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Do Tell: How Do You Overcome Jealousy?

Jealousy can bring out the worst in people. Whether you get steamed because your boyfriend has a late-night meeting with a pretty co-worker, or your good friend chose someone else to be her maid of honor, those hurt feelings can, in turn, make us do and say things to jeopardize our relationships. I find that being calm and honest with the person is the best approach, because if I followed through with my initial response, I'd probably end up regretting it. As human beings, we can't help but feel jealous from time to time, so how do you deal with these overwhelming feelings?

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sparklestar sparklestar 7 years
I am a VERY jealous person. I have a very understanding boyfriend though. Thankfully.
Miss-Senorita Miss-Senorita 7 years
I deal with jealously romantic wise by looking at the fact he is with me and if he wanted other people he could have been with them and that's how he looks at it with me as well. We also try not to bring up the past and compare. Non romantic way I look at all my strong qualities and think a person might have some jealousy towards me as well I work with what I got.
aimeeb aimeeb 7 years
otaku I'm with you.
aimeeb aimeeb 7 years
otaku I'm with you.
Jeny Jeny 7 years
To be honest, my boyfriend has some pretty hot friends lol.. But I haven't once gotten jealous because he is open and honest about everything. I've never trusted someone so much in my life. I'm thankful for that...
livline livline 7 years
Just talking about dating-type issues here.... And ooohhhh, my jealousy can be just silly green/purple, or whatever color it seems my face goes. I loathe feeling that anxiety and it makes me think myself as weak and childish. But I never say anything to the guy. And usually it's just me overreacting and/or my own personal demon insecurities.At least now I'm mature enough to be happy for friends who are in great relationships rather than when I was younger and immature about it and would be jealous if MY relationship wasn't the best. So.Dumb.
livline livline 7 years
Just talking about dating-type issues here.... And ooohhhh, my jealousy can be just silly green/purple, or whatever color it seems my face goes. I loathe feeling that anxiety and it makes me think myself as weak and childish. But I never say anything to the guy. And usually it's just me overreacting and/or my own personal demon insecurities. At least now I'm mature enough to be happy for friends who are in great relationships rather than when I was younger and immature about it and would be jealous if MY relationship wasn't the best. So.Dumb.
skigurl skigurl 7 years
when i get jealous, it often seems to be because someone else is doing something i'm not like when i get testy at my bf, it's not because he is hanging out with girls, for instance, it's that i was at home while he was partying ... it's weird
skigurl skigurl 7 years
when i get jealous, it often seems to be because someone else is doing something i'm notlike when i get testy at my bf, it's not because he is hanging out with girls, for instance, it's that i was at home while he was partying ... it's weird
melizzle melizzle 7 years
Never been a jealous person.. either of other people or in relationships. If I trust someone completely, I can't justify jealousy.
babesio3 babesio3 7 years
I'm not jealous of the things people have, it's more along the lines of girls talking to my fiance or something along those lines. I know he's with and comes home to me, but still it gets under my skin. :shrug: I wish I could change how I feel.
MorganJocelyn MorganJocelyn 7 years
I agree with Otaku and Laura__j : /As much as I try to tell myself how ridiculous it is and how NOT worth it it is, it's still hard!But jealousy has also ruined a relationship in my experience, so I tend to be very aware of how irrational my feelings might be once I step back and actually look at the situation.I think my jealousy is stemmed from insecurities as well.. which doesn't make it suck any less..And I notice that if I'm feeling jealous, I tend to think to myself that whoever I'm jealous of is probably really unhappy with parts of their lives, so there's no reason to be jealous.If that's terrible, I apologize, but I'm just telling the truth.(sigh) Oy vay.
MorganJocelyn MorganJocelyn 7 years
I agree with Otaku and Laura__j : / As much as I try to tell myself how ridiculous it is and how NOT worth it it is, it's still hard! But jealousy has also ruined a relationship in my experience, so I tend to be very aware of how irrational my feelings might be once I step back and actually look at the situation. I think my jealousy is stemmed from insecurities as well.. which doesn't make it suck any less.. And I notice that if I'm feeling jealous, I tend to think to myself that whoever I'm jealous of is probably really unhappy with parts of their lives, so there's no reason to be jealous. If that's terrible, I apologize, but I'm just telling the truth. (sigh) Oy vay.
TidalWave TidalWave 7 years
Whenever I begin to feel jealous in a relationship I just say to myself, "He is with me and is going home with me," so that usually makes me feel better. If I start to feel envious of others' lives, I take a step back and make a quick mental list of things I am grateful for in my life or that I am proud of. I also think to myself that those I am envious of might not be nearly as happy as I am with their life.
TidalWave TidalWave 7 years
Whenever I begin to feel jealous in a relationship I just say to myself, "He is with <i>me</i> and is going home with <i>me</i>," so that usually makes me feel better.If I start to feel envious of others' lives, I take a step back and make a quick mental list of things I am grateful for in my life or that I am proud of. I also think to myself that those I am envious of might not be nearly as happy as I am with their life.
macchiatolove macchiatolove 7 years
Zabrow, I could have written your post myself! crazy! I find the best way is to be as completely blank-faced as possible, and to try to think about something else. Once I'm removed from the direct presence of the person who is making me jealous, I usually calm down a lot, but having a whinge to a friend that also agrees is another good way of dealing with it I find, haha!
macchiatolove macchiatolove 7 years
Zabrow, I could have written your post myself! crazy! I find the best way is to be as completely blank-faced as possible, and to try to think about something else. Once I'm removed from the direct presence of the person who is making me jealous, I usually calm down a lot, but having a whinge to a friend that also agrees is another good way of dealing with it I find, haha!
Myst Myst 7 years
aww that's sucks and yay for you for going to the strip clubs together! Sounds like a good time.
Hiding55 Hiding55 7 years
I don't think so. I am normally very open with that kind of stuff. We have gone to a strip club together in the past. He was just telling me about his fun night. I just didn't like hearing about it because I wasn't there.
kandrew4 kandrew4 7 years
Hiding55, I wonder if he was trying to make you jealous?
Hiding55 Hiding55 7 years
I'm not usually the jealous type but right now I am and I have no idea how to deal with it. My bf went to a bachelor party last night and proceeded to tell me all about the strippers in detail this morning. I found myself getting really annoyed and testy with him and then it dawned on me that I am jealous! If anyone knows how to make it stop I'm all ears.
pippins_halfling pippins_halfling 7 years
I have a hard time controlling my jealousy because I'm naturally jealous... But I find that most of my initial reactions to things are jealousy, so if I wait awhile (like an hour or two and do something else), I usually realize that I was being irrational.
laura_j laura_j 7 years
I wouldn't feel comfortable knowing someone else was 'borrowing' my man in the interim. On an unrelated note to the thread, I would keep my eyes peeled if I were you. There has to be some great guys around your area..
shoesuga shoesuga 7 years
My boyfriend and I broke up when I moved across the country to go to school. We're planning on getting back together when I graduate in a few months, but he's dating someone else for now. I personally hate the arrangement, but I love him and its the only way I can hold onto him. It feels awful but I just try not to think about it.
oohsexypenguin oohsexypenguin 7 years
Otaku and laura_j, I too am a naturally jealous person. It stems from long-standing insecurities, but I'm slowly getting over those. It still isn't easy to just keep my mouth shut (so I don't start a stupid argument lol), but ultimately I'm learning that jealousy just isn't worth it.
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