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DearSugar's Venting Machine: Coffee Shop Showdown

DearSugar's Venting Machine: Coffee Shop Showdown

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While waiting to order my morning cup of joe in a busy, neighborhood coffee shop, I was roughly interrupted by the woman next to me, who presumed I had cut her in line. I immediately apologized, explaining how confusing the lines were, and insisted she go ahead of me. Her only response was to roll her eyes and sigh with disgust. It can make me a little crazy when an honest apology for an honest mistake isn't enough, especially before the first cup of coffee.

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Callis-mama Callis-mama 9 years
I'm a mom, I work fulltime at a small law firm with one other secretary. When she is in "a mood" the whole office feels it and the day just somehow changes from a regular working day to a "tip toe so no one pisses her off more" day. To top it off I have a husband who believes that life shouldn't be hard so he bitches about everything from doing a load of laundry to running dishes through a dish washer to paying for daycare, you get the idea. The only perfect joy is my child so at least I have that. I go from one pain in the patooty to another on a daily baisis and I'm tired of the crabby attitudes.....GET OVER YOURSELVES PEOPLE!
Fantasia1 Fantasia1 9 years
i wish i can vent:( i alwasy keep things inside and it kills
Marci Marci 9 years
I work from home. There is a popular misconception that since I'm at home and not in an office, I have all this free time to chat on the phone or hang out when people are off. It's surprisingly difficult to make people understand that I AM WORKING! There are several who are the worst offenders no matter how often I tell them I can't chat during the day. I love these people, but not when I'm working, thank you very much. I can't turn the phone off because I get business calls, so everytime the phone rings I have to screen, then get annoyed when I see it's personal. Most of the time I don't answer those calls, but I simply cannot understand why they continue to call when I've repeatedly told them I can't talk during the workday.
Marci Marci 9 years
I work from home. There is a popular misconception that since I'm at home and not in an office, I have all this free time to chat on the phone or hang out when people are off. It's surprisingly difficult to make people understand that I AM WORKING!There are several who are the worst offenders no matter how often I tell them I can't chat during the day. I love these people, but not when I'm working, thank you very much.I can't turn the phone off because I get business calls, so everytime the phone rings I have to screen, then get annoyed when I see it's personal. Most of the time I don't answer those calls, but I simply cannot understand why they continue to call when I've repeatedly told them I can't talk during the workday.
controlledspin controlledspin 9 years
My gripe is that a family/team atmosphere is emphasized where I work, yet there are only two or three people that I work with that I could consider genuine at all. There is so much back-stabbing and nastiness breeding just below the surface, yet everyone pretends that everything is so wonderful. I can't stand the fakeness and the catty behavior (turning off the bathroom light on someone when you know they are in there, whispering about people, timing other's phone calls and breaks), I just wish everyone could GROW UP! I have enough problems with my fiance's ex and trying to take care of my family, I don't need their crap on top of it!!
curleyjo84 curleyjo84 9 years
i have to vent about my co-worker. she complains that i have to many personal calls coming in. i might get two a day at the most, because my boyfriends car is a piece of crap and lets him sit someplace. but yet she gets all kinds of personal calls from her hubby and grown college age children adn her friends who dont work. I think she i upset because when i am on the phone it cuts into her social hour. she is so petty and catty! thanks for letting me vent!
junkinmytrunk junkinmytrunk 9 years
Want to know what puts fire under my bum?My husband's ex wife's and her husbands inability to set boundaries for our son.A few months ago he got caught driving with no lisence, no insurance, no tags, no nothing actually. Almost 2000.00 in fines and yet they still let him drive their car.
junkinmytrunk junkinmytrunk 9 years
Want to know what puts fire under my bum? My husband's ex wife's and her husbands inability to set boundaries for our son. A few months ago he got caught driving with no lisence, no insurance, no tags, no nothing actually. Almost 2000.00 in fines and yet they still let him drive their car.
designergirl designergirl 9 years
I'm in a bad mood! My brother is obsessed with weed. He can't talk about anything else, and my parents keep on giving him money even though he is just going to buy more drugs. Why can't they see that he needs help? I suggest therapy, and everyone thinks its a good idea but nothing ever happens. I'm worried about him, and I'm pissed that he can't help himself. The problem is really distracting me from my work right now- and I just needed to get it out with run-on sentences.
colormesticky colormesticky 9 years
This morning when I got in the car to go to work it wouldn't start. This is the fourth time my husband has left the ignition in the accessory position and taken the key out, and the second time he did it because he was in too much of a hurry to put it all the way into park. I tell him every time he does it, if you want to drive my car then pay attention when you turn it off. Quit killing my battery. Lucky for him the car started on the fourth try, and even luckier for him he didn't answer his phone when I called him. He called me half an hour later and I'd cooled off a little, but I still tore him a new one. If I have to call a coworker to come jump my damn car at 8 in the morning again, I'm gonna make his day suck too.
PJ-PJ-PJ PJ-PJ-PJ 9 years
Rude people are so highly annoying! People who talk down to other people, just to make themselves feel better are also pitiful. Get over yourself & realize that the world does not revolve around you, please! Too many details to post, but that is the gist of it. Thanks for the opportunity to vent, DearSugar!
PJ-PJ-PJ PJ-PJ-PJ 9 years
Rude people are so highly annoying! People who talk down to other people, just to make themselves feel better are also pitiful. Get over yourself & realize that the world does not revolve around you, please! Too many details to post, but that is the gist of it.Thanks for the opportunity to vent, DearSugar!
yiddidea yiddidea 9 years
My sister recently moved in to my apartment (to help her out financially and deal with some depression). Things are going okay except for one very big annoyance. She has a dog that is very badly trained. It goes to the bathroom all over the house and constantly gets into the trash. I get home before her from work and am the one who gets to walk the dog, feed her and act as her babysitter until my sister gets home. It is not my dog. She needs to stop being lazy and spend a weekend to train the damn thing instead of just bit*hing about it.
divinedebris divinedebris 9 years
I live in North Carolina and recently I visited my parents in Utah. Well while i was there, there was a management opening at my job. My store manager called to ask if I was interested in the job, and I was. I am. Well, when I got back at the first of February I find that someone else has the job. I personally thought maybe I was the most qualified for the job, that I've been with the company the most and that I work very hard for this place. I'm frustrated and upset and I feel weird when I go into work because I don't know how to act. I'm still very upset and it's hard to hide.
divinedebris divinedebris 9 years
I live in North Carolina and recently I visited my parents in Utah. Well while i was there, there was a management opening at my job. My store manager called to ask if I was interested in the job, and I was. I am. Well, when I got back at the first of February I find that someone else has the job. I personally thought maybe I was the most qualified for the job, that I've been with the company the most and that I work very hard for this place. I'm frustrated and upset and I feel weird when I go into work because I don't know how to act. I'm still very upset and it's hard to hide.
quietriott quietriott 9 years
i am in a masters program and have the opportunity to take classes in a different field...unfortunately 2/3 of the very small class is filled with phd students, all who think they are the smartest, most intelligent, and the only one worth listening to in class. except for most of the time they don't know what they are talking about and just saying stuff to hear themselves talk, and if i try to participate in the class or even socialize with them before or after they look at me like i am a toad and make snarky comments about the fact that i am "just" getting my masters. sorry turdheads, i am not in a phd program YET, but it doesnt make me any less intelligent, nor does the fact that i am 5-10 years younger than the rest of you make me somehow stupid. grr....
Deba Deba 9 years
I get this feeling sometimes (like today) that my bf sees me like a buddy call.. is it weird to say? I mean we have been together for almost a year, but I only see him on weekends to sleep over at his house... He wants me to move in and everything, but I get this weird sensation like maybe Im just sex to him... I feel weird saying it, because yes we have our moments, but sometimes I feel like a stranger in his life, I tell him almost everything and sometimes I have to pull out stuff from him with a spoon otherwise he wont talk we barely see each other during the week even though we can. I´ve talked about this before with him and he only says that is because he both have busy schedules.... oh well... at leat someone gets to hear me... feel better.
emisaurusrex emisaurusrex 9 years
Last night I was supposed to have dinner with a very troubled friend of mine, who's lies and behavior I am completely fed up with anyway. But I am moving out of the state in a week and a half and I figured that I should have one last dinner with her because she has been my long time friend.We talked on the phone while I was at work, right before I was supposed to take my lunch. I am on an extremely tight budget as I am moving and I have to pay a deposit as well as a huge pet deposit on my new apartment. So, I told her I wasn't sure if I could afford it, but then said that I would skip buying lunch to save money (and I was STARVING at this point) so I could go out to dinner with her. She said she would call me around 6:30 to confirm where we were eating. 6:30 came and went without a phone call. I called her twice and left her a voicemail. I even waited to eat (and I was ravenous) until 7:30 because I thought she might just be running late. She didn't call me back until 9:30 and left me a voicemai (I was in no mood to talk to her.) She used the excuse that she fell asleep with her phone off, but then about two sentences later said that her phone had woken her up-- a blatant lie. It really pisses me off that she would call me to ask me to go to dinner, know that I was skipping my lunch so I could pay for said dinner, and then she stood me up and lied to me about it! Needless to say, I won't be seeing her before I leave.Whew! I feel better.
emisaurusrex emisaurusrex 9 years
Last night I was supposed to have dinner with a very troubled friend of mine, who's lies and behavior I am completely fed up with anyway. But I am moving out of the state in a week and a half and I figured that I should have one last dinner with her because she has been my long time friend. We talked on the phone while I was at work, right before I was supposed to take my lunch. I am on an extremely tight budget as I am moving and I have to pay a deposit as well as a huge pet deposit on my new apartment. So, I told her I wasn't sure if I could afford it, but then said that I would skip buying lunch to save money (and I was STARVING at this point) so I could go out to dinner with her. She said she would call me around 6:30 to confirm where we were eating. 6:30 came and went without a phone call. I called her twice and left her a voicemail. I even waited to eat (and I was ravenous) until 7:30 because I thought she might just be running late. She didn't call me back until 9:30 and left me a voicemai (I was in no mood to talk to her.) She used the excuse that she fell asleep with her phone off, but then about two sentences later said that her phone had woken her up-- a blatant lie. It really pisses me off that she would call me to ask me to go to dinner, know that I was skipping my lunch so I could pay for said dinner, and then she stood me up and lied to me about it! Needless to say, I won't be seeing her before I leave. Whew! I feel better.
Thehills101 Thehills101 9 years
I have come to the conclusion that I work with a bunch of idiots....The majority of them are never happy with anything and when one of the problems is fixed they need to find the next thing to complain about. Then there are the ones who miss atleast one day every week and then cry the blues when they get in trouble and I mean some peopel do go out and have a few drinks on a work night but most people know that if they are going t do this they have to suck it up the next day hang over or not well at my wor people use this to make up stories like I have the 24 hour flu or they call in when they are obviously drunk(and they are slurring their words together) and then u have people who have a higher position soto speak and they sit there and convince other employees to put an open container of yogurt and fruit under the manager's desk and let it sit there for a few days..thankfully I pulled it out and chucked it...like seriously what is wrong with people??? Maybe it upsets me more cus I'm a mommy and know that I need to be some sort of role model and I mean my daughter gets sick more than adults(like most kids do with being in school, ec) an I don't even miss that much work...one girl has missed 75% of her time these people just walk around like run the place...PUH LEASE....ok I feel a bit better now..thanks for listening...LOL
Thehills101 Thehills101 9 years
I have come to the conclusion that I work with a bunch of idiots.... The majority of them are never happy with anything and when one of the problems is fixed they need to find the next thing to complain about. Then there are the ones who miss atleast one day every week and then cry the blues when they get in trouble and I mean some peopel do go out and have a few drinks on a work night but most people know that if they are going t do this they have to suck it up the next day hang over or not well at my wor people use this to make up stories like I have the 24 hour flu or they call in when they are obviously drunk(and they are slurring their words together) and then u have people who have a higher position soto speak and they sit there and convince other employees to put an open container of yogurt and fruit under the manager's desk and let it sit there for a few days..thankfully I pulled it out and chucked it...like seriously what is wrong with people??? Maybe it upsets me more cus I'm a mommy and know that I need to be some sort of role model and I mean my daughter gets sick more than adults(like most kids do with being in school, ec) an I don't even miss that much work...one girl has missed 75% of her time these people just walk around like run the place...PUH LEASE....ok I feel a bit better now..thanks for listening...LOL
Molly Molly 9 years
I am totally with you, Fab. My little dog isn't the only who who hates that my elevator is always broken. I didn't move out of my NY fifth floor walk up for no reason, after all. Do we live in the same building? Seriously.
nicachica nicachica 9 years
last night i was laying down on my boyfriend's couch watching tv. he was in the other chair and then looked at me and jokingly said that i was nodding off even though i was perfectly wide awake. i said that it wasn't true and he only thought that because of the angle of the couch to the chair so it only looked like i was sleeping. he insisted i was nodding off and i didn't and i got really annoyed that he wouldn't believe me because i was freakin awake! anyway, before i could really get steamed over this (yes, very stupid) thing, he just started laughing at me and then i realized how dumb it was. sigh...i guess i just hate it when people insist i did something when i know i didn't (or vice versa)! thanks, i feel a lot better! (btw, was that really neurotic of me to have that reaction???)
nicachica nicachica 9 years
last night i was laying down on my boyfriend's couch watching tv. he was in the other chair and then looked at me and jokingly said that i was nodding off even though i was perfectly wide awake. i said that it wasn't true and he only thought that because of the angle of the couch to the chair so it only looked like i was sleeping. he insisted i was nodding off and i didn't and i got really annoyed that he wouldn't believe me because i was freakin awake! anyway, before i could really get steamed over this (yes, very stupid) thing, he just started laughing at me and then i realized how dumb it was. sigh...i guess i just hate it when people insist i did something when i know i didn't (or vice versa)! thanks, i feel a lot better! (btw, was that really neurotic of me to have that reaction???)
Fashion Fashion 9 years
I am frustrated b/c I pay a lot of money for rent and our damn elevator is broken all the time. I have a pup with really short legs and it's hard for her to climb down steep stairs. Get it together #### Steiner Street! p.s. I feel much better! Thanks Dear! xo
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