating - she "happen to remember" that he had several thousand dollars left over from his college fund that she gave to him "for you know- whatever" around the time we started talking about getting married
sass317 sass317 8 years
My in laws LOVE me, Im really lucky-she was babysitting a friends grandbaby once and the baby was dropped off while we were at the house (this was when we were still dating). The dad handed the baby to my then-bf and I was sitting next to him on the couch and I look up and my future MIL was staring at us like she was picturing us married with a new baby(she did admit later that that was exactly what she was thinking)-she sent over a jewelry catalogue that was almost entirely engagement rings with the suggestion that he look through it when we were dating- she "happen to remember" that he had several thousand dollars left over from his college fund that she gave to him "for you know- whatever" around the time we started talking about getting married
cmachter1 cmachter1 8 years
I love my mother in law!!!! She is like my second mother! She is like my best friend...
Sydney-C Sydney-C 8 years
I am very lucky in my BF'm mom's choice in partners - it gives me 2 future MILs instead of one!! I love both of them dearly. It was a bit odd when my parents first met them - my mom was like your boyfriend's MOMS??? She had like zero exposure to that lifestyle choice. But they got along great and now my mom and his mom email back and forth like everyday.
nancita nancita 8 years
Yes, but it's his dad who I really connect with.
Hootie Hootie 8 years
After 8 years together and 4 years married my MIL and I have a great relationship. We had our ups and downs but it is part of the reason we respect and admire eachother so much today. She raised a great man and I am so lucky to be a part of their family!
Greentea1203 Greentea1203 8 years
My boyfriend's mom loves me, probably more than she loves him haha :P Maybe it's because my boyfriend is 3 yrs younger than me and quite wild and I'm a college graduate, have a good job and my own place and she knows I'm slowly making him calm down and grow up!
workin9to5 workin9to5 8 years
My fiance's (haha, this term is new to me) mom is really sweet...she likes me and is really nice, but we don't have a lot in common. His parents are very big into science and studying different animal and marine life, which is great, but most of what they say on those topics flies right over my head. She and I would never go on a shopping spree together (the kind of stuff my mom and I do), but I definitely do like her a lot and admire her intellect. She's always very kind to me. Her inability to use a computer frustrates fiance to no end...but I'm fine with it! :)
thatsmajor thatsmajor 8 years
I love my bf's mom!!!!!! She lives far away but last time we saw each other she told me "you're going to be the mother of my grandchildren." We even get drunk together... hahaha, she is hilarious!
bellydancinmary bellydancinmary 8 years
My b.f.'s mom really likes me. We go over to visit her, she always makes us food, she's easy to talk to, and she has a good sense of humor. I visit her sometimes when he is not there, she is such a nice lady.
purple-alpacas purple-alpacas 8 years
I helped pick out his outfit for semiformal recently and he showed his mom. His mother was like "_______ tell her she can dress you ANYTIME". His family is so sweet and they all have been wanting to meet me for a long time but I can't because my family thinks it's too risky to be so involved with your boyfriend at this age.
kimberley kimberley 8 years
I love my mother in law. She's really more like my second mom, since my mother passed away 12 years ago. I don't know what I would do without her. We don't always agree on things, but it's in a good mother/daugher or woman to woman type of way. I'm very lucky to have her in my life. I also love my dad's second wife. It's hard for widowers to have a second chance at love late in life and find someone so compatible with them. They're good for each other and I am glad to see them happy.
kimberley kimberley 8 years
I love my mother in law. She's really more like my second mom, since my mother passed away 12 years ago. I don't know what I would do without her. We don't always agree on things, but it's in a good mother/daugher or woman to woman type of way. I'm very lucky to have her in my life. I also love my dad's second wife. It's hard for widowers to have a second chance at love late in life and find someone so compatible with them. They're good for each other and I am glad to see them happy.
kikidawn kikidawn 8 years
We get along great! She loves me and I love her :)Currently we are both waiting on my boyfriend to ask me to marry him haha! :) She hinted around that maybe he'll propose on Valentine's Day (I'd rather him not b/c that is cliche' but w/e it didn't happen) and when it didn't happen she was like oh well your birthday is coming up! She's just so ready for us to get married! And of course we get endless hints about grandkids (which would be her first)....So, yes, we get along great. She is loving and super sweet.
kikidawn kikidawn 8 years
We get along great! She loves me and I love her :) Currently we are both waiting on my boyfriend to ask me to marry him haha! :) She hinted around that maybe he'll propose on Valentine's Day (I'd rather him not b/c that is cliche' but w/e it didn't happen) and when it didn't happen she was like oh well your birthday is coming up! She's just so ready for us to get married! And of course we get endless hints about grandkids (which would be her first).... So, yes, we get along great. She is loving and super sweet.
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