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DearSugar Needs Your Help: Her Mr. Perfect Has a Girlfriend!

DearSugar and I Want Him Wendy need your help. She thinks she's found her dream guy but he's unfortunately not available. She doesn't want to break them up, but at the same time, she thinks they could really have something. What should she do?

Dear Sugar,

I started a new job a few months ago and I met the "perfect guy." He's super cute, smart, witty, talented — in short, he's everything I've ever wanted in a guy. So what's the problem? He already has a girlfriend! I'm not sure exactly how long they've been together, but she lives in another state and is planning on moving here to be with him right after she finishes graduate school, so I assume it's pretty serious.

We get along great and we've become pretty good friends in just a couple of months. We hang out after work, just the two of us, a couple times a week and we have great conversations. So what do I do? I actually met the girlfriend once and she seems pretty cool. I don't want to break up a happy couple, but I also think we could potentially have something amazing together and I just want a chance! Should I just keep being friendly with him and see what happens? Should I tell him I'm, interested? Should I make a move? I'm really confused and need some advice.


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