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Dear Poll: Have You Ever Dated Anyone Who's Turned Out to Be Gay?

Dear Poll: Have You Ever Dated Anyone Who's Turned Out to Be Gay?

When we're young, most of us know very little about ourselves, let alone what we want out of our relationships and from our sexuality. So in our earliest relationships, it make sense that we're still in the process of discovering who we are, which is why I don't find it at all shocking when people mention that one of their exes later came out. Has this ever happened to you? Has someone you dated come out as gay, or straight as the case may be, after the fact?

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rossinaross rossinaross 7 years
Well, OH MY GOD. I thought I was the only one!!! Turns out my ex boyfriend is gay! We dated on and off for 4 years. I remember he once told me that 'he wasn't a good person thats why we couldnt be together', and I cried soooo much about it because he wouldnt tell me why, but then we had this INCREDIBLE make-out session, [oh it was good!] and we got back together... but when we we're about to make it official, serious, tell our parents, family, friends, that we were going out, and he had proposed [without a ring. cheapppp!], he broke up with me for no reason. A month after that, his sister called me and told me he is now LIVING with a guy. So I'm guessing he was cheating with the other dude all along..... ???? I'm glad I didn't do nothing. That'll be creepy. ANYWAY! yess! my ex is gay. I'm glad he broke up with me though, thanks to his break-up-surprise, I met the love of my life :)
rossinaross rossinaross 7 years
Well, OH MY GOD.I thought I was the only one!!!Turns out my ex boyfriend is gay!We dated on and off for 4 years. I remember he once told me that 'he wasn't a good person thats why we couldnt be together', and I cried soooo much about it because he wouldnt tell me why, but then we had this INCREDIBLE make-out session, [oh it was good!] and we got back together... but when we we're about to make it official, serious, tell our parents, family, friends, that we were going out, and he had proposed [without a ring. cheapppp!], he broke up with me for no reason.A month after that, his sister called me and told me he is now LIVING with a guy. So I'm guessing he was cheating with the other dude all along..... ????I'm glad I didn't do nothing. That'll be creepy.ANYWAY!yess! my ex is gay.I'm glad he broke up with me though, thanks to his break-up-surprise, I met the love of my life :)
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 7 years
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Silverlining10 Silverlining10 7 years
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Silverlining10 Silverlining10 7 years
I think a guy I crushed on turned out to be gay, and a guy that crushed on me obsessively for a year came out (Which makes me think it says something about ME.). I wouldn't be offended if an ex came out...I would prefer an ex or a current boyfriend to come out than cheat on me with another girl. After all, I can't compete with someone of the different sex.
lovelee lovelee 7 years
omg, i think so. well my first boyfriend/love. that whole deal. we were practically best friends. we stayed pretty close & comfortable after the break up. hes got this weird obsession of having to be liked. by everyone and anyone. years later after a random hook up( i kno, i kno) he was oddly into "other stuff" also he mentioned a male coworker who always joked about kissing him and said he wouldnt mind... i dont think hes gay but possibly bi. but he'll stay closeted im sure of it. if your his girlfriend and had a great relationship, you cant be that surprised...
lovelee lovelee 7 years
omg, i think so. well my first boyfriend/love. that whole deal. we were practically best friends. we stayed pretty close & comfortable after the break up. hes got this weird obsession of having to be liked. by everyone and anyone. years later after a random hook up( i kno, i kno) he was oddly into "other stuff" also he mentioned a male coworker who always joked about kissing him and said he wouldnt mind... i dont think hes gay but possibly bi. but he'll stay closeted im sure of it. if your his girlfriend and had a great relationship, you cant be that surprised...
NatashaAlexis NatashaAlexis 7 years
Well he turned out to be bi but it still manged to make an awkward end!
foxie foxie 7 years
Why does the only "No" option say "but it wouldn't be a big deal"?? I'm sorry, but investing time and effort and love into someone who knows they can't reciprocate but PRETENDS they do IS a big deal. I've never had a boyfriend who was gay, but when I was in high school I worked with a (closeted gay) guy who I was CRAZY for. He always flirted with me and we hung out sometimes and then he took me to prom. He supposedly had a "girlfriend" this whole time, so he would never take things to the next level with me. He just kept stringing me along. NOT cool.
foxie foxie 7 years
Why does the only "No" option say "but it wouldn't be a big deal"?? I'm sorry, but investing time and effort and love into someone who knows they can't reciprocate but PRETENDS they do IS a big deal. I've never had a boyfriend who was gay, but when I was in high school I worked with a (closeted gay) guy who I was CRAZY for. He always flirted with me and we hung out sometimes and then he took me to prom. He supposedly had a "girlfriend" this whole time, so he would never take things to the next level with me. He just kept stringing me along. NOT cool.
Vaadsfweytes Vaadsfweytes 7 years
My first boyfriend was gay. He was gay all along, and I was the first girl he was ever interested in other than as a friend. However, it was too complicated, and I was too young to deal with it. So, we ended after dating for a couple of months. After that experience, I have this incredible gay-dar and a soft spot for hairy, messy, sweaty, and dirty heterosexual males.
ilanac13 ilanac13 7 years
i have dated 2 guys that turned out to be gay and one of them was a big shocker to a lot of people that i'm not sure if they even believe me. there was this one guy that worked at this camp with us - he was about 10 years older than the rest of us, and he was drop dead gorgeous. it's really funny cause every girl that knew him wanted to date him yet he was really unattainable...however after a lot of hanging around as friends, i some how got asked out by him and we dated for a bit. i realized that he was gay a few weeks into dating him, and i was kind of surprised that i didn't realize it before, but to my defense, he put on this really straight aura and persona so no one knew. when my mom asked me why we stopped dating, since she knew him for YEARS and thought the world of him, i decided that it wasn't really my place to out him and i just said that there were things about him that just didn't click for me - so that was that. it's almost upsetting when you realize that 2 guys you've dated are gay - but it's not like i turned them gay
ilanac13 ilanac13 7 years
i have dated 2 guys that turned out to be gay and one of them was a big shocker to a lot of people that i'm not sure if they even believe me. there was this one guy that worked at this camp with us - he was about 10 years older than the rest of us, and he was drop dead gorgeous. it's really funny cause every girl that knew him wanted to date him yet he was really unattainable...however after a lot of hanging around as friends, i some how got asked out by him and we dated for a bit. i realized that he was gay a few weeks into dating him, and i was kind of surprised that i didn't realize it before, but to my defense, he put on this really straight aura and persona so no one knew. when my mom asked me why we stopped dating, since she knew him for YEARS and thought the world of him, i decided that it wasn't really my place to out him and i just said that there were things about him that just didn't click for me - so that was that.it's almost upsetting when you realize that 2 guys you've dated are gay - but it's not like i turned them gay
lilwildone1202 lilwildone1202 7 years
i dated this guy for two weeks (ok, it was high school and we didnt nothing more but kiss) and turns out he came out of the closest like three-four weeks after we stopped dating.it wasn't like the worst thing ever but of course all my guy friends teased me about it.
356UIK 356UIK 7 years
Not to me.
356UIK 356UIK 7 years
Not to me.
nancita nancita 7 years
No, but it has happened to more friends than I can count.
madelineannem madelineannem 7 years
I dated a guy who is now one of my really close friends, and a week ago he came out. I wasn't too surprised though. It's pretty rare that a guy you date can honestly turn into a good friend.
Designgirl Designgirl 7 years
Oh yes-just ended a 3 year relationship where I found out that he had been cheating all along with men. He still won't admit it-which makes me so sad. He just has one excuse after another for too many suspicious things. I wasn't so much upset at the cheating, but that he lied for so long, and thought I wouldn't still accept him. I hope to be as lucky as some of you guys and have a friendship with him someday.
ntshlv ntshlv 7 years
Yes! My high school boyfriend, the first boy I ever kissed! But it's ok... We only dated for a few months and stayed friends after the break-up. He only came out years later (last year, actually). I thought I'd be upset, but I see how much happier he is now and in a way I'm proud of him. And anyway, I always blamed myself for our breaking up, now it's like, well, if he's gay, there's really nothing I could have done that would have kept us together!
austerity austerity 7 years
No, but I did have a huge crush on someone...one day we were chatting together on Grand Central Station... I was glad to get him alone so maybe we could get closer...and suddenly he uttered a sentence with the words 'my boyfriend' in it. Thank God that happened BEFORE I made a move on him or something. YA. Pretty embarrassing.
skigurl skigurl 7 years
no! but i made out with a guy at a pubcrawl in highschool who is gay now i think it would be a big deal if it was a guy who i dated seriously. i'd just feel weird about it, knowing he was never feeling the same way i felt throughout the relationship.
sparklestar sparklestar 7 years
Yes!! The humilation... We never really dated. I fancied him a lot and we hung out a lot... we were like 15 at the time though so that's as good as dating. ;p He was in total denial until a couple of years later and then he REALLY came out. He now performs as a drag queen at a local gay bar and has performed at my University too!!!!!! Needless to say I didn't go. ;p
jessie jessie 7 years
had a friend who slept with a man who knew he was gay....but he wanted to see one last time to make sure he was gay....he ended up getting her pregnant...so now they have a daughter....but she is married to a great man....and he has a great partner..
baybelle baybelle 7 years
Does it count if we were engaged and he "thought" he might be gay and went off to London to find out if he was, and then came back to say he wasn't? Too bad I dumped his sorry ass somewhere along the way. :-)
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