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Different Sex Drives in a Relationship

Group Therapy: My Sex Drive Is Higher Than His

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My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and are very happy together and have a very satisfying sex life. The only problem is that I want sex more often than he does. I don't think his drive is abnormally low; mine has never been this high before . . . there's just something about him that I find irresistible and I want him all the time! The problem is that when I am in the mood and he's not, it hurts my feelings and I start feeling like he's not attracted to me (I have gained ~10 lbs since we got together, total 25 lbs in the past 3 years, I'm working on it but feel insecure about my body at times). I also wonder if there's some emotional needs that aren't being fulfilled for me in the bedroom. . . . I love kissing and taking it slow sometimes but he tends to rush it along.

Anyone else in a similar situation? How can I stop from getting my feelings hurt when he turns me down? I try to think about how I would feel if he initiated and I said no and he got pouty . . . I would be mad!! I just cant help feeling hurt and rejected. We just moved in together and I asked him if there was anything about our relationship that he could see being a problem and he said our different sex drives, so I really want to work on it.

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