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Dear Poll: Were Women Portrayed Fairly in He's Just Not That Into You?

Dear Poll: Were Women Portrayed Fairly in He's Just Not That Into You?

As you all know, I'm on a huge He's Just Not That Into You high, and now that you've gotten a chance to see the movie too, I've got to ask your opinion on the way women were portrayed in the film. While Gigi was completely over the top in her quest to meet someone and have a successful relationship, the reality is that some women really do behave that way! But since her obsessiveness is definitely not the norm, do you think it was unfair to make such a desperate woman the main character in a movie about love and dating?

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pixelhaze pixelhaze 7 years
::SPOILERS AHEAD!!!! DONT READ IF YOU HAVEN'T SEEN THE MOVIE!!!!!:: . . . . I actually thought Jennifer Connelly seemed crazier than GG. That conversation with her architect? weeeeeird. And Drew Barrymore and Scarlett Johansson's characters straight up pissed me off. It's one thing to be a little needy, it's another to encourage your friend to break up a marriage. And still another to actually do it. If anything, those two gave women a bad name. GG was over the top, but sweet and a nice girl.
pixelhaze pixelhaze 7 years
::SPOILERS AHEAD!!!! DONT READ IF YOU HAVEN'T SEEN THE MOVIE!!!!!::....I actually thought Jennifer Connelly seemed crazier than GG. That conversation with her architect? weeeeeird. And Drew Barrymore and Scarlett Johansson's characters straight up pissed me off. It's one thing to be a little needy, it's another to encourage your friend to break up a marriage. And still another to actually do it. If anything, those two gave women a bad name. GG was over the top, but sweet and a nice girl.
boringgrownup boringgrownup 7 years
fairly? not unless most of your friends are desperate and psychotic. favorably? definitely not. i thought the most realistic person was beth (jennifer aniston) because although not all women are waiting 7 years for a marriage proposal, many women put up with stuff they don't want because they don't want to look needy or psychotic (all the other characters kind of didn't put up with it - like gigi exploded at that one guy, etc) and she somehow gets rewarded for that. i wish the message of the movie was more 'demand what you want' rather than 'try really hard and maybe that guy will find you.'
mack2600 mack2600 7 years
i saw the movie ... i left feeling relatively indifferent; it was adequate. but never in my life have i met nor rubbed elbows with ANYONE even minutely embodying the extremity that was the character "gigi" -- i'm not sure who some of you associate with who claim there are women out there like her, but she was portrayed as borderline psychotic if you ask me. i couldn't believe how pathetic all the women seemed as i was watching the movie, it was unusual how they were being portrayed. the only problem is that i've always been told i have a man-mentality, i especially hate the drama and theatrics that most of my girlfriends seem to bring to their relationships. so throughout the movie i didn't really find a personal connection with any of the female character's story lines. this isn't to say that some of gigi's behavior isn't normal -- one of my roommates makes me drive by her ex(ish)-boyfriend's house whenever we've been out together and are driving back to the house. and we're all guilty of checking our cell phones often, i'm sure. however, the level the screen writers took it to was indeed meant to hit a comedic note but left a bad taste in my mouth.
JenDeck711 JenDeck711 7 years
I totally echo Abbigail's sentiments. We've all had "moments" like Gigi, and I think the writers just rolled all of them into her character.
candace87 candace87 7 years
The book is an actual self help book. I don't think its meant to be funny. To my knowledge the book and the movie are hardly related - sure, same message and lessons and all, but the book isn't a novel. It doesn't have these characters in it and all that.
Abbigail Abbigail 7 years
I liked the movie. She was definitely over the top and I do have a few friends that have Gigi-esque moments at time. I think they had to make the character over the top to make their point. I think maybe some of her dialogue may just be our inner dialogue that we know is too ridiculous to actually verbalize.
crayolasky crayolasky 7 years
I don't plan on seeing the movie as I'm not a fan of the book(s).
HoneyBrown1976 HoneyBrown1976 7 years
I would like to see more movies with strong women, not the commercialization of dip shit little girls. Where are they? I wish I could say it's just a movie. But, nowadays, some girls are actually aspiring to act and live stupid. That's an issue that needs discussion.
Chrstne Chrstne 7 years
I won't see the movie. I have read the book, even though I was in a relationship and perfectly happy. Friends read it and said it was amusing. Indeed the book was amusing. I DO think that some women need to read that book just as a reality check -- you don't have to spend your time waiting for a guy to call, or waiting for a guy to come along, or whatever else and be desperate about it. It's not a self-help book, but it's a book that might get some women back to reality and not just waiting around. It's pretty obvious -- he doesn't call again, you never go out on another date, he stands you up, he breaks up with you after a month, he doesn't want to get serious and wants to date everyone on the planet -- it's OBVIOUS that he's just not that into you. I think all the women who are at home right now crying over the "perfect" guy she met two weeks ago and hasn't heard from since (there are some out there who are doing just this) can get over it, and move on with her life.But, in the same respect...a guy will come along eventually. You just don't have to sit around and fret over random guys, because the one who really wants to be with you WILL be with you, no hesitation, no waiting for 2 months, it will be no BS. Anyway, I won't see the movie only because it's too...stupid. A bunch of women desperate to find love and live happily ever after while being completely crazy about all of it? Pass.
Chrstne Chrstne 7 years
I won't see the movie. I have read the book, even though I was in a relationship and perfectly happy. Friends read it and said it was amusing. Indeed the book was amusing. I DO think that some women need to read that book just as a reality check -- you don't have to spend your time waiting for a guy to call, or waiting for a guy to come along, or whatever else and be desperate about it. It's not a self-help book, but it's a book that might get some women back to reality and not just waiting around. It's pretty obvious -- he doesn't call again, you never go out on another date, he stands you up, he breaks up with you after a month, he doesn't want to get serious and wants to date everyone on the planet -- it's OBVIOUS that he's just not that into you. I think all the women who are at home right now crying over the "perfect" guy she met two weeks ago and hasn't heard from since (there are some out there who are doing just this) can get over it, and move on with her life. But, in the same respect...a guy will come along eventually. You just don't have to sit around and fret over random guys, because the one who really wants to be with you WILL be with you, no hesitation, no waiting for 2 months, it will be no BS. Anyway, I won't see the movie only because it's too...stupid. A bunch of women desperate to find love and live happily ever after while being completely crazy about all of it? Pass.
kagreda123 kagreda123 7 years
It's just a movie! I liked it, it was silly and cute and although I don't think all women are like Gigi, I believe that some are and I also don't think there is anything wrong with that. The movie has a good message about her craziness, I mean she is just trying to find someone. It's legit to me.
kagreda123 kagreda123 7 years
It's just a movie! I liked it, it was silly and cute and although I don't think all women are like Gigi, I believe that some are and I also don't think there is anything wrong with that. The movie has a good message about her craziness, I mean she is just trying to find someone. It's legit to me.
Red315 Red315 7 years
I read the book and yes, it's humorous but I haven't seen the movie YET! but I will. I'm sorry but it looks cute and fun and newsflash it is just a movie so all of y'all who are so bent out of shape about it not portraying strong confident women get over it! maybe it's not like YOU but it's a lot like many other women who maybe aren't as independent as you so stop whining about it!
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 7 years
I imagine that alot of women are like Gigi. Hell, some of the group therapy, etc. posts show that.
princess_eab princess_eab 7 years
The whole idea of this movie makes me want to throw up - I'm sorry, I can't imagine how a single thing about it is positive for women AT ALL, let alone one single character. blech.
Jude-C Jude-C 7 years
I don't like these kinds of movies generally, so won't be seeing it unless I'm dragged, but I have to say that I found just the trailer pretty embarrassing for women. Waiting around for men to call, trying to get men to propose... :OY:
designerel designerel 7 years
Haven't read the book-- is it worth a read?
ThePerfectScore ThePerfectScore 7 years
I think GiGi was the only ridiculous one. The rest of the girls in the movie weren't psycho. I loved the movie over all.
Myst Myst 7 years
Read the book but refused to see the movie. RomCom just aren't my thing so I really wouldn't know
cfp cfp 7 years
Ironically, I found that I was really able to relate to Gigi. Like her character, I go out on a lot of dates (though unlike her I'm not desperate to meet someone)...and then even if all goes well they'll tell me what a great time they had and would I like to get together again. I say of course and then they disappear and I never hear from them again. So I understand her frustration and the desire to take out all of that frustration on the next guy you date (so I was particularly amused by the scene where she goes a little crazy on one guy she meets at happy hour trying to arrange if/when he will actually call her). I have definitely had my own crazy moments, as well...so I really think that other than a few moments where she was literally just out of this world insane that she's a lot truer to reality than a lot of women probably want to admit.I feel like A LOT of women behave in this way a lot of the time (more than just myself)...and they don't even realize that they're doing it. But when they take a step back and see someone else like Gigi doing exactly what they do they see how ridiculous it is...but instead of making the connection to their own behavior they are literally asking out loud "who would act that way?!" No woman wants to admit that is Gigi or has been Gigi, but I guarantee you, most of us (if not all of us) have been her at one point or another.
cfp cfp 7 years
Ironically, I found that I was really able to relate to Gigi. Like her character, I go out on a lot of dates (though unlike her I'm not desperate to meet someone)...and then even if all goes well they'll tell me what a great time they had and would I like to get together again. I say of course and then they disappear and I never hear from them again. So I understand her frustration and the desire to take out all of that frustration on the next guy you date (so I was particularly amused by the scene where she goes a little crazy on one guy she meets at happy hour trying to arrange if/when he will actually call her). I have definitely had my own crazy moments, as well...so I really think that other than a few moments where she was literally just out of this world insane that she's a lot truer to reality than a lot of women probably want to admit. I feel like A LOT of women behave in this way a lot of the time (more than just myself)...and they don't even realize that they're doing it. But when they take a step back and see someone else like Gigi doing exactly what they do they see how ridiculous it is...but instead of making the connection to their own behavior they are literally asking out loud "who would act that way?!" No woman wants to admit that is Gigi or has been Gigi, but I guarantee you, most of us (if not all of us) have been her at one point or another.
candace87 candace87 7 years
I think the options are wrong, are women portrayed fairly - YES should be "I know women like Gigi" and NO should be 'I thought Gigi made women look rediculous" So, I haven't voted in the poll yet because they dont make sense but, I do think women were portrayed fairly. Its a movie about desperate women, not about strong, confident women. So these women were supposed to be like that. Many women act like them in real life though. I know someone who would definitely do the things Gigi does, maybe less extreme though. Also, I know women who would not be angry but would blame themselves if their man cheated.
candace87 candace87 7 years
I think the options are wrong, are women portrayed fairly - YES should be "I know women like Gigi" and NO should be 'I thought Gigi made women look rediculous"So, I haven't voted in the poll yet because they dont make sense but, I do think women were portrayed fairly. Its a movie about desperate women, not about strong, confident women. So these women were supposed to be like that. Many women act like them in real life though. I know someone who would definitely do the things Gigi does, maybe less extreme though. Also, I know women who would not be angry but would blame themselves if their man cheated.
mamasitamalita mamasitamalita 7 years
the original book had some funny advice if you took it as a comedy book -- if someone really used this as a self-help guide, I'd feel sad for them. I absolutely will not see this movie because I can already tell its another flick about beautiful, smart, successful women who are miserable without a man and their quest is to find one. makes me sick. thank you Hollywood once again.
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