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Group Therapy: Did He Just Want to Sleep With Me?

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I met this guy at a party and we connected over Facebook and bbm. We kept chatting for three months because he was traveling most of the time, but then even when he was in town I only saw him once a month because he said he was busy. We talked about the chemistry between us and about having sex, and I told him that I don't feel it's right now because I don't know him enough.

Although he disagreed with that because he felt that attraction between us is strong, he started making the effort more and we started going out more often. Then one time we just did it and had sex. The following days he didn't call and it happened that I caught an infection so I faced him. He got all angry and offended and said that he was clean. He acted like a jerk so I deleted him from Facebook and bbm. Later I knew that my infection was not caused by him so I tried to connect again with him and he didn't answer my messages. I am not sure if this guy liked me in the first place or was I just a hunt for a one-night stand (though it was a three-month hunt). Help?

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jazzytummy jazzytummy 4 years
You accused him of giving you an infection, and it was untrue...now he has to get himself checked and is wondering where YOU got it. Big shock he hasn't called.......
jazzytummy jazzytummy 4 years
You accused him of giving you an infection, and it was untrue...now he has to get himself checked and is wondering where YOU got it.Big shock he hasn't called.......
kimmieb124 kimmieb124 4 years
I agree with snarkypants. Even if he was interested, he probably lost interest after you accused him of giving you an infection.
snarkypants snarkypants 4 years
ummmm...you accused him of giving you an "infection". did you really expect him to welcome you with open arms?!?!
missmaryb missmaryb 4 years
When you said no originally, he started experiencing the "thrill of the chase." Thus the extra effort to spend time with you. Once he got what he wanted (and gave you something you didn't want) he was done with you. And if he gave you something, sounds like he's done this to other girls as well. You would be wise to chalk him up to a big jerk, get yourself treated and learn a lesson from it. Good luck.
Helen-Danger Helen-Danger 4 years
Yes, he secretly loved you and hid it by acting like an uncaring dick. He wants you back and aches every time he sees you call and then dismisses the call. Sex with you was so wonderful that he knew he could never repeat the awesome experience and therefore never wanted to even attempt it.Is that what you wish happened? You know that's all a bunch of hogwash--I hope. What happened isn't nearly so complicated or Machiavellian. You two clicked at first, but it just wasn't meant to be. You both had good intentions, but that wasn't enough to make things work long term. Don't worry about it. It wasn't you. Move on.
Helen-Danger Helen-Danger 4 years
Yes, he secretly loved you and hid it by acting like an uncaring dick. He wants you back and aches every time he sees you call and then dismisses the call. Sex with you was so wonderful that he knew he could never repeat the awesome experience and therefore never wanted to even attempt it. Is that what you wish happened? You know that's all a bunch of hogwash--I hope. What happened isn't nearly so complicated or Machiavellian. You two clicked at first, but it just wasn't meant to be. You both had good intentions, but that wasn't enough to make things work long term. Don't worry about it. It wasn't you. Move on.
BrownEyedBabe BrownEyedBabe 4 years
I know it hurts but it sounds like he just wanted sex. You say once you guys had sex he stopped calling. Forget about this loser, move on, and don't waste your time wondering what happend with this guy. There's so many better people out there!
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