DearSugar and In the Dumps Daria need your help. She's struggling with depression and is having a hard time meeting someone special. I offer my advice on how to meet men all the time, but what works for you? Hopefully hearing your success stories will help keep Daria's spirits high so she can break free from her relationship slump.
I'm a 26-year-old woman who has been battling with serious depression for three years. I'm on medication and see a therapist regularly, and I have thankfully noticed an improvement in the last year. I feel in control of my emotions and am more hopeful about the future.
The one thing that really hasn't gotten better is my personal life. I haven't had a serious boyfriend in almost four years, and my feelings of loneliness really exacerbate my depression. I've tried dating but I just haven't found anyone compatible, and what's worse is that I go through periods of extreme discouragement. It's a terrible cycle — the depression makes it hard to meet someone, and meeting the wrong someone (or no one) makes my depression worse. Plus four long years of single life has made me fear being alone forever. I don't have low self-esteem, so how can I get myself out of this relationship slump? — In the Dumps Daria