DearSugar and Freaking Out Frankie need your help. She's always had a gut feeling that her boyfriend was gay and she's worried that her worst nightmare has just come true. So is her boyfriend gay? Weigh in and give Frankie some advice.
I have been dating my boyfriend for almost two years. I recently came across a gay DVD (it also featured a fetish of his that we now share together) at his place. He is well groomed, liked by many people, he lights up a room and loves flattery. He is well known in the community and is very successful. As you can tell, he's a great guy and I care for him very much, but about a year after dating I began to have this hunch about his sexual orientation. Blinded by love, I pushed it out of my head until yesterday when I found this DVD and my suspicions grew. My feelings are not of betrayal, but of sorrow for him. The DVD is old, dusty, and under things that have been sitting there for awhile so could this have been something he was experimenting with when he was younger? If so, then why hold onto the DVD? Things are so great with us and I don't want anything to change. I am thinking of keeping my mouth shut, but is that a bad idea?