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A Do or a Don't: Introduction of an Ex

A Do or a Don't: Introduction of an Ex

While I definitely have a penchant for curiosity, I also know when to draw the line. And when it comes to a budding relationship, many things are best left in the past. It’s true that meeting a new love's ex love may satisfy my prying mind, but in the end it only leaves me wanting more or feeling inadequate. Do you agree? Or do you think getting some insight on an ex is actually a good thing? Have you had any telling experiences when introducing or being introduced to an ex?

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sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
My boyfriend has one ex and she's pretty annoying. They were together for 3.5 years but it was like between 15 and 18 and she cheated on him pretty badly. She's like a slutbag party girl type and very annoying. I'd already met her before we started dating and she was annoying then too!He keeps her at a very far distance though. She was calling him about a book she lost like after we moved in together and he was like "I think I would have noticed in the last 2 years since you left if you'd left that book" and she's gone away now. :DAs for MY ex's. His best friend is my ex and they work together. ;p
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
My boyfriend has one ex and she's pretty annoying. They were together for 3.5 years but it was like between 15 and 18 and she cheated on him pretty badly. She's like a slutbag party girl type and very annoying. I'd already met her before we started dating and she was annoying then too! He keeps her at a very far distance though. She was calling him about a book she lost like after we moved in together and he was like "I think I would have noticed in the last 2 years since you left if you'd left that book" and she's gone away now. :D As for MY ex's. His best friend is my ex and they work together. ;p
forestrygal forestrygal 8 years
Unfortunately I keep dating guys who not only introduce me to exes but tend to remain friends with them to a certain extent (not hang out alone type friends, but see each other at group events type friends). In one case the ex was pretty mean to me and it was hard to take, but the ex of my current boyfriend has turned out to be an awesome girl and a great friend. Normally I think that what's in the past should be left in the past (I'd probably ignore any ex-boyfriends I saw on the street), but I'm glad that meeting my guy's ex turned into a really cool friendship (though we don't discuss him ever, that would just be too weird).
sarah100682 sarah100682 8 years
Well, I think it depends. If you run into someone that is an ex, might as well be honest about it...maybe not say "this is my ex so and so" but after the fact, I would appreciate him telling me that they used to date...if I find out later that he didnt tell me, I am going to wonder why he didnt mention it.Other than my boyfriends, ex-wife, I dont know anything about all the people he has dated and other "stuff"...and I dont really care. Why bring it all up and be uncomfortable? The more I know, the more I would question. This is the first guy that I have dated where we havent had the "tell all" convo, and its the best relationship by far when it come to all that ex stuff.
sarah100682 sarah100682 8 years
Well, I think it depends. If you run into someone that is an ex, might as well be honest about it...maybe not say "this is my ex so and so" but after the fact, I would appreciate him telling me that they used to date...if I find out later that he didnt tell me, I am going to wonder why he didnt mention it. Other than my boyfriends, ex-wife, I dont know anything about all the people he has dated and other "stuff"...and I dont really care. Why bring it all up and be uncomfortable? The more I know, the more I would question. This is the first guy that I have dated where we havent had the "tell all" convo, and its the best relationship by far when it come to all that ex stuff.
lilCROAT03 lilCROAT03 8 years
no. i live in a small town now and i have to see his ex all the time. she's way younger than me ...like totally juvenile and it's so f-ing annoying. i want to knock her off her stupid little vespa.
lizlee89 lizlee89 8 years
it depends on the ex...
lizlee89 lizlee89 8 years
it depends on the ex...
vmruby vmruby 8 years
A definite don't......a past that's revisited is not always a good thing.I don't actually care about his former relationships or what happened before we met.It has absolutely no effect whatsoever on my relationship with my husband in the present.However if we should happen to run into an ex while we're out (it only happened once and it was one of my husband's previous girlfriends)there is absolutely no reason to be nothing other than nice.
vmruby vmruby 8 years
A definite don't......a past that's revisited is not always a good thing. I don't actually care about his former relationships or what happened before we met.It has absolutely no effect whatsoever on my relationship with my husband in the present. However if we should happen to run into an ex while we're out (it only happened once and it was one of my husband's previous girlfriends)there is absolutely no reason to be nothing other than nice.
g1amourpuss g1amourpuss 8 years
This owner's wife of a retro upscale bar I frequent started calling me a few months back.. I didn't even know they owned it.. but it was a girl my husband did a few times several years back.. all calling me like it was no big deal. She got my number from one of my good friends, an old neighbor. I was so angry my head was spinning. Who knows what the hell she really wanted! And then one of my exboyfriend's girlfriends wouldn't stop emailing me last year so I took them both off of my friends list. I try to gage it like once I saw an ex with a new girlfriend and I knew his body language well enough to not go introduce myself. (Turned out she was caaaarazy!)It's okay to be nice.. but don't be a moron about these kind of things. What's in the past is just where it needs to be.
g1amourpuss g1amourpuss 8 years
This owner's wife of a retro upscale bar I frequent started calling me a few months back.. I didn't even know they owned it.. but it was a girl my husband did a few times several years back.. all calling me like it was no big deal. She got my number from one of my good friends, an old neighbor. I was so angry my head was spinning. Who knows what the hell she really wanted! And then one of my exboyfriend's girlfriends wouldn't stop emailing me last year so I took them both off of my friends list. I try to gage it like once I saw an ex with a new girlfriend and I knew his body language well enough to not go introduce myself. (Turned out she was caaaarazy!) It's okay to be nice.. but don't be a moron about these kind of things. What's in the past is just where it needs to be.
lauraxtc lauraxtc 8 years
I think it depends on who your ex is and what he meant to you. I had a few exes and when they introduce me with their new gfs I am completely kool about it because I wasn't really into them. However!!! I don't like to get introduced as the ex because that can make a girl feel uncomfortable and insecure. and may not like me due to the fact that I am an ex. (I know from experience)I don't like to have my bf meet my exes though. Doesn't look very right. Now if I saw my ex, and he introduced me to his new gf, I don't think I can take it. Its better not to know.
lauraxtc lauraxtc 8 years
I think it depends on who your ex is and what he meant to you. I had a few exes and when they introduce me with their new gfs I am completely kool about it because I wasn't really into them. However!!! I don't like to get introduced as the ex because that can make a girl feel uncomfortable and insecure. and may not like me due to the fact that I am an ex. (I know from experience) I don't like to have my bf meet my exes though. Doesn't look very right. Now if I saw my ex, and he introduced me to his new gf, I don't think I can take it. Its better not to know.
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 8 years
a big dont
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 8 years
a big dont
Melo-D Melo-D 8 years
As far as being the current girl and meeting the ex, it depends on how much time is between the relationships. But, I've never been in that situation. I would like to look at the other side of the scenario. I seem to be the ex being introduced to the current girlfriend. I am usually the one that says who cares but I had a situation where my ex's current girlfriend (who I didn't know was his girl until MUCH later b/c I thought he was still with someone else... I know... a lot LOL) knew me and introduced herself. The weird thing was she knew my name. Then, I found out my ex talks about me to her. I didn't know what to think except how weird is this b/c she knew my name (and face which makes it even more weird) and whatever else this dude told her. I never met her in my life and had NO idea who she was. Yeah.... now that's weird.
CYL CYL 8 years
If they are friends and hang out I would like to definately meet the ex just to say hi. Otherwise...if she is just coming through town or something, no don't need to meet her.
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