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Do Tell: How Do You Deal With Braggarts?

As I’ve said before, I think there’s nothing wrong with tooting your own horn every now and then — hey, we all have a right to feel proud of ourselves — but even so, no one likes a braggart. I especially have a difficult time with bragging if it comes from a close friend or someone whom I care about and respect. I already think the people in my life are amazing, so if they’re gloating just for the sake of looking good, it’s easy to feel put off. Have you experienced this? Do you have people in your life that like to brag? If so, how do you tend to react?

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snowysakurasky snowysakurasky 8 years
if you want to brag about your self to impress people and make them envy you, do it subtly and DONT over do it. Otherwise no one will be impressed, all they will be thinking is how annoying and conceited you are. I hate braggers, especially when they brag about the same thing twice ( or more), because im not one to interrupt and say, 'you already told me that.' Just can't do it~!
jennjennnbubba jennjennnbubba 8 years
If its just a random bragger then I just agree and smile and pretend to care. If its a close friend, I let them have their moment in the spotlight and happily share in the enthusiasm. I am not a particularly jealous person so bragging doesn't get you very far for me...
jennjennnbubba jennjennnbubba 8 years
If its just a random bragger then I just agree and smile and pretend to care. If its a close friend, I let them have their moment in the spotlight and happily share in the enthusiasm.I am not a particularly jealous person so bragging doesn't get you very far for me...
a-nonny-mouse a-nonny-mouse 8 years
Honestly? Ignore them. Coping skills learned in elementary school still serve in adult life.
a-nonny-mouse a-nonny-mouse 8 years
Honestly? Ignore them.Coping skills learned in elementary school still serve in adult life.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
I work with a woman who is always bragging about buying new things (boats, ATV's, jewelry, vacations) and than complains about being in so much debt. its all bought on credit cards. Annoys me to death.
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 8 years
If I get cornered by one, I will tune him or her out. If I can avoid the person, I will, at all costs! Braggers are disgusting. GET A LIFE!
leeluvfashion leeluvfashion 8 years
Well since they brag for attention, I refuse to give that to them. If they say something I'll just nod my head and say "uh huh" or "yeah." And that is usually while I'm reading a magazine; give them eye contact and they won't shut up. ;) I usually avoid being friends with people who brag; it is a major turn-off. It's okay to casually talk about topics however not to the point where your shoving that info in someone's face; especially when that person is going through difficult times.
leeluvfashion leeluvfashion 8 years
Well since they brag for attention, I refuse to give that to them. If they say something I'll just nod my head and say "uh huh" or "yeah." And that is usually while I'm reading a magazine; give them eye contact and they won't shut up. ;)I usually avoid being friends with people who brag; it is a major turn-off. It's okay to casually talk about topics however not to the point where your shoving that info in someone's face; especially when that person is going through difficult times.
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
depends on who it is. if it's someone i know casually who is excited to briefly share i just kind of say "oh yeah? great" and nod. if it's a good friend i celebrate with them. if however it is one of the very annoying mothers who have a child in one of my daughter's classes or activities i let them go on and on and say things like "wow, really?! tell me more! isn't that wonderful." and then the next time i see them i ask how their little genius/progidy is doing in math/swimming, whatever they were bragging about. of course by that time their kids turn in the sun is over and they have nothing to say. it REALLY bothers me when people try to compete through their kids. i have about weeded out the braggarts with this method and a couple moms actual avoid me now :)
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
depends on who it is. if it's someone i know casually who is excited to briefly share i just kind of say "oh yeah? great" and nod. if it's a good friend i celebrate with them. if however it is one of the very annoying mothers who have a child in one of my daughter's classes or activities i let them go on and on and say things like "wow, really?! tell me more! isn't that wonderful." and then the next time i see them i ask how their little genius/progidy is doing in math/swimming, whatever they were bragging about. of course by that time their kids turn in the sun is over and they have nothing to say. it REALLY bothers me when people try to compete through their kids. i have about weeded out the braggarts with this method and a couple moms actual avoid me now :)
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
"oh, and the contractors are so dirty, and they leave feet tracks on my shag carpets, and you know how hard it is to keep travertine clean..." If I had shag carpeting, I wouldn't mention it. :) Is that floor surface STILL being manufactured?? :) If the contractors ruined my one-of-a-kind, antique rug (that's over 100 years), that's something to complain about, and passively brag about. :) ;) Also, travertine is not hard to keep clean, if it was treated with the appropriate top coat. I'm filing this under -- empty bragging. I would be decidedly unimpressed. :) ;)
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
"oh, and the contractors are so dirty, and they leave feet tracks on my shag carpets, and you know how hard it is to keep travertine clean..."If I had shag carpeting, I wouldn't mention it. :) Is that floor surface STILL being manufactured?? :) If the contractors ruined my one-of-a-kind, antique rug (that's over 100 years), that's something to complain about, and passively brag about. :) ;)Also, travertine is not hard to keep clean, if it was treated with the appropriate top coat.I'm filing this under -- empty bragging. I would be decidedly unimpressed. :) ;)
austerity austerity 8 years
IMHO, confidence is when you're tooting your horn just to make yourself feel good and sharing your pride about yourself. Bragging on the other hand, is when you try to make yourself sound SUPERIOR TO OTHERS while doing so.
Megatron Megatron 8 years
I can relate to both of your situations cyrizzle and DCBaxter. I hate how immature some of my college peers can be especially when it comes to sex. I also have "friends" in the work world that don't know when to stop puffing themselves up. It's sooo annoying!
DCBaxter DCBaxter 8 years
I was commenting to a friend of mine how down I was about my current job situation and how I wanted to look for something new...she responds with a potential opportunity she has for HERSELF! How much money she could make ("and that's the low ball offer"), how great and wonderful it would be etc. and how once she was in she could "get me in and we could be buddies." I was so furious, but just said "Well, I hope it works out for you." And realized that we are meant to be acquaintances, not good friends.
cyrizzle cyrizzle 8 years
i have a frienemy who after she had sex for the first time bagged about it at like 2 or 3 in the AM. she told me not to tell anyone and i guess it's because she wanted to tell everyone herself. it's like "do you want me to be happy that you got used and everyone knows it but you?" she has confidence issues, but that's a different story. bowling for soup got it right, high school never ends, especially in college.
Blackwood Blackwood 8 years
If it happens just every once in a while, i can take it. But if it starts happening a lot, and it's always when there is people around (I hate two faced people... if you're gonna be a liar, be a liar to everybody!) it gets on my nerves, so I start reminding the person in question (in front of eeeeveeerybody she or he is trying to impress) some "embarrassing" things she/he would rather forget and hide from the world. Believe after a couple of times of doing this trick the bragging stops... there is never a third time. :P
Blackwood Blackwood 8 years
If it happens just every once in a while, i can take it.But if it starts happening a lot, and it's always when there is people around (I hate two faced people... if you're gonna be a liar, be a liar to everybody!) it gets on my nerves, so I start reminding the person in question (in front of eeeeveeerybody she or he is trying to impress) some "embarrassing" things she/he would rather forget and hide from the world.Believe after a couple of times of doing this trick the bragging stops... there is never a third time. :P
Asia84 Asia84 8 years
ohh, i hate those b*tches who go, "oh, and the contractors are so dirty, and they leave feet tracks on my shag carpets, and you know how hard it is to keep travertine clean..." and they say it right in front of the girl who has a house in foreclosure and her hubby is leaving her whilst jacking up her credit cards. that's mean...I'M not even that mean.
Asia84 Asia84 8 years
ohh, i hate those b*tches who go, "oh, and the contractors are so dirty, and they leave feet tracks on my shag carpets, and you know how hard it is to keep travertine clean..." and they say it right in front of the girl who has a house in foreclosure and her hubby is leaving her whilst jacking up her credit cards.that's mean...I'M not even that mean.
lovelie lovelie 8 years
I think there is a very profound difference between pride and arrogance. If you are proud of something and you wish to share those feelings, by all means!! However, arrogance, comes off as something very different. Talking oneself up...exaggeration, and just plain egotism is obnoxious.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
I'm in the minority here. I like bragging, especially if it comes from close friends and those I care about. In my opinion, if they could back-up their bragging, i.e. accomplished something really great or acquired something really great (and my close friends always do), I'm totally happy and supportive. I agree with them wholeheartedly. I cheer them on. It's my way of being happy for them. The only time I disapprove of bragging is if it's empty -- when people make-up lies to brag about. They try to make themselves look good based on untruths. That's pathetic. That's putting up a false pretense. THAT puts me off.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
I'm in the minority here. I like bragging, especially if it comes from close friends and those I care about. In my opinion, if they could back-up their bragging, i.e. accomplished something really great or acquired something really great (and my close friends always do), I'm totally happy and supportive. I agree with them wholeheartedly. I cheer them on. It's my way of being happy for them.The only time I disapprove of bragging is if it's empty -- when people make-up lies to brag about. They try to make themselves look good based on untruths. That's pathetic. That's putting up a false pretense. THAT puts me off.
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 8 years
I seriously thinks it comes from an insecurity. I mean, does it really make you better then anyone else?
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