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Do Tell: Do You Bring Your Significant Other Even When He's Not Invited?

Do Tell: Do You Bring Your Significant Other Even When He's Not Invited?

I was recently at a girls' dinner and one of my friends showed up with her boyfriend!! Why she thought that was OK is beyond me, but it was pretty infuriating. I really cherish my girl time so when a man was unexpectedly thrown into the mix, the entire dynamic changed. Boy talk, period talk, sex talk, and shop talk turned into watch-what-you-say talk! I know it's not that big of a deal, but don't you think there is a time and a place for bringing along your mate? I might be way off base here, so do tell ladies, do you bring your significant other with you everywhere you go, even if he isn't invited?

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watereatsrock watereatsrock 8 years
No. and I don't always bring him when he is invited either. I always asses the situation, and make sure it is appropriate for him to come.
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 8 years
My boyfriend and I don't really have the same friends, so when we go out, we don't hang out together. I like to give him his space to goof off with his friends, and he likes me to do the same. I've never had a friend bring her boyfriend uninvited...I think most people understand that's awkward for the boyfriend who will be surrounded by a bunch of women, and for the friends, who are constantly watching what they have to say.
michelle-c42934 michelle-c42934 8 years
Nope, it's just plain rude, I wouldn't bring a boyfriend to a girls night out, but to other events you should always ask first.
juicylove juicylove 8 years
like pretty much everyone said, if its a girls night, then obviously nobody should bring their bfs. but if its just random like hey lets do something with a bunch of people, then i would.
mlen mlen 8 years
not if its a girls night- then its strictly a girls night! if a friend calls up and says he a few of us are going to the bar tonight, come out- then its more an open invitation and i'll invite him out. but i'll usually check who's going first- cause if they list all girls, i'll leave him home!
emalove emalove 8 years
No, not if he wasn't invited. That's pretty rude. Most of my friends are married and/or in a serious relationship though, so when we hang out, our men are usually there too. We still talk about girly stuff too...the guys are used to it by now! And they usually go off and watch sports or play pool anyway.
javsmav javsmav 8 years
I don't have that many girlfriends in town, therefore not that many girls nights out. so if I am hanging out with my friends and my boyfriend comes along, it's not like he's the only guy. He doesn't live in the same city either, so I usually mention it to my friends before we go out. It would be strange for them to say he isn't invited b/c that would mean I wouldn't go either. It's not like I can leave him at my apartment to go out with my friends when he's come 700 miles to see me. But if he really wasn't invited, then no, I wouldn't bring him there.
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
I agree with snarkypants too.
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
Thats annoying, and very bad manners, if its supposed to be girls night, then I would want it to be. Its rude to bring any guest who was not specifically invited or that you haven't at least asked the host if they could come.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
Hell no. Parts of my life (including a part of my social life) is independent of my husband. The same goes for him, too. This works for us. Personally, I can't believe that woman showed up with her uninvited boyfriend either.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
Hell no. Parts of my life (including a part of my social life) is independent of my husband. The same goes for him, too. This works for us.Personally, I can't believe that woman showed up with her uninvited boyfriend either.
LadyP LadyP 8 years
If it's a girls night out, my hubby understands that and so therefore I don't bring him. If it's a function other than a girls night, I bring my husband with me.
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 8 years
we usually do things in a group, but if its strictly a girl thing or a guy thing then we respectively dont join in ....common sense, hello =)
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 8 years
we usually do things in a group, but if its strictly a girl thing or a guy thing then we respectively dont join in ....common sense, hello =)
Jeny Jeny 8 years
ohhhh nooo If I'm having a girls ANYTHING, I tell my girls upfront NO BOYS ALLOWED! That's usually in the title i.e. 'No boys allowed dinner at el patio'
Jacinthe Jacinthe 8 years
I think it would depend on the type of outing and who had initiated it. If it's something like my roomates and I deciding to go to applebee's because we're all too lazy to cook, I might invite my guy along - we have a lot of friends in common anyway. If it's something another friend put together and invited specific people, and did not include him, then no, I wouldn't. Snarkypant - that happend to my cousin and his girlfriend with our other cousins wedding. My cousins wife didn't want our other cousin to bring his girlfriend (even though they were planning on being married in the future, and now have a child together) to their wedding because they weren't married/officially engaged. He almost refused to go to the wedding until my aunt talked him into going.
Jacinthe Jacinthe 8 years
I think it would depend on the type of outing and who had initiated it. If it's something like my roomates and I deciding to go to applebee's because we're all too lazy to cook, I might invite my guy along - we have a lot of friends in common anyway.If it's something another friend put together and invited specific people, and did not include him, then no, I wouldn't.Snarkypant - that happend to my cousin and his girlfriend with our other cousins wedding. My cousins wife didn't want our other cousin to bring his girlfriend (even though they were planning on being married in the future, and now have a child together) to their wedding because they weren't married/officially engaged. He almost refused to go to the wedding until my aunt talked him into going.
snarkypants snarkypants 8 years
i do think it's rude to bring along an uninvited guest. but what drives me more nuts is the whole "no ring, no bring" approach to weddings. i think it is rather rude for people that you invite to your wedding to not be able to bring a date, unless it's a small wedding. but i've been to weddings with a few hundred people invited and i have not been allowed to bring my bf (who i've been dating for quite a while) just because we are not married. therefore, when i get married, nobody is allowed to bring their spouse. kidding, but seriously, i hate that.
snarkypants snarkypants 8 years
i do think it's rude to bring along an uninvited guest.but what drives me more nuts is the whole "no ring, no bring" approach to weddings. i think it is rather rude for people that you invite to your wedding to not be able to bring a date, unless it's a small wedding. but i've been to weddings with a few hundred people invited and i have not been allowed to bring my bf (who i've been dating for quite a while) just because we are not married. therefore, when i get married, nobody is allowed to bring their spouse. kidding, but seriously, i hate that.
cassee cassee 8 years
I agree that there are times when it's just YOU who is invited, and not your significant other. It's frustrating, because my best friend always includes her boyfriend in everything. I guess it's kind of like a package deal if you want to hang out with her...
cassee cassee 8 years
I agree that there are times when it's just YOU who is invited, and not your significant other.It's frustrating, because my best friend always includes her boyfriend in everything. I guess it's kind of like a package deal if you want to hang out with her...
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
if i brought my dh to a girls only thing he'd leave, lol! that's so odd that she brought him, must be something else going on here.
Asia84 Asia84 8 years
My group of friends (the close knit ones) are pretty mixed. and usually whoever you're dating or currently married to is invited to things too. but if i'm goint to an event and it doesn't say "plus guest" on the invite, or i KNOW it's just the gals, then no, i don't bring my boyfriend. that's rude. i mean, i'm a b*tch, but i got SOME manners. GOSH!
Asia84 Asia84 8 years
My group of friends (the close knit ones) are pretty mixed. and usually whoever you're dating or currently married to is invited to things too.but if i'm goint to an event and it doesn't say "plus guest" on the invite, or i KNOW it's just the gals, then no, i don't bring my boyfriend.that's rude. i mean, i'm a b*tch, but i got SOME manners. GOSH!
laneylaney laneylaney 8 years
i ALWAYS ask but you can usually tell when it's inappropriate. When I'm having dinner or drink with a girlfriend or a few girlfriends, no way. if it's a small party he's usually expected to be there considering we share a lot of friends.
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