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Dear Poll: Have You Ever Stayed in a Relationship Out of Fear of Being Alone?

When you fall out of love with someone, doing the right thing and initiating a breakup can be easier said than done. After being in a long-term relationship, you inevitably become attached to the level of comfort and connectedness you've established, so it's no wonder people have such a hard time letting go.

So ladies, even though it's not the most respectable thing to do, tell me, have you ever stayed in a relationship longer than you should have out of fear of being alone?

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dikke-kus dikke-kus 6 years
Yes, guilty. I dragged things out with one guy when I knew things weren't quite on track. I was hoping to meet someone new in the meantime.
calli-gurl calli-gurl 7 years
not at all. thats bullshit. i know that i could get a great guy whenever i want to. i would never be with a guy just because i dont wanna end up alone. thats cheating on myself.
calli-gurl calli-gurl 7 years
not at all. thats bullshit. i know that i could get a great guy whenever i want to. i would never be with a guy just because i dont wanna end up alone. thats cheating on myself.
darkangel2305 darkangel2305 7 years
NO WAY!
darkangel2305 darkangel2305 7 years
NO WAY!
DecemberBaby DecemberBaby 7 years
Is it something totally different and worse to get into a realtionship when the guy really likes you but you don't like, you just get into a relationship because you're tired of being alone. Becuase I've done that.
brown_eyed_grrl brown_eyed_grrl 7 years
BAND. Not ban. I really wish we could edit comments. I've seen that feature on other blogs.
brown_eyed_grrl brown_eyed_grrl 7 years
BAND. Not ban. I really wish we could edit comments. I've seen that feature on other blogs.
brown_eyed_grrl brown_eyed_grrl 7 years
No way. I'm of the "rip the ban-aid off" mentality. I'd rather be alone than miserable with the wrong guy.
dollhouse1 dollhouse1 7 years
co-sign w/ RustyAngel!!
dollhouse1 dollhouse1 7 years
co-sign w/ RustyAngel!!
TidalWave TidalWave 7 years
absolutely.
TidalWave TidalWave 7 years
absolutely.
RustyAngel73 RustyAngel73 7 years
Yes, but not for the reason that he had become my best friend or anything... I hooked up with a guy one night and he assumed we were boyfriend-girlfriend from then on...it lasted 3 months because I was just going along with what he said and it felt better than being alone. Nowdays, I'd rather be happy alone than unhappily attached.
RustyAngel73 RustyAngel73 7 years
Yes, but not for the reason that he had become my best friend or anything...I hooked up with a guy one night and he assumed we were boyfriend-girlfriend from then on...it lasted 3 months because I was just going along with what he said and it felt better than being alone.Nowdays, I'd rather be happy alone than unhappily attached.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 7 years
I've never been in the situation so I can't say if I would or wouldn't. I'd rather be alone than be in a relationship that I know isn't going anywhere. Both my Mom and my SIL (Husband's sister) are in relationships they know aren't right for them but they don't want to end up alone forever. I couldn't do it to myself. I'd feel dirty and used. That being said I'd probably try and rationalize it and say that we were just going through a rough patch. But if I KNEW I didn't want to be with this guy I wouldn't do it anymore. My SIL is in love with my husband's best friend and he likes her too but she won't dump her boyfriend who she knows she doesn't want to be with. It's frustrating. My Mom's boyfriend is totally a waste of space. He's got 5 kids with 3 mothers and he won't get a real job because he doesn't want to pay it all in child support. He does under the table manual labor jobs that aren't reliable. He never has enough money to pay the rent or get my Mom gifts on her birthday or holidays. It's really sad. She's tried to break up with him so many times and she always takes him back because he can't survive on his own and because she's lonely.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 7 years
I've never been in the situation so I can't say if I would or wouldn't. I'd rather be alone than be in a relationship that I know isn't going anywhere. Both my Mom and my SIL (Husband's sister) are in relationships they know aren't right for them but they don't want to end up alone forever. I couldn't do it to myself. I'd feel dirty and used. That being said I'd probably try and rationalize it and say that we were just going through a rough patch. But if I KNEW I didn't want to be with this guy I wouldn't do it anymore. My SIL is in love with my husband's best friend and he likes her too but she won't dump her boyfriend who she knows she doesn't want to be with. It's frustrating. My Mom's boyfriend is totally a waste of space. He's got 5 kids with 3 mothers and he won't get a real job because he doesn't want to pay it all in child support. He does under the table manual labor jobs that aren't reliable. He never has enough money to pay the rent or get my Mom gifts on her birthday or holidays. It's really sad. She's tried to break up with him so many times and she always takes him back because he can't survive on his own and because she's lonely.
radmama27 radmama27 7 years
Yup, guilty
radmama27 radmama27 7 years
Yup, guilty
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 7 years
I think I may have done this once with my current boyfriend because we were very young (senior year of high school) when we started dating. I don't think it was literally a fear of being alone, more like a fear of losing him and making a mistake. I am pretty sure we have been through every bad cliched relationship problem, except cheating and abuse simply because it's our first serious relationship and I guess we practiced on each other. Now we have an absolutely fantastic relationship, but now that I'm more mature, if I were in another relationship and had problems similar to the ones we had in the beginning of our relationship, it would be splitsville!! You do crazy things when you're young, I kind of consider that part of our relationship completely separate from the last three years. :)
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 7 years
I think I may have done this once with my current boyfriend because we were very young (senior year of high school) when we started dating. I don't think it was literally a fear of being alone, more like a fear of losing him and making a mistake. I am pretty sure we have been through every bad cliched relationship problem, except cheating and abuse simply because it's our first serious relationship and I guess we practiced on each other. Now we have an absolutely fantastic relationship, but now that I'm more mature, if I were in another relationship and had problems similar to the ones we had in the beginning of our relationship, it would be splitsville!! You do crazy things when you're young, I kind of consider that part of our relationship completely separate from the last three years. :)
sweetpeabrina sweetpeabrina 7 years
Yep - seems like Sporky and I have a similar story.
Jesi_Oh Jesi_Oh 7 years
Yes but not out of fear of being alone and I only realised in retrospect that I'd fallen out of love. He was definitely my best frend plus he was wonderful, caring loving and we were great together so it's easy to confuse that with love.
xrawk_starrx xrawk_starrx 7 years
No. I have no problem being alone. I'd actually prefer it.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 7 years
No, as being in the relationship was WORSE than being alone. But truthfully, I've been very fortunate in the romance department. I've always gotten offers from men, even when I was unavailable. So was I afraid to leave a bad relationship?? No, when word got out I was single again, men beat a path to my door. One time, no exaggeration, when my then-boyfriend and I broke up, within a week, two men sent me flowers to "lift my spirits." Another man showed up at my office to take me out to lunch. My then ex-boyfriend and I were still in touch, and he laughed at how some men "wasted no time" trying to fill his shoes. Incidently, months later, we reconciled (we had resolved our issue). So in other words, I've never been afraid to leave a bad relationship. I'm not afraid to be alone, though it doesn't last for long.
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