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Do Mothers Favor Sons Over Daughters?

Were You the Favored Child?

Parents aren't supposed to have favorites, but they totally do. Sometimes it's as simple as birth order and personality, as complex as a personality connection, or as unfair as gender. So let's talk about unfairness. A survey, which spoke to 2,500 moms in the UK, determined sons really are mommas' boys.

Though one-half of moms (or should I say mums) acknowledge it's unfair to treat children differently, 90 percent confessed to doing so. They're twice as likely to be more critical of daughters, resorting to Britishisms like "stroppy" (touchy) to describe girls. Meanwhile boys are "funny," "playful," and, of course, "cheeky."

So whether you have brothers, sisters, or both, tell us if you felt like the favored child by either parent. Or not.

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MissSushi MissSushi 5 years
No sons in my family, so this doesn't apply. But I was not favored by far. My sister below me was favored - most likely because she was the first child between my mother and step father. I absolutely love and commend him for raising me like his own and it never being an issue. My sisters, however, were very very spoiled and favored, and I ended up very much in a cinderella role. I was the oldest of 4, and pretty much a slave and whipping boy. There were good times and there were horrible times. I babysat them constantly and did all the household duties as both parents worked, I even had to clean their rooms as a young child/teen, while they were left chore and responsibility free. It sucked, was very degrading, and I am still bitter about a lot of things, such as how they were allowed to gloat about the situation and deliberately cause greater messes, and how worse things got as I got older. It took several years after I became an adult and moved out, but I patched things up with my parents - after my mother got her crap straight, and we have an okay relationship now. The favor was obvious and commented upon, but hasn't changed even now in our 20's. My sister does some of the most atrocious things, is a terrible parent to her young daughter, is rude, obnoxious, maliscious, vindictive, and uses everyone to her advantage. Eh well, at least my childhood left me a mature, independent, strong willed and mature adult.
danakscully64 danakscully64 5 years
My siblings swear I was since I was the baby, but my siblings got things I didn't. Now that we're older, my middle sister is obviously the favorite, there's no denying that. My Mom swears that she gives help/attention to those who need it most...but I think she just encouraged her bad choices, which doesn't help.
Soulduster Soulduster 5 years
I don't think any of us were my parents out right favorite. Though I do know during my two older sisters' teenage years, I was probably the favorite since I caused the least amount of drama and problems. Now that we're all older, we all have such different relationships with each of my parents so there still isn't any favorite.
amber512 amber512 5 years
Nope, my brother was. And it was quite obvious!
bransugar79 bransugar79 5 years
My mom always made sure not to show favoritism between any of us. Her mother always had obvious favorites and even though she was favored she hated the conflict it caused between her siblings. My dad wasn't very present for any of us, but definitely favored my brother because he is a boy. Either way we were all dealt a pretty even hand based on our behavior, and I don't think my brother ever got away with anything just because he was boy. We were all treated like individuals and I think it was pretty fair.
bluebellknoll bluebellknoll 5 years
My dad = me My mom = my brother So I guess it's even?
bluebellknoll bluebellknoll 5 years
My dad = meMy mom = my brotherSo I guess it's even?
girlgreen girlgreen 5 years
My parents always did a good job of treating me and my two sisters equally. If they had a favorite, they did a good job of hiding it. As we've grown into adults, it's clear that my sisters and my relationship with our parents are different, and are not equally strong. But that doesn't change how they treat us.
cirrus1701 cirrus1701 5 years
I had to chuckle slightly at your post SKG, because it brought back a flood of memories. I remember having bitter battles with my mother over wanting to hang out in the local Aladdin's Castle. To this day, I adore the full stand up console games. Anyway, I really didn't have a bad childhood. I'm just not sure if my parents knew what to do with me. I would build tepees and play Indians a lot. I loved videogames, Knightrider, Star Trek, etc. I was fascinated with weather and wanted to chase tornadoes from age 7 or 8. I even made friends with a local "bad boy" in my 5th grade class, because he gave me copies of his Eddie Murphy and Richard Pryor tapes. My sister, on the other hand, had tons of girlfriends and did gymnastics and all the other "typical" girlie things. To this day, I envy how easily she is able to make friends.
cirrus1701 cirrus1701 5 years
I had to chuckle slightly at your post SKG, because it brought back a flood of memories. I remember having bitter battles with my mother over wanting to hang out in the local Aladdin's Castle. To this day, I adore the full stand up console games. Anyway, I really didn't have a bad childhood. I'm just not sure if my parents knew what to do with me. I would build tepees and play Indians a lot. I loved videogames, Knightrider, Star Trek, etc. I was fascinated with weather and wanted to chase tornadoes from age 7 or 8. I even made friends with a local "bad boy" in my 5th grade class, because he gave me copies of his Eddie Murphy and Richard Pryor tapes. My sister, on the other hand, had tons of girlfriends and did gymnastics and all the other "typical" girlie things. To this day, I envy how easily she is able to make friends.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 5 years
I was closer to my mother than my brother. I always thought she loved me more. But I also almost died when I was born, so she tended to protect. I also behaved better and never got in trouble, my brother, on the other hand, was always in trouble.
zeze zeze 5 years
I was and still am, by the entire extended family, not necessarily my mom. My mom actually favored my brother/sister sometimes just because I got so much attention from everyone else. I'm the eldest of like 35 grand kids and had lots of uncles and aunts. I was the first baby in the house after a long time. I got away with everything and anything, they would even yell at my parents and take me away if they bothered me.
zeze zeze 5 years
I was and still am, by the entire extended family, not necessarily my mom. My mom actually favored my brother/sister sometimes just because I got so much attention from everyone else.I'm the eldest of like 35 grand kids and had lots of uncles and aunts. I was the first baby in the house after a long time. I got away with everything and anything, they would even yell at my parents and take me away if they bothered me.
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 5 years
I am favored by my dad over my other siblings. It's been obvious since I was a toddler. Everyone in the family has commented on it at some point, haha. What can I say, I guess I was a born daddy's girl :) But this wasn't in a bad way. My dad loves all his children and we are all very happy, well-rounded people.
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 5 years
I am favored by my dad over my other siblings. It's been obvious since I was a toddler. Everyone in the family has commented on it at some point, haha. What can I say, I guess I was a born daddy's girl :)But this wasn't in a bad way. My dad loves all his children and we are all very happy, well-rounded people.
stephley stephley 5 years
Not unfavored, but I was the reliable kid while parents catered to a couple of the others.
Gdeeaz Gdeeaz 5 years
Occasionally my parents would treat my brother a little better but that was only during a time when he would ask about his biological father. But for the most part, as kids my parents treated my older brother and I pretty much the same. As a teenager my brother became a trouble maker so my parents became much stricter with him. They didn't really have to worry too much about me.
Gdeeaz Gdeeaz 5 years
Occasionally my parents would treat my brother a little better but that was only during a time when he would ask about his biological father. But for the most part, as kids my parents treated my older brother and I pretty much the same. As a teenager my brother became a trouble maker so my parents became much stricter with him. They didn't really have to worry too much about me.
RoaringSilence RoaringSilence 5 years
I never noticed any difference in the way my younger sister and I were treated. I know for sure though that I have caused my parents more grief than her. I am now 23 and my sister is 20. I started drinking at 14 (only had one incident though where my parents had to pick me up somehwere because I was too drunk.. other than that, they probably didn't know how much I was drinking), and my sister always did better in school and has generally had more of a plan of what she wanted to do with her life. I also got married at 19 to a guy from a vastly different family background, which my family wasn't completely against, but they surely weren't all that happy for me either.
RoaringSilence RoaringSilence 5 years
I never noticed any difference in the way my younger sister and I were treated. I know for sure though that I have caused my parents more grief than her. I am now 23 and my sister is 20. I started drinking at 14 (only had one incident though where my parents had to pick me up somehwere because I was too drunk.. other than that, they probably didn't know how much I was drinking), and my sister always did better in school and has generally had more of a plan of what she wanted to do with her life. I also got married at 19 to a guy from a vastly different family background, which my family wasn't completely against, but they surely weren't all that happy for me either.
chequettex chequettex 5 years
As children, the three of us were all treated pretty much the same. My parents may have been a little harsher with my older brother than with me or my little sister, but that's because he was definitely ornery and stubborn, whereas we girls were pushovers, and we would cry if you just LOOKED at us the wrong way.Now that we're all adults, it's apparent that our brother is mom's favorite - she really fawns over him. She loves her girls, too, though, and we can't have a true girls' weekend without her!
chequettex chequettex 5 years
As children, the three of us were all treated pretty much the same. My parents may have been a little harsher with my older brother than with me or my little sister, but that's because he was definitely ornery and stubborn, whereas we girls were pushovers, and we would cry if you just LOOKED at us the wrong way. Now that we're all adults, it's apparent that our brother is mom's favorite - she really fawns over him. She loves her girls, too, though, and we can't have a true girls' weekend without her!
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 5 years
My dad treated me and my brother equally, but my mom favored me by far and obviously- it was a significant point of contention between her and my brother. In the end I think he had the advantage, she would crack down on him when he screwed up but when I screwed up she would let me do it because she didn't want to hurt my feelings. It took my quite a while to teach myself the discipline my mother never bothered to teach me, and I try my hardest not to make the same mistake with my girl.
dexaholic dexaholic 5 years
My mom treated me and my sisters much differently (better) than my step-brothers, and my step-dad treated us slightly differently. But then that could have something to do with step-children and all that. My dad treated me and my sister equally awesome!
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