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Dear Poll: Are You Traditional or Contemporary

I've been telling you for a while now how traditional I am in almost every aspect of my life, especially when it comes to dating. It's not that I'm conservative, I just like classic, timeless traditions. While I'm all for experimentation and thinking outside the box, I'll always be that girl who likes a man to open the door for me and thinks the man should pay on the first date. I know not all of you think the same way so tell me, do you consider yourself traditional or more contemporary?

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italianblonde italianblonde 7 years
I'm traditional with everything!!! I like it that way.
ilovecandyfloss ilovecandyfloss 7 years
I guess I'm somewhat traditional. My fiance is VERY traditional, he hates it if I try to pay. He opens doors and carries me over the grass so I don't get my heels dirty - I don't mind, he likes it :) I don't cook or clean though - he does that too! That's funny, I always thought it was the woman's role to sort out the finances. Traditionally, that's whats happened in my family through every generation - the guy gives the money he earns to the woman, and she deals with all the bills and household upkeep. Huh... What the hell does my dad do then??? But then again, we've always had a housekeeper, so she doesn't have to cook and clean.
RoyalBlueMoss RoyalBlueMoss 7 years
Hate it when men open doors for me, pay for everything, buy me flowers and all that junk. I'm most likely not in the majority, I know. I'd like to just live with a man for the rest of my life and not get married or have children.
Meike Meike 7 years
Somewhere in the middle. We go Dutch on everything. He loves to cook me dinner. I love to cook him dinner. He always holds the door for me and carries our grocery bags. We clean together. Polite and considerate behaviors are reciprocated both ways. He is a modern gentleman.
kmh5424 kmh5424 7 years
I am actually a little bit of both, I am a single mommy and I fell into the mode of always doing things for myself (even when I was with my son's dad, he never did much to contribute, well, anything). My bf now ALWAYS pays when we go out somewhere, for hotels, for little stuff if we are out shopping, etc. I feel really bad about it sometimes but he is very tradtional and would get offended if I tried to pay for that stuff, so in return, I clean up around his house when I spend the night, I help him with his clothes (matching them), picking out stuff for his daughters, I make dinner on occasion and make him desserts or stuff just because.
ninjastarlett ninjastarlett 7 years
Definitely somewhere in the middle... it's hard to describe.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 7 years
I hate having the door opened for me. I'd rather do it myself or have him go in ahead of me and hold it so I can grab on and keep it open. I'm not a fan of the man paying for everything. I'm not happy wit formal dating all the time. I'd rather just have fun and not worry about dating or the rules.
jillerin457 jillerin457 7 years
I'm so in the middle. I actually love to cook, clean, do laundry, go grocery shopping, etc., but like GlowingMoon, I'm the finance person. (Probably bc of my master's degree in Financial Planning!) My guy is definitely the bigger breadwinner, and he likes to take me out to nice dinners, buy me pretty clothes, etc., so I am more than happy to reciprocate with housework and chores. He's not very organized on his own, so even though he has plenty of money, it's kind of on me to make sure his bills get paid. The one thing I'm really NOT traditional on is kids. Pregnancy and babies gross me out (always have), and I get really turned off by guys who expect me to bear their seed. It's such a caveman attitude and i hate it. There are other things I want in life than just being a "mommy."
kurniakasih kurniakasih 7 years
I'm traditional when it comes to dating. But when it comes to my marriage, I'm more in the middle. :p
californiagirlx7 californiagirlx7 7 years
I am very traditional, I think I'm a lot like Charlotte from Sex and the City. But I don't want a guy to be over-the-top all the time, like opening EVERY door for me.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 7 years
I'm with Austerity. When it comes to my role as wife, I like to be treated traditionally. In return, I treat my husband traditionally -- meal is on the table, our home is clean, etc. On a contemporary note, I handle most of our personal finances. I make our investment decisions, do our taxes, do our bookkeeping, etc. I fancy myself a traditional woman with a head for business.
leeluvfashion leeluvfashion 7 years
In the middle. I would rather open the door yet I would like him to pull out my chair. I have no issue with splitting the bill he just has to make that clear when he asks me. I do not want to be the one always cooking and cleaning, so he has to be willing to help or if he enjoys such things, that is wonderful (as long as his version of cleaning isn't just throwing everything in the closet,lol.) My views fall in the middle of traditional and contemporary.
divinedebris divinedebris 7 years
I'm not sure, honestly, we just do what comes naturally. My husband works a lot more than I do, but I love to cook so I do. We just do whatever, we don't think about traditional or not. ---I guess we do kinda play into traditional roles but it's not on purpose.
sunnyheart sunnyheart 7 years
I am traditional, but I love a modern man who wants to help out. My favorite is a man who can't cook worth a damn so he's always appreciative of my dinners and wants to help out by doing the dishes. A man who can do dishes like a champ always wins my heart--I'll give up having the door held open for me if he doesn't expect me to cook AND clean.
jennjennnbubba jennjennnbubba 7 years
more traditional, a little contemporary
leetlehales leetlehales 7 years
i was raised that a guy should wine and dine you, but why can't you wine and dine a guy? last night i took the guy i'm dating out to dinner. i picked him up, went to a nice place, and paid! we've only been dating for 2 months and i can't afford to do this all the time, but it felt nice to treat him to something special-- i know he really appreciated it, too.
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 7 years
before i got married, i was all "everything needs to be done equally, blah blah" and i didnt know how to cook and my husband did. so there was definitely some equality when it came to housework. but i found myself involuntarily striving to learn how to cook, i wanted to be the "whole package". and i did learn and im so traditional now it makes my friends' and family's jaws drop :P but i like it :)
Frank-y-Ava Frank-y-Ava 7 years
I went on a date with this loser guy, and he didn't open the door I had to tell him and I had to pay for my ticket. LAME, I've been avoiding him ever since.
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 7 years
I'm very very modern, but many of the things that are mentioned here, opening doors, especially are just considered good manners and being polite, I don't get what that has to do with being "contemporary" or "traditional." Just because I have a more progressive view of gender roles doesn't mean I'm expecting anyone to let a door slam in my face. Likewise, no matter how modern I am, it would be very rude for me to allow a door to slam in someone's face! Also, if you invite someone on a date, you should pay, or if you've been dating a while, agree to go dutch. I earn just as much money as my fiance does, it would be insane to expect him to pay for everything. We also both cook for each other because it's practical and we love each other. Someone on this site (not this post) mentioned she had the $$ and her bf didn't, so she had a special credit card for him that drew from her bank account so he would feel like he was paying!! I mean, you really have to start questioning your traditions when it comes to that I'd say!
mnp mnp 7 years
I'm somewhere in the middle. I like the guy to open doors for me, pay for dinner but I don't mind opening my own doors and paying for our dinners. I'm also more than happy to cook and have dinner ready but the guy better be ready to do the dishes afterwards. I like things to be done equally and if there is anything he can't do, I fill in that gap.
bigestivediscuit bigestivediscuit 7 years
I fall somewhere in the middle ... my bf actually does most of the cooking and cleaning and I do the ... erm ... hmm ... what do I contribute to our relationship?? Anyways, while it's nice for him to take me out to dinner once in a while, we do things pretty equally/proportionally and I wouldn't want it any other way.
pinkprincess1101 pinkprincess1101 7 years
After three in a half years he is still very traditional, pays for almost all dinners lunches breakfasts, open doors, pull out chairs, flowers whether it be fom the yard or bought at a flower shop, always a kiss in the morning and before bed even if we had had an arguement, btw we do live together we have for three years, I think I should also return the favor of being traditional, I'm just more modern, he understands and this works for us
ally14 ally14 7 years
I'm like you Dearsugar too:D I am very traditional and classy and I like keeping to traditions:)
austerity austerity 7 years
Very, very traditional like you Dear :) But I give traditional values in return; I like to have dinner ready for my man, I don't mind doing the cleaning, etc. etc.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 7 years
I'm a classy girl - I like classy things! I like to be treated good from my man...but I like to treat him good too :)
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