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DearSugar Needs your Help: Tactless Guests are the Worst!

Dear Sugar and Manner-less Margret need your help. What is the hostess to do when uninvited guests show up to a party unannounced?


I am hostessing a shower for a friend and have sent out invitations. Two of the guests are bringing additional guests with them that I had not planned for, or invited. I am offended because they did not ask my permission but just simply stated they were bringing them. I thought that was a big no no?! Now I am beyond stressed because I do not even know these people and will not have enough wine glasses, favors, food, etc... and my home is very small. Plus, they informed me of this only four days before the shower. I am sure they assume the guest of honor will not mind (which she won't) but what about ME, the person who is providing the money, time and home for this event? Their lack of manners caught me so off guard that I was left speechless -- is there anything I can do or say or is it too late?

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