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Do Tell: What Porn-Inspired Move Do You Wish Men Would Stop?

In a funny and kind of sad essay, a writer on Salon discusses how sex with men who watch porn (or maybe she means too much porn) can sometimes make her feel like she's starring in a private porno against her will. The moves are too rehearsed, too cheesy, too porn-y. "It’s hard to feel fully in the moment," she writes, "when you’re thinking of what it would be like to watch it."

For some women, porn and its influence can make sex more varied and exciting, but for others, it may feel like their partners are just busting out moves they've seen in a porn film that do nothing at all for them. If you're sleeping with a man who is copying porn moves, what's the one you wish he'd stop doing?

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pineapple217 pineapple217 6 years
Guys just don't get it sometimes!
myprivatespace myprivatespace 6 years
in the beginning, we used to make out in a room adjacent to which his other roomies would sleep. so it embarrassed me to make any sounds. since then it is pretty impossible for me to deliberately make sounds when it just doesn't come to me. and he always says that he wants me to moan or such orgy sounds like that. he also slaps on my butt when we r in th middle of the doggie shot. it is a turn off for me. what fun is there in hitting? aren't ur nail pricks enough painful already. maybe i m too sophisticated in my sex life as well. but i allow all this just for his satisfaction..
sugajen sugajen 6 years
I like to dress up a little or play games but i HATE it when a guy tells me what to do like a command. You can tell if I guy watches too much porn if he wants you to say stupid things like "call me big daddy" or watch in the mirror. Too much of that is such a turn off.
bellavita214 bellavita214 6 years
I think a little porn can be fun every now and then in little amounts. If every time we have sex I feel like there should be a camera crew in the room with us... um.....eww.
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 6 years
Muirnea I'm with you. I really hate porn becase it gives men unrealistic expectations of women. I mean, I'm not a porn starlet, I'm not going to act like I'm on camera when we're alone. I really really really really hate being asked if I want to take a facial. Getting spunk in my eyes once was enough. That stuffs like battery acid.
biarose biarose 6 years
I hate how they want to to cum on your tits. It's gross.
Venus1 Venus1 6 years
I have already commented here, so excuse me having a second bit of the cherry as it were! I think the last 3 posts are so spot on; porn has a lot to answer for! Maybe we need some more genuinely educational videos to show how to really pleasure a woman. The industry could also act more responsibly by demonstrating that condoms are cool.
acyl acyl 6 years
LOL tlsgirl, Hiding55! Yeah, my boyfriend is baffled why I don't enjoy being used as a cum rag, pardon the expression! It's sticky and messy and frankly it's your mess, not mine! And it's not really a move guys do, but expecting us to make scream and moan like they do in pornos is annoying. I mean really it's so ridiculous!
Hiding55 Hiding55 6 years
Lol, the comments were funny to read. Thank God my bf doesn't try to do anything that even remotely resembles a porn move. Well, except for the time he threw my legs over his shoulders. The look of discomfort on my face quickly put an end to that. I have had guys in the past do the jackhammer pounding technique as well as ask me where I want them to cum. Uhm hello? It's not sexy for you to pull it out and hose me down after you just beat the crap out of my lady parts. Keep your mess to yourself.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 6 years
Wanting to jerk off anywhere on me. It's demeaning and gross, does nothing for me, and if that crap gets in your eyes it hurts like hell. Also, any version of the jackhammer sex that always seems to "work" in pornos. Not cool.
lauraxtc lauraxtc 6 years
I agree with gawj but I never tell my bf. and I actually like watching porn. well not religiously but everynow and then I like watching. My bf doesn't really do anything to me that I haven't done before and besides I am very open about sexuality. so its all good.
Gawjuslayd Gawjuslayd 6 years
IMO- I love thinking I am in a porno when having sex. I have asked my boyfriend to play along but he says it's fake, cheesey, and too much of a cliche. I think it is kinda hot.
Venus1 Venus1 6 years
Agree about the tongue flick. Go down properly guys, stay there until the job is done and don't think because we are not making daft loud noises we are not having a good time. Don't expect us in bed in high heels either!
Muirnea Muirnea 6 years
All of them. As soon as I lose the feeling of connection to my partner and I start feeling like a piece of meat that the guy isn't even thinking of as a person, then of course I'm just totally turned off and that's the end of it. I HATE porn. Really, I do. Not judging anyone else, but personally, I hate it. 99.9% of porn is only about the guy getting off, nothing in porn is ever about making the woman feel good or get off. It's so degrading. And the fact that guys do sometimes bring that to the real world is super not cool.
karlotta karlotta 6 years
Jerking off above/among/between/on my ass. I'm sorry, is this supposed to do anything for me?
WritingLikeCrazy WritingLikeCrazy 6 years
The tongue flick when they're going down on you. First off, they look like snakes, which is only marginally sexy. Secondly, they barely touch the goods. Lick, boys, don't flick.
Pistil Pistil 6 years
Thankfully I don't have that problem anymore. I did date a guy who always requested the 'moneyshot', and I'm so glad I never agreed to do something for someone who never cared about my own satisfaction. From the article: "He did not have sex with me. He had sex on me." That was him exactly.
The-New-Black The-New-Black 6 years
I once knew a guy who would sort of slap me with his penis during sex. I didn't get that at all.
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