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Dear Poll: Would you Want the Higher Number?

Jealousy, especially when it comes to ex boyfriends or girlfriends can wreak havoc on your relationship. A common yet incredibly touchy question new couples often ask each other is, "How many people have you had sex with?" While it is important to know each other's sexual history (for safety purposes) it's a pretty loaded question that can easily create unnecessary trust issues or cause personal insecurities. While I happen to feel the question should be avoided altogether, ladies, tell me, would you rather have a higher number of sexual partners than your boyfriend, or would you want him to have more notches on the bed post?

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calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
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calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
we are each others first and im proud of it i would hate to be a cheap little slut and cheap around with just anyone
calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
we are each others firstand im proud of iti would hate to be a cheap little slut and cheap around with just anyone
renaimarie renaimarie 9 years
I love having a higher number, but at the same time it isn't really a big deal either way.
melda melda 9 years
i have the higher number and i regret
nefertiti nefertiti 9 years
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years and we were the firsts for each other, so we've only each had one sex partner. It's kinda special actually. =)
SexyNeverLeft78 SexyNeverLeft78 9 years
When I met my husband and we started a relationship (8 yrs ago), we talked about numbers. He's a few years older than me, so I expected his number to be higher. However there was no way in hell I was going to tell him my real number (which is equally high), are you crazy? I said 8, including him, and will take that number to my grave HAHA. We both were tested before we went without protection and to me, that is more important. You can sleep with 1 person and catch a STD, so in the scheme of things numbers are irrelevant. However, my personal preference is that each partner has a few notches on their belt so they know what they are doing. I can't stand teaching a man what to do(unless he's a virgin) LMAO
SexyNeverLeft78 SexyNeverLeft78 9 years
When I met my husband and we started a relationship (8 yrs ago), we talked about numbers. He's a few years older than me, so I expected his number to be higher. However there was no way in hell I was going to tell him my real number (which is equally high), are you crazy? I said 8, including him, and will take that number to my grave HAHA. We both were tested before we went without protection and to me, that is more important. You can sleep with 1 person and catch a STD, so in the scheme of things numbers are irrelevant. However, my personal preference is that each partner has a few notches on their belt so they know what they are doing. I can't stand teaching a man what to do(unless he's a virgin) LMAO
Le-Luxe Le-Luxe 9 years
I have never asked- and I DO wonder sometimes....but i would rather not know. I just pretend its lower than me- haha.
vanyvrgs vanyvrgs 9 years
Why would it matter?
vanyvrgs vanyvrgs 9 years
Why would it matter?
zc zc 9 years
i dont think it should matter
zc zc 9 years
i dont think it should matter
pink_magnetism pink_magnetism 9 years
I don't like to know, or to tell. I think it can cause more drama then it's worth, and there's no guarantee it's even the real number. All I need to know is that he's clean and that he's faithful to me.
Deba Deba 9 years
I was shocked when he told me his number... so yes, I would have wanted a bigger number
lickety-split lickety-split 9 years
who cares? unless they hadn't been practicing safe sex or if there were an excessive number of partners (outside my comfort level) it would make zero difference. i'd be more interested in knowing the number of meaningful relationships he had and if he had been faithful when that was the understanding of the woman.
maggieNZ maggieNZ 9 years
I prefer if the number is about the same. It doesnt matter who has more. I think as people have mentioned, when there is a big disparity (especially if one was previously a virgin) this can create quite a few problems. But it also depends on his attitude towards his past, I was with a guy who was prety insecure and thought each drunken one night stand somehow made him manlier. Ugh.
paulinhadrp paulinhadrp 9 years
My bf is my first (and hopefully only), and he is WAY more experienced than me, and that sometimes is a BIG problem, since he is still friend with most of the girls he dated/had sex with, and I tend to freak out about it. I really wish he was a virgin and I was his first sometimes.
paulinhadrp paulinhadrp 9 years
My bf is my first (and hopefully only), and he is WAY more experienced than me, and that sometimes is a BIG problem, since he is still friend with most of the girls he dated/had sex with, and I tend to freak out about it.I really wish he was a virgin and I was his first sometimes.
millarci millarci 9 years
Personally, I'd rather not know. As long as he doesn't give me the 'gift that keeps giving'. I'm fine. The past is the past.
demeter demeter 9 years
I'd rather us be the same but that's not likely.
JustMe21 JustMe21 9 years
I guess it doesn't matter. He has WAY more than me and it used to bother me. Not so much anymore but it really used to bring me down!
Random2 Random2 9 years
This was a little odd with us. My guy was my first, which surprised him when he found out. I know he's had sexual relationships in the past, but I haven't really asked and I don't really care. I know about one of his exes (I've actually met her a few times), and all he told me about her was that her ideas of a sexual relationship were way different than his. This was a little more than I really needed to know.
Marci Marci 9 years
I am actually not a believer in sharing the actual numbers. Who needs specifics? But that being said, my boyfriend was a MAJOR player; a really good looking actor, artist who treated every woman nicely no matter how casual the realtionship. The girls threw themselves at him and he was happy to take what came his way. So his number FAR exceeds mine, and I'm alright with that.
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