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DearSugar Needs Your Help: Should I Tell My Friend the Truth?

DearSugar and Stuck In a Hard Place Heidi need your help. Her best friend recently broke up with her boyfriend, and Heidi learned through a mutual friend that he had cheated on her while they were still together. She's beyond upset with him but doesn't know what to do. Should she tell her friend? Should she confront him? If you've ever been in a situation like this, please give her some advice!

Dear Sugar,

My best friend recently broke up with her boyfriend of two years. For almost their entire relationship, she wasn't 100 percent convinced that he was her ultimate true love, but he loved her and she just knew that he'd be a great husband and an even better father. She realized that she was only staying with him out of fear of being alone so she finally did the right thing and ended it. She's obviously upset, but handling it pretty well.

This past weekend I was at a wedding, and a mutual friend told me that her ex had cheated on her when they were still together with a girl we both know from growing up. I'm just as upset for her as if it happened to me, and I don't know what to do. This girl happens to be very promiscuous so I'm seriously worried that he could have caught an STI from her and unknowingly passed it to my friend. She's always suffered from extremely low self-esteem so if I told her he cheated, especially with this specific girl, she'd be devastated. I know that what she doesn't know won't kill her, but I just feel like I'm being dishonest. What should I do?


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