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A Do or a Don't: Public Proposals

A Do or a Don't: Public Proposals

Getting engaged is a very special right of passage between two people who love each other, and choosing where to take that next step in your relationship is something that usually takes a lot of thought and planning. When the time comes for me to get engaged, I'd want my boyfriend to ask me someplace private so we can share that intimate moment together, just the two of us, but I know that some women really enjoy a more public profession of love. No one way is better than the other, so tell me, do you think public proposals are a do or a don't?

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eford eford 5 years
I would want a one on one proposal- no cameras, no video. I would hope they would be asking because they were so in love with all of what that person and I shared. They would do it without wanting approval or praise from others. "That was so great! You guys REALLY are in love!" I wouldn't want to ruin the special moment between myself and this person. I don't feel the need to prove or show anyone else how much my person loves me or I love them. My dude is a creative director and loves all things visual (pictures/video etc.) and then sharing it on his video page or facebook.. and I feel like there is far too much recording of our intimate moments. Some of the fun is remembering an event as your brain made it rather than a 2 dimensional zip file.
eford eford 5 years
I would want a one on one proposal- no cameras, no video. I would hope they would be asking because they were so in love with all of what that person and I shared. They would do it without wanting approval or praise from others. "That was so great! You guys REALLY are in love!"I wouldn't want to ruin the special moment between myself and this person. I don't feel the need to prove or show anyone else how much my person loves me or I love them.My dude is a creative director and loves all things visual (pictures/video etc.) and then sharing it on his video page or facebook.. and I feel like there is far too much recording of our intimate moments. Some of the fun is remembering an event as your brain made it rather than a 2 dimensional zip file.
Anabellatc Anabellatc 7 years
I would say yes regardless...although i prefer the private one!
actionandy actionandy 7 years
As long as he doesn't hide the ring in food I think a public proposal can be quite lovely.
LittleMzFit LittleMzFit 7 years
It sounds like a lot more pressure on both parties if in public, but it really doesn't matter.
Sofia-Soubrette Sofia-Soubrette 7 years
It depends on the couple...it can be meaningful either way!
PensaGrey PensaGrey 7 years
Big no no for me. I want it to be just between us. I don't want anyone else's reaction in my memory I'm going to daydream about for the rest of my life.
bairdlet bairdlet 7 years
Oh, a do. Did anyone see the first episode of Alias, when he got down on his knees in the quad and sang (quite off-key) his proposal in front of half the school? Best popping-of-the-question ever. I love dramatic proposals, because I, without quite realizing what I was doing, proposed to my fiance on the spur-of-the-moment. In a bathrobe. In my college dorm. Two weeks after meeting him. He wears a ring I bought him, which will later be his wedding ring. A man with an engagement ring. It's a good thing he's secure in his masculinity, is all I have to say. Still, we're five years in, and still stupidly happy, so you can't say I didn't know what I wanted.
bairdlet bairdlet 7 years
Oh, a do.Did anyone see the first episode of Alias, when he got down on his knees in the quad and sang (quite off-key) his proposal in front of half the school? Best popping-of-the-question ever.I love dramatic proposals, because I, without quite realizing what I was doing, proposed to my fiance on the spur-of-the-moment. In a bathrobe. In my college dorm. Two weeks after meeting him. He wears a ring I bought him, which will later be his wedding ring. A man with an engagement ring. It's a good thing he's secure in his masculinity, is all I have to say.Still, we're five years in, and still stupidly happy, so you can't say I didn't know what I wanted.
Matdredalia Matdredalia 7 years
Not only no, but hell no. It could just be me, but the first time I was engaged (which ended in disaster), he asked in front of my family, and it was so awful. I wish we could have talked in private and hashed things out instead of me sitting there feeling pressured to say yes for fear of making him feel like a fool. It was terrible. Maybe it's just that we weren't meant to be, but seriously, I think it should be private.
Matdredalia Matdredalia 7 years
Not only no, but hell no. It could just be me, but the first time I was engaged (which ended in disaster), he asked in front of my family, and it was so awful. I wish we could have talked in private and hashed things out instead of me sitting there feeling pressured to say yes for fear of making him feel like a fool. It was terrible. Maybe it's just that we weren't meant to be, but seriously, I think it should be private.
aimeeb aimeeb 7 years
Doesn't matter to me...
aimeeb aimeeb 7 years
Doesn't matter to me...
sparklestar sparklestar 7 years
I would prefer private but anywhere is fine! JUST ASK ME! arggghhhh
Louie Louie 7 years
I would much prefer something more intimate but I think if you are going to say yes, you would say yes whether he did it in private or in public.
sass317 sass317 7 years
I wouldnt have wanted a proposal on a jumbo-tron at a sporting event or anything, but my husband did propose to me at a restaurant. Honestly I didnt realize anyone was even paying attention to us and was startled when people applauded after I said yes. The week before he almost scrapped the plan and proposed to me at a waterfall up in the mountains- I would have been thrilled with either :) its the guy that matters
sass317 sass317 7 years
I wouldnt have wanted a proposal on a jumbo-tron at a sporting event or anything, but my husband did propose to me at a restaurant. Honestly I didnt realize anyone was even paying attention to us and was startled when people applauded after I said yes. The week before he almost scrapped the plan and proposed to me at a waterfall up in the mountains- I would have been thrilled with either :) its the guy that matters
macchiatolove macchiatolove 7 years
I'm sure I've answered this before... haha, feeling of deja vu! Basically, if I'm going to say yes, I'm going to say yes whether the proposal is public or private. I think I would quite like something public - say, in a restaurant or at a beautiful beach or whatever, but private would be nice too! I'm a very, very open and see-through person, so he would totally know whether or not I'd be likely to say yes, so no danger of being knocked back in public. But, I'm kind of confused, when the term 'public' is used, are we referring to just out and about, rather than in the privacy of one of our homes? or do we mean, something massive, over the top and involving public participation? like on the bigscreen at a sports event? I don't think I'd really like something TOO over the top ie, on a tv show - I'd prefer something in a restaurant, or whatever, that wasn't intentionally in front of a huge audience :)
macchiatolove macchiatolove 7 years
I'm sure I've answered this before... haha, feeling of deja vu!Basically, if I'm going to say yes, I'm going to say yes whether the proposal is public or private. I think I would quite like something public - say, in a restaurant or at a beautiful beach or whatever, but private would be nice too! I'm a very, very open and see-through person, so he would totally know whether or not I'd be likely to say yes, so no danger of being knocked back in public.But, I'm kind of confused, when the term 'public' is used, are we referring to just out and about, rather than in the privacy of one of our homes? or do we mean, something massive, over the top and involving public participation? like on the bigscreen at a sports event?I don't think I'd really like something TOO over the top ie, on a tv show - I'd prefer something in a restaurant, or whatever, that wasn't intentionally in front of a huge audience :)
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 7 years
I would say yes regardless of whether I was asked in the kitchen or in the middle of a zoo.
leeluvfashion leeluvfashion 7 years
I would prefer the moment to be private however there are some memorable, thoughtful, public ways of asking so I voted "don't care..."
Spectra Spectra 7 years
I think men who propose in public are unnecessarily cocky and are doing it so people will think that they are the world's greatest fiance or something. Private proposals are usually a lot more intimate. I'm glad my husband proposed in private, but I would've said yes regardless.
Bethania Bethania 7 years
Uh not answering- we've already done this!
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 7 years
I prefer my privacy.
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 7 years
I prefer my privacy.
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