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Dear Poll: Do You Respond Well to Tough Love?


I don't know about you, but I'm a big fan of tough love. Being direct reduces the chance of misunderstandings, and when trying to get a point across, why waste time beating around the bush? Some people, however, don't do well with that kind of forthrightness. Do you respond well to tough love?

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aimeeb aimeeb 7 years
I think some people just don't get it, tough love is needed.
Hiding55 Hiding55 7 years
I'm good at dishing it out but I can't take it. When someone uses "tough" love on me I feel like I'm being personally attacked and my first reaction is to defend myself and sometimes I have to hold back tears. Later on when I'm alone I reflect on what was said and think of how I can apply it. The sensitive approach works much better with me because I actually listen and don't get defensive and shut down.
potterlove potterlove 7 years
I'm big on tough love. I think it's great that someone that cares bout you is willing to show it--no matter how boldly they present it. Though there is a line between tough love and obsession.
potterlove potterlove 7 years
I'm big on tough love. I think it's great that someone that cares bout you is willing to show it--no matter how boldly they present it. Though there is a line between tough love and obsession.
Spectra Spectra 7 years
I don't respond well to it. When people aren't sensitive with me, I tend to withdraw and get defensive and make the situation worse. Luckily, my husband and I try to be sensitive to each other when we bring up issues.
itsme3683 itsme3683 7 years
Yeah I would probably cry about it at first buy boy would I shape up. I mean, there's nothing like a direct statement about what I'm doing wrong for me to get my butt in gear.But I definitely do appreciate morgokhal's comment about tactfulness. I think that's key.
itsme3683 itsme3683 7 years
Yeah I would probably cry about it at first buy boy would I shape up. I mean, there's nothing like a direct statement about what I'm doing wrong for me to get my butt in gear. But I definitely do appreciate morgokhal's comment about tactfulness. I think that's key.
GScott86 GScott86 7 years
Tough love = loveless for me. I don't think I could really do it, but it all depends on the situation. I'm not going to help someone do something to harm themselves or others ~_^.
emalove emalove 7 years
LOL, I'd probably cry too...luckily, I've never needed "tough love".
pippins_halfling pippins_halfling 7 years
I'm with KadBunny. It doesn't matter if they're well-intentioned, I'll probably cry anyway.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 7 years
Generally, no. I prefer the message to be delivered with sensitivity. Likewise, I try to treat the person the same way.
KadBunny KadBunny 7 years
Oh man.. depending on how tough they are I usually just swallow it but for the most part I don't respond well at all. Like, I'm not a brat about it--when someone gives me tough love I listen, I nod, I completely understand they mean well and that I need it--but it still makes me cry.
miss-malone miss-malone 7 years
It depends...
miss-malone miss-malone 7 years
It depends...
urban-chic-101 urban-chic-101 7 years
Sometimes we need tough love, definitely. My sis is convinced it works well for me. Tell me I can't do something I will prove you wrong. Although, sometimes I just want to kick her ass. :)
RunninginBoston RunninginBoston 7 years
In theory, sometimes people need "tough love," but I also think too many people think "tough love" is an excuse to be rude when the situation doesn't call for it.
margokhal margokhal 7 years
I appreciate people who are TACTFUL. That's something I think that has been lost on most people. You can be tough and get your point across without totally cutting the other person down with tact.
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 7 years
manner not matter** oops
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 7 years
manner not matter** oops
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 7 years
i think tough love should be a last resort. if u try to get through to someone in a gentle and sensitive matter and they either dont budge or get worse, obviously they need a good dose of tough love. i generally respond alot better to the initial gentle, more sensitive approach.
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