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A Do or a Don't: Rebound Dating

A Do or a Don't: Rebound Dating

I’ve often heard it said that the best way to get over someone is to start dating someone new. And while I’m certainly not against that notion, I do believe that some real alone time for reflection and recuperation can be a lot better than a rebound guy. Even if it’s no big deal to you, often the person you’re rebounding with can end up feeling hurt when you’ve fully bounced back and are ready for other things (or people). So have you ever rebounded? If so, is this how you get over your breakups?

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babysoftpink babysoftpink 7 years
I just know one rebound dating that actually lead to marriage. The guy was with both girls and he broke up with one then 24 hours later, asked the other girl to be his bf and now they are married. :D
ilanac13 ilanac13 7 years
well i don't know if getting into a serious relationship is something that i do on the rebound, but i'll certainly get back out there and meet people and maybe go on a few dates. i think that the longer that you don't get yourself out there, the harder it gets.
PinkUnicorn PinkUnicorn 7 years
Embarrassed to admit it, but this is how I have gotten over every break up. Only once did it turn into a disaster. I was dating this guy that I was ~*madly in love with*~ for about five years (but he always had a girlfriend, so when we were finally both single and could be together I fell, hard and fast) and things ended absolutely horribly. So anyways like three weeks later I met this guy at a bar and started dating him, but quickly realized I didn't really like, even as a friend, but he was getting infatuated with me. I let it drag on for about a month, and then ended up breaking up with him in a really mean way. I felt so bad, and it was all my fault since I was only dating him to try to get over this last guy. All the other times it worked out okay though!
Lele777 Lele777 7 years
I'm not the rebound type. After break ups I would stay single for years before getting into another relationship. I don't need someone in my life to make me happy or feel complete.
Fallen85 Fallen85 7 years
meh, the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else :)
SusanTeufel SusanTeufel 7 years
I really didn't rebound so much as I dated someone I've been interested in forever, and it happened to be my ex's best friend...my now-husband. We've both be totally crushing on each other secretly.... but I let the love I thought I had for my ex cloud how horrible my ex really was. My husband is amazing :)
RubberDogTurds RubberDogTurds 7 years
I like rebound dating but I play it safe, both mentally and physically. Getting myself out there to date and what not really helps me through things, but I don't jump into anything or get serious. You still get your alone time but you aren't locked inside your room 24-7. If you're smart about it, rebound dating can be very therapeutic.
mnp mnp 7 years
For some reason, I bounce back really quickly. So, it does seem like the next guy is the rebound guy but he really isn't. I tend to overstay in my relationships so it's usually already dead before I even move onto the next bf.
Mesayme Mesayme 7 years
Note: I am not saying that anyone who rebounds is a wh*re... I'm implying that it leads to that behavior. I've seen through friends and celebs provide endless tales that demonstrate it's pointless. If you can't be with yourself very long...how is anyone else going to be able to stand you ...until death do you part...that's an unproductive way to think.
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 7 years
I agree that rebounding that can make whores out of some women. I certainly felt bad about myself when I found someone else the day I broke up with my ex (But also current boyfriend because we're back together). When that didn't go through because he just wanted a casual friendship with benefits, I rebounded yet again (Like, a day later), searching for someone serious to love me. That was awful, and I realized I couldn't stop thinking about my ex, and I was unhappy being with someone else--I just needed time alone. Guys pursued me, and I opened myself up to the idea of dating them, but they ended up leaving when I couldn't stop talking about my ex. No good.
Le-Luxe Le-Luxe 7 years
Bad Idea. My current boyfriend went through all my recovery (yes- he was a rebound guy) and it was awful. Next time I am taking a break.
mix-tape mix-tape 7 years
I have not done the rebound guy thing before. I did break up with my boyfriend of 2 years and found someone else that was interested in me, but soon I realized I just liked the novelty of having someone else like me so I stopped that short so his feelings weren't too hurt. I think after a long relationship you forget what it's like to feel that initial surge of emotions when you begin dating someone new, so the rebound is just a quick cover-up for the pain you feel after breaking up. Maybe it makes heeling faster for some people, but I just can't see myself doing that to a man.
Mesayme Mesayme 7 years
That creates a lot of wh*res I think... I prefer to just go it alone. When I think of the other guy and I'm glad he's an 'experience' and I feel that I want to share my space and time...I will. Rebounding (in my opinion) is usually for people who have a hard time being faithful anyway...or aren't in the first place.
princess_eab princess_eab 7 years
Don't drag someone else into your process of recovery. That said, I started dating someone about 3 months after my 3-year relationship ended. I've known people who jumped right into serious things and eventually married the person, too. But my last relationship was pretty much dying/ dead for 6 months to a year before we broke up. Despite that, if within the first month he'd said he wanted to work through things, I would've done so. That didn't happen, so I went through therapy, did all the good and bad things you do when you're getting over someone, and when I fell in love again I felt healed and over it.
lauraxtc lauraxtc 7 years
UMM....WELL IT HAS WORKED FOR ME BECAUSE THE RELATIONSHIP I WAS IN WAS DEAD. BUT I HAVE HAD A REBOUND BEFORE WITH OTHER PEOPLE AND I WASN'T READY BECAUSE I KEPT MENTIONING MY EX AND ITS NOT FAIR FOR THE OTHER PERSON. I GOT OUT OF A BAD RELATIONSHIP AND STARTED DATING 3 WEEKS LATER. AT FIRST I THOUGHT HE WAS A REBOUND AND FELT BAD ABOUT IT, BUT I DONT ANYMORE. I AM VERY HAPPY. TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE AND I STOPED CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK. I WENT THROUGH SO MUCH CRAP WITH MY EX, FOR SO MANY YEARS, THAT I FINALLY FEEL LIKE I DESERVE TO BE APPRECIATED. I DESERVED TO BE HAPPY AND I FINALLY FEEL THAT WAY WITH MY NEW BF. I GUESS IT JUST DEPENDS ON THE SITUATION.
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