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Do Tell: Do You Have an Especially Challenging Member of Your Family?

The older you get the more perspective you seem to gain in regards to yourself and those around you. With age, I’ve definitely come to see certain friends and family members more clearly, and it hasn't always been for the best. Though love may be unconditional, a particularly challenging family member can quickly hurt relationships and turn an entire extended family upside down.

Though I’ve been fairly fortunate in this respect, not all my friends have, and they continue to suffer the repercussions of their siblings, cousins, or even parents’ actions. Have you dealt with this kind of scenario before? Ladies, do tell, do you have a member of your family that continues to be difficult?

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Sera32 Sera32 7 years
One more thing. My sister can't be trusted with anything private. Once, she blabbed something in front of a total stranger in the womens' restroom, and tonight she felt that my mom had to know about something I told her FOUR YEARS AGO!! Technically, she's insane and I mean that in the medical sense.
Sera32 Sera32 7 years
I can completely relate to these comments. My sister not only harasses me every day, but can't even function like a normal human being! She loves to use profanity and is extremely disrespectful, not to mention lazy and stupid. She loves to cause exhausting drama and thrives on attacking others' self-esteem so that she can feel better about herself. She doesn't live in reality and is a complete piss-a**. Her behavior disrupts our entire family, but unfortunately she doesn't want to get the mental help that she so desperately needs. SHE'S A LOSER!!
Sera32 Sera32 7 years
I can completely relate to these comments. My sister not only harasses me every day, but can't even function like a normal human being! She loves to use profanity and is extremely disrespectful, not to mention lazy and stupid. She loves to cause exhausting drama and thrives on attacking others' self-esteem so that she can feel better about herself. She doesn't live in reality and is a complete piss-a**. Her behavior disrupts our entire family, but unfortunately she doesn't want to get the mental help that she so desperately needs.SHE'S A LOSER!!
italianblonde italianblonde 7 years
Definitely my mom. We've probably only had two 'real' conversations ever. Anytime she talks to me, she's just putting me down in the worst way. Recently my brother got married and his wife made it so that he doesn't even talk to her anymore; she does cause a lot of drama, but I know he still wants to talk to her. It's vague but it would take forever to tell a whole story. A few others but who has time to write it all...:/
cubadog cubadog 7 years
My younger sister causes so much drama it would take hours to give all the details.
lauraxtc lauraxtc 7 years
Definitely. I have an older brother who is a drug user and it affects all the family. We try to help him but he always relapses. It really bugs me because he manipulates my mom and he doesn't care about his kids. I mean c'mon, he doesn't even change for his children. He wont change unless he really wants to. Its so sad. I was pretty bad too back in the days but I have sobered up and started living right. So I try to be understanding, but it really bugs me that he can't be a man enough to change. It's all in your mind. If I was able to get through it, I know he can too but he doesn't want to. = (
lauraxtc lauraxtc 7 years
Definitely. I have an older brother who is a drug user and it affects all the family. We try to help him but he always relapses. It really bugs me because he manipulates my mom and he doesn't care about his kids. I mean c'mon, he doesn't even change for his children. He wont change unless he really wants to. Its so sad.I was pretty bad too back in the days but I have sobered up and started living right. So I try to be understanding, but it really bugs me that he can't be a man enough to change. It's all in your mind. If I was able to get through it, I know he can too but he doesn't want to. = (
Jude-C Jude-C 7 years
I think I'm the most problematic member of my family, to be honest--not because I cause anyone any problems, just because I'm sort of the black sheep anyway ;)
Liss1 Liss1 7 years
My mother. I won't go into all of it but she is the devil!
glam-sugar glam-sugar 7 years
Yes, one sister and one brother really bother me. And their spouses aren't the greatest either.
melda melda 7 years
yes my sister..
melda melda 7 years
yes my sister..
sparkles61785 sparkles61785 7 years
My mother is difficult. She thrives on making my life a living hell. Our whole "relationship" has been a constant struggle. She belittles my siblings and I, puts her husband (my stepdad, who is an asshole and also difficult!) over us, is very blatant about not caring about how what she says or does makes us feel, minimizes my contribution to the household; ignoring the fact that I have over 25,000 in student loans to pay off (with no help from her), all because she didn't help me with a dime of tuition (because according to her, since I want to further my education, it's my full responsibility). As soon as I move out of this house (which I should've a long time ago, but did not in order to attend my dream grad school), I will cut off ALL contact with her!
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 7 years
I have difficult parents. I seriously believe they both have personality disorders -- of the narcissistic, bi-polar variety. They're prone to pathological lying, too. I used to struggle with them, but these days, I'm doing well with them. I found ways to put up passive boundaries, and due to their personality disorders, they're somewhat easy to manipulate. They're like caricatures.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 7 years
I have difficult parents. I seriously believe they both have personality disorders -- of the narcissistic, bi-polar variety. They're prone to pathological lying, too.I used to struggle with them, but these days, I'm doing well with them. I found ways to put up passive boundaries, and due to their personality disorders, they're somewhat easy to manipulate. They're like caricatures.
Meike Meike 7 years
My dad used to be very difficult but I guess being the first-born daughter, that is to be expected. As I grew into womanhood, he eventually became more laid back with me.
kia kia 7 years
BlairBear, I sympathize. I have had to kiss my sister's butt for years to have access to my nieces. I am super close with her eldest two but not the last three simply because I can't see maintaining my one-sided relationship with her for over another decade.
ohkate ohkate 7 years
I have difficult parents and a difficult older sister. I often feel bad venting to friends about them because they get such a one sided story, thankfully all of them are mature enough to realize, when giving advice, that they are only hearing one side of the story. most people tell me with time things will get better with my folks but I hate to say it, right now it seems rather bleak. as for things with my sister... I'm perfectly fine not talking to her for years to come. yeah she's blood but some of the shit she pulled is just unforgivable.
ohkate ohkate 7 years
I have difficult parents and a difficult older sister. I often feel bad venting to friends about them because they get such a one sided story, thankfully all of them are mature enough to realize, when giving advice, that they are only hearing one side of the story.most people tell me with time things will get better with my folks but I hate to say it, right now it seems rather bleak. as for things with my sister... I'm perfectly fine not talking to her for years to come. yeah she's blood but some of the shit she pulled is just unforgivable.
Kimpossible Kimpossible 7 years
My Mother in law. She's very demanding - especially in public and in 'service' type situations - like restaurants, hotels etc. She thinks that as soon as she walks in everyone should drop everything and cater to her, I'm not even sure she's aware that there are other people there wanting the same things she does (food, valet, whatever). Also things always have to be done her way. It used to make me very angry, until this past Christmas she once again went completely overboard with Christmas even when we specifically asked her not to. So my husband talked to her and it did not go well. It was then that I finally realized that she has issues deeper than I ever imagined and I now feel sorry for her for these parts of her personality. On the other hand, she's an awesome Grandmother, loves those children with all her heart, would lay down her life for them. She means well, she just doesn't always act like she does. It's very hard sometimes to deal with, but I'm learning... lol and we've only been married for 12 years ;-)
leeluvfashion leeluvfashion 7 years
My godmother. Long story however there is definitely bad blood between my parents and her.
BlairBear BlairBear 7 years
My sister. She thinks she is the best in our family. She is always on my case about something. We just started speaking again last year after not talking for two. The only reason I talk to her now is so I can see my nieces. She constantly holds that over my head and everyone elses. If we're not nice to her or speak our mind to her, we don't get to see them. She doesn't like my husband because he's in the Army but one of my brothers is in the Army too and she's ok with that. She won't talk to my oldest brother because of the way he treated her when they were younger but I have to kiss her @ss, when she treated me just like he treated her. She's a b!tch but we have to put up with it to see her little girls.
mnp mnp 7 years
My younger sister who think she knows everything and anything. Blah. To make it short and sweet, she was a teen mother.
ladychaos ladychaos 7 years
I have a whole side of a family like that.
brittanyk brittanyk 7 years
I have issues with my dad. We're very similar so we're constantly butting heads. Plus he has issues with alcoholism, so it's not always such a great time to be around him.
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