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Do Tell: Why Didn't He Call?

Do Tell: Why Didn't He Call?

Last night I was catching up with a girlfriend and our conversation went straight to her date from the previous week. They went out on Thursday night, had a great time, and kissed goodnight, but as of Monday, she still hadn't heard from him. After lamenting for a while, the inevitable question was asked: why didn't he call? Not only do I get asked this time and time again, but it's a simple question I ask my friends, too. Yet every time we all come up short. Who knows why he didn't call — it could be because he's busy or simply because he's not interested, but either way, no answer is good enough therefore the question remains. Does this pattern sound familiar? It's one of the most frustrating questions to ask and to answer, but do tell, do you do it anyway?

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Janine22 Janine22 8 years
If he doesn't call soon after your date, he's not that interested. So why would you waste any more of your time wondering why he didn't call? Bottom line: if he likes you enough, he WILL call within a few days of your date. If not, don't waste your time and energy thinking about him anymore. If he does call later on, perhaps pretend you don't remember him, or don't answer your phone. If his mom really was in the hospital or work really was that crazy, then he will be dying to talk to you and will leave a message and then call back again. I don't get why women always like men that don't seem that interested in them. I guess it's the playing hard to get thing, but I am not into those petty games. If a guy likes you enough, he will call soon. It's that simple.
Janine22 Janine22 8 years
If he doesn't call soon after your date, he's not that interested. So why would you waste any more of your time wondering why he didn't call? Bottom line: if he likes you enough, he WILL call within a few days of your date. If not, don't waste your time and energy thinking about him anymore. If he does call later on, perhaps pretend you don't remember him, or don't answer your phone. If his mom really was in the hospital or work really was that crazy, then he will be dying to talk to you and will leave a message and then call back again.I don't get why women always like men that don't seem that interested in them. I guess it's the playing hard to get thing, but I am not into those petty games. If a guy likes you enough, he will call soon. It's that simple.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 8 years
He's just not that into you. Plain and simple, don't take it personally and you're better off to know now than waste lots of time with someone who doesn't want to be with you. Just like they said on SATC.
sarah100682 sarah100682 8 years
Don't take it personal. You might have had a nice time, and maybe even he did, but if he didnt feel a connection, then he didn't. Just because he doesnt call doesnt mean there is something wrong with you, or that he found a problem, maybe just that he doesnt think it will work. And if hes not into you, then its better off that he doesnt call.
sarah100682 sarah100682 8 years
Don't take it personal. You might have had a nice time, and maybe even he did, but if he didnt feel a connection, then he didn't. Just because he doesnt call doesnt mean there is something wrong with you, or that he found a problem, maybe just that he doesnt think it will work. And if hes not into you, then its better off that he doesnt call.
thelorax thelorax 8 years
Echoing zcoral: "He's just not that into you." AND, if he doesn't have the decency to call you if he says he will, then thank goodness for that. We deserve to date DECENT men at the very least!
thelorax thelorax 8 years
Echoing zcoral: "He's just not that into you." AND, if he doesn't have the decency to call you if he says he will, then thank goodness for that. We deserve to date DECENT men at the very least!
Jeny Jeny 8 years
Because guys still play the 'don't call for 5 days rule' which is really retarded but who knows.. maybe he's just not that into her.
zabrow zabrow 8 years
i third the "he's just not that into you." if a guy likes you, he will call.
clareberrys clareberrys 8 years
Yes, I second that "he's jujst not that into you" Thank you Berger!!!
clareberrys clareberrys 8 years
Yes, I second that "he's jujst not that into you"Thank you Berger!!!
chocolatine chocolatine 8 years
sundaygreen, a guy isn't necessarily a jackass if he doesn't call, but it would be nice if he could just say "You're cool, but I don't think there's chemistry between us", so that there are no misunderstandings and everyone emerges with their dignity intact. (The same goes for a girl not interested in a guy, of course.)
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
Sunday - I should have been more specific - I meant OFTEN he's saved you a lot of grief because if (in my experience) he's not calling because of hangups, then that's a good thing for you. Not that he's generally a jackass, but that often some other girl is involved or something's wrong that you're happy not to deal with anyway.
myystque myystque 8 years
He's not interested. Even if they're busy, if they are into you, they'll find time to call.
bluestar bluestar 8 years
Damn...can I do this to a guy?
sundaygreen sundaygreen 8 years
I don't think a guy is necessarily a jackass because he didn't call or isn't interested in you.
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
Of course - but often, he's actually saved you a lot of grief because he's a jackass. I don't get hung up on this sort of thing anymore... unless of course someone you're dating seriously just up and disappears.
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 8 years
There was a really bad book I read once where this girl gets dumped and she has no idea why. Later you find out that the guy dumped her because he had a seizure disorder, and he loved her SO much he didn't want to burden her with taking care of him. So if my friends ask me why a guy didn't call, I always he that he probably has a seizure disorder and couldn't possibly put her through the stress of taking care of someone with that kind of medical condition. Like I said, it was a really bad book.
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 8 years
There was a really bad book I read once where this girl gets dumped and she has no idea why. Later you find out that the guy dumped her because he had a seizure disorder, and he loved her SO much he didn't want to burden her with taking care of him.So if my friends ask me why a guy didn't call, I always he that he probably has a seizure disorder and couldn't possibly put her through the stress of taking care of someone with that kind of medical condition.Like I said, it was a really bad book.
Vespa Vespa 8 years
Either not into you or playing games. Lame. I just...ugh! This drives me nuts. But then again I have been happily committed for years, and we talked on IM about ten minutes after our first date ended. :)
CupcakeGal10 CupcakeGal10 8 years
Argh, it really is the most infuriating question, as it's the most commonly asked and so hard to answer. No two guys are alike, so it's hard to say what makes them phone-scared/lazy. But it's comforting to see this on DearSugar- I started dating a guy two months ago. Got back from vacation about two weeks ago, didn't hear from him for seven days, thought he had lost interest, and then the next week out of the blue he texts me to say hello during his travels. I think at a certain point you have to stop trying to analyze and just be clear about what you want: if you don't feel you're getting the attention you deserve, move on! Life is too short and too great to settle for second best.
zcoral zcoral 8 years
He's just not that into you.
chocolatine chocolatine 8 years
There could be many reasons for this: 1. The perception of a "good time" is quite subjective. She might have had a great time, but not him. 2. A kiss doesn't mean much for many people. Even if it was technically good, he might not have felt the spark. 3. He might still be hung up on an ex-girlfriend. 4. Something you she said/did on the date might have been a deal-breaker for him. The bottom line is, he's not (or no longer) interested, and it's better for her to move on and date other guys than to dwell on it.
ayabeachgirl ayabeachgirl 8 years
This is why I despise dating. I usually conclude that he's not interested. But one time this guy didn't call for 5 days after what seemed to be a great 3rd date. we'll be on on our 6th date soon, so sometimes you can't tell so soon. ugh, I wish I could read their minds.
partysugar partysugar 8 years
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