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Distance Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

Dear Sugar
My boyfriend travels for work and is gone often. His traveling doesn't really bother me since we talk all the time on the phone and communicate over e-mail whenever we can. My co-workers and friends seem to have more of a problem with my boyfriend's schedule than I do and it is starting to irritate me.

They always ask me if I am sad and if I miss him and they look at me with pity. I also feel like they judge our relationship as unstable and I don't think it's fair. I'm tired of defending my relationship with my boyfriend and having people feel sorry for me. What can I say to them to make them finally understand that we are happy? Satisfied Cecelia

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Dear Satisfied Cecilia
This your relationship, not theirs. Many content couples have partners that travel for a living and the distance does not discredit their love for one another. If you feel secure in your relationship, that's all that really matters.

Try your best to zone out other people's negativity. Sometimes people displace their own insecurities onto others to make themselves feel better. When your co-workers or friends give you a hard time, simply tell them that you are very happy with the arrangement you have. Tell them that although it may not feel right for them, it works great for you! Hopefully that will get them off of your back.

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