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Dear Poll: Have You Ever Used Your Sexuality to Get Ahead?

Jessica Alba is the cover girl for February's issue of Elle magazine. She talks openly about her career and denies ever using her sexuality to advance it. She was quoted saying:

I think there are ambitious girls who will do anything to be famous, and they think men in this business are used to women doing that. . . . Contrary to how people may feel, I've never used my sexuality. That's not part of it for me. When I'm in a meeting, I want to tell you why I'm an asset, how I'm a commodity, how I can put asses in the seats, not, "There's a chance you're going to be able to f*** me." That's never been my deal.


It seems like Hollywood has its own rules, but in real life it's not out of the question for women to use their sexuality to advance their careers, earn more money, or even get preferential treatment from their male bosses. So what I want to know is,

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onesong onesong 8 years
she seems to be kind of an obnoxious human being, and i agree with those who are saying she's a hypocrite. sorry, but all the half-nekkid magazine shoots show your bosses that you are willing to get sexual to get ahead. yikes.
tashspice tashspice 8 years
j. alba is full of shit. sure, she can put asses in the seats but how does she do that? by using her sexuality. you think people buy her cover magazines or see her movies because of her talent? pshh no way.
tashspice tashspice 8 years
j. alba is full of shit. sure, she can put asses in the seats but how does she do that? by using her sexuality. you think people buy her cover magazines or see her movies because of her talent? pshh no way.
mirawilliams mirawilliams 8 years
Hey Jessica, the kettle and pot are calling your name. Hm... I think I got hired for my first job because I was my boss' type. Nothing happened and I wasn't upset when I found out because I had the skills and education behind me. Plus I wore jeans and sloppy t-shirts to work. Not exactly sexy wear.
mirawilliams mirawilliams 8 years
Hey Jessica, the kettle and pot are calling your name. Hm... I think I got hired for my first job because I was my boss' type. Nothing happened and I wasn't upset when I found out because I had the skills and education behind me. Plus I wore jeans and sloppy t-shirts to work. Not exactly sexy wear.
jmeyer jmeyer 8 years
I believe, as do nearly all of the posters, that Alba is a complete liar. She is an actress. I believe that there are actresses who have not used their sexuality to get ahead, however Alba is not one of them. Posing half naked on magazine covers is using her sexuality to gain coverage in the media, which is a part of her job!I personally have not used my sexuality to get ahead, nor will I ever. When I make it in the business world no one would dare say she got that job because she sleeps with the boss or because flirts with the clients. I believe that women who use their sexuality to get ahead are ruining it for the rest of us. It is possible to be ambitious and still have limitations on that. And I disagree with the previous poster. Going to work with your hair looking good, and buying a suit that looks good on you is not using your sexuality. Buying a suit that is too tight on your behind or is low cut so your cleavage hangs out - that is using your sexuality. To truly compete with men in the workplace, you have to do it with your intelligence, your creativity, your ambition, and your work ethic. By using your sexuality you are cheapening yourself.
jmeyer jmeyer 8 years
I believe, as do nearly all of the posters, that Alba is a complete liar. She is an actress. I believe that there are actresses who have not used their sexuality to get ahead, however Alba is not one of them. Posing half naked on magazine covers is using her sexuality to gain coverage in the media, which is a part of her job! I personally have not used my sexuality to get ahead, nor will I ever. When I make it in the business world no one would dare say she got that job because she sleeps with the boss or because flirts with the clients. I believe that women who use their sexuality to get ahead are ruining it for the rest of us. It is possible to be ambitious and still have limitations on that. And I disagree with the previous poster. Going to work with your hair looking good, and buying a suit that looks good on you is not using your sexuality. Buying a suit that is too tight on your behind or is low cut so your cleavage hangs out - that is using your sexuality. To truly compete with men in the workplace, you have to do it with your intelligence, your creativity, your ambition, and your work ethic. By using your sexuality you are cheapening yourself.
Amorinthe Amorinthe 8 years
I think that every woman has done it at some point - and lets get real, using your sexuality does not mean SEX. It can be smiling the right way to disarm someone, or a laugh or whatever. Men will use every trick and tool they have to get what they want, that's why they make more and advance faster than women do. Having your hair look amazing, and buying a flattering new suit for an interview, those are using your sexuality, and there is nothing wrong with it.
Amorinthe Amorinthe 8 years
I think that every woman has done it at some point - and lets get real, using your sexuality does not mean SEX. It can be smiling the right way to disarm someone, or a laugh or whatever. Men will use every trick and tool they have to get what they want, that's why they make more and advance faster than women do. Having your hair look amazing, and buying a flattering new suit for an interview, those are using your sexuality, and there is nothing wrong with it.
annebreal annebreal 8 years
Not only do I think it was a hypocritical statement, but I think that was Alba outing how dumb she is. What most of you guys is saying is sexuality, she meant just straight up casting couch stuff. Have you ever f*cked someone to get ahead would be the question if you went off what she said.
brookrene brookrene 8 years
Of course, but not if I have a serious boyfriend. Then that's WAY overstepping.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 8 years
No, I've never used my sexuality because I'm pretty sure it would backfire on me. I agree with nicachica on her opinion of Jessica Alba, she seems like a totally fake bitch.
Bubbliegummblie Bubbliegummblie 8 years
I think she is very pretty and I'm sure she is a lovely person. But thats such a blatent lie - look at every single movie role she has ever had. Her ass was one of the key promotional tools for In to the blue
Bubbliegummblie Bubbliegummblie 8 years
I think she is very pretty and I'm sure she is a lovely person. But thats such a blatent lie - look at every single movie role she has ever had. Her ass was one of the key promotional tools for In to the blue
Asia84 Asia84 8 years
jessica alba is a dip-stick. she thinks she's too much . . .i can't believe Miss My-Sh*t-Don't-Stink is knocked up.
Asia84 Asia84 8 years
I would never screw my way up, (most men in the fashion industry are gay anyways), but unfortunately your looks and personal style gets you your job. example: Neiman Marcus Buyer position Girl "A" is nice,and has a degree and 7 years experience with buying. but she's average looking and dresses kinda boring. Girl "B" is nice, has the degree 5 years exp. with buying, and looks like she's ready to grace a Hollywood and Highland bilboard. they are gonna pick girl B. but in fashion you wouldn't get too far just by sucking d**k. you gotta have the goods too. it's VERY competitive, so i'm not against winkin, and doing a little brown nosing if it means i'm gonna get paid 10 dollars more and hour.
Asia84 Asia84 8 years
I would never screw my way up, (most men in the fashion industry are gay anyways), but unfortunately your looks and personal style gets you your job.example:Neiman Marcus Buyer positionGirl "A" is nice,and has a degree and 7 years experience with buying. but she's average looking and dresses kinda boring.Girl "B" is nice, has the degree 5 years exp. with buying, and looks like she's ready to grace a Hollywood and Highland bilboard.they are gonna pick girl B.but in fashion you wouldn't get too far just by sucking d**k. you gotta have the goods too.it's VERY competitive, so i'm not against winkin, and doing a little brown nosing if it means i'm gonna get paid 10 dollars more and hour.
michelle-c42934 michelle-c42934 8 years
I'm not really sure if I have or not, I haven't really needed to get ahead yet as I'm still young. But at uni I do flirt with my lecturers a little when I talk with them and especially during one on one oral presentations. Not in a particularly sexual way, but making them laugh, giving them a flirty smile, I think helps everyone relax, therefore a better delivery of my presentation and better mark. But overt sexual behaviour would be very inappropriate indeed.
MandyJoBo MandyJoBo 8 years
I picked "other" because I may have inadvertently used my sexuality to get ahead. I don't work, so it wouldn't have been career-wise, but just ahead in general. I haven't ever flirted on purpose to get anything, but I have been told after the fact that I have gotten something because so & so found me sexy.
thewriter thewriter 8 years
I agree with the earlier comment. I happened upon some of those shots of her posing nearly nude in mens' magazines as well. I have to be honest and say that they were so "racy' I could hardly believe it was her. Funny thing is they were not shot that long ago, so she can't say that she isn't still doing it. We have to be honest with ourselves at some point.
thewriter thewriter 8 years
I agree with the earlier comment. I happened upon some of those shots of her posing nearly nude in mens' magazines as well. I have to be honest and say that they were so "racy' I could hardly believe it was her. Funny thing is they were not shot that long ago, so she can't say that she isn't still doing it.We have to be honest with ourselves at some point.
omilawd omilawd 8 years
HAH, no I have not, and I never will. If people want to treat me differently just because they think they can get in my pants, I don't even want what they're offering.
kimberley kimberley 8 years
I think there is a difference in using your assets, your photos, your image, etc to promote yourself to the consumer audience, which is what she did in her interview/photoshoot for Elle, and to use her sexuality to acquire work, which is what she says she does not do in the interview excerpt.
juliemyjewel juliemyjewel 8 years
This bitch really needs to get over herself. Does she talk about anything but herself? Jesus!
juliemyjewel juliemyjewel 8 years
This bitch really needs to get over herself. Does she talk about anything but herself? Jesus!
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