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Do Tell: Would It Be a Deal-Breaker if He Didn't Vote?

Do Tell: Would It Be a Deal-Breaker if He Didn't Vote?

I asked you a few weeks ago whether or not you've ever dated someone with differing political views, and the outcome was mixed — some of you have done it before only to have the relationship end in failure, while others respected their significant other's differing views. Since this is such an important election year, tell me, would a guy choosing not to exercise his right to vote be a deal-breaker for you and your relationship?

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watts watts 7 years
Definately. My ex had told me that he would never vote, because he felt everyone only voted for the "popular person," therefore other people's ignorance turned him off from voting. I've voted the first chance I could after turning 18. I also like to keep up on current events which is another place where he differed. His own ignorance turned me off, and that's why he's my ex.
watts watts 7 years
Definately. My ex had told me that he would never vote, because he felt everyone only voted for the "popular person," therefore other people's ignorance turned him off from voting. I've voted the first chance I could after turning 18. I also like to keep up on current events which is another place where he differed. His own ignorance turned me off, and that's why he's my ex.
foxie foxie 7 years
Neither my husband or I voted this year, but we refrained out of spite and frustration, not because we don't care. We couldn't stomach for voting for either ticket. That being said, I don't know how I'd feel about being with someone who didn't vote just because they were uninformed or generally apathetic.
bloomsgal8 bloomsgal8 7 years
Maybe. My boyfriend has never really cared for politics, but I think my enthusiasm rubbed off on him this year. I think I would have been really upset with him if he didnt vote, and even though I sent in his registration and pestered him it was his decision whether to or not. And afterwards, he actually told me he was glad he voted! I dont think its a deal-breaker but it just upsets me when people are so apathetic and then COMPLAIN. If you don't vote or take the time to even educate yourself on the issues, then don't complain. One of his friends was really passionate about the California No on Prop 8 and yet she didnt even vote!
bloomsgal8 bloomsgal8 7 years
Maybe.My boyfriend has never really cared for politics, but I think my enthusiasm rubbed off on him this year. I think I would have been really upset with him if he didnt vote, and even though I sent in his registration and pestered him it was his decision whether to or not. And afterwards, he actually told me he was glad he voted! I dont think its a deal-breaker but it just upsets me when people are so apathetic and then COMPLAIN. If you don't vote or take the time to even educate yourself on the issues, then don't complain.One of his friends was really passionate about the California No on Prop 8 and yet she didnt even vote!
mkitty mkitty 7 years
Autumns Elegy- I think people can care about the future of this country without voting. For example, I work in public policy and spend my days working on different issues and working with lawmakers to get legislation passed. I also rarely vote, mostly because there has not been anybody in a long time that I think represent my values and because when you look at the math behind it my vote simply does not count. So plenty of ways to work towards a brighter future for America without voting in my opinion.
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 7 years
I used to date a guy who told me that he would never cast a worthwhile vote, he'd just donkey it. I lost a lot of respect for him that day. Voting in Australia is compulsory, but I think that if you don't cast a worthwhile vote, then you have no right to comment on the government or any government managed system. My parents raised me to be politically aware and to make my vote count, and I think that anyone who doesn't want to vote doesn't care about the future of their country.
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 7 years
I used to date a guy who told me that he would never cast a worthwhile vote, he'd just donkey it. I lost a lot of respect for him that day.Voting in Australia is compulsory, but I think that if you don't cast a worthwhile vote, then you have no right to comment on the government or any government managed system. My parents raised me to be politically aware and to make my vote count, and I think that anyone who doesn't want to vote doesn't care about the future of their country.
macchiatolove macchiatolove 7 years
Well, in Australia it's a finable offence if you don't vote. So yes, it would be a deal breaker for me, but if it wasn't compulsory... I'm not sure. I think I'd always vote but if he did or not, I think that's somewhat his decision? To be honest, I think it would be a bigger impact on our relationship if we had oposite political views, rather than if he was apathetic.
macchiatolove macchiatolove 7 years
Well, in Australia it's a finable offence if you don't vote. So yes, it would be a deal breaker for me, but if it wasn't compulsory...I'm not sure. I think I'd always vote but if he did or not, I think that's somewhat his decision? To be honest, I think it would be a bigger impact on our relationship if we had oposite political views, rather than if he was apathetic.
lickety-split lickety-split 7 years
lol, not at all. no voting; acceptable. no showering; that's another story.
ECULeah ECULeah 7 years
Yes, my SO has to be smart and informed enough to be able to intelligently vote.
Muirnea Muirnea 7 years
I don't think it would be a deal breaker, but it would bother me a little bit. And it would depend on the reason. For example, I don't think people who aren't informed and who don't even know anything about the candidates should be voting. My bf didn't vote today, but that was b/c something got messed up. He thought he was registered and was going to go vote, but then he got a notice that he wasn't registered and there was no possible way there was time to re-register before the election, so he didn't get to...:/ Which was really really stupid.
Muirnea Muirnea 7 years
I don't think it would be a deal breaker, but it would bother me a little bit. And it would depend on the reason. For example, I don't think people who aren't informed and who don't even know anything about the candidates should be voting. My bf didn't vote today, but that was b/c something got messed up. He thought he was registered and was going to go vote, but then he got a notice that he wasn't registered and there was no possible way there was time to re-register before the election, so he didn't get to...:/ Which was really really stupid.
mkitty mkitty 7 years
Check this out: from economist standpoint: http://www.pbs.org/vote2008/video/2008/08/voting_schmoting.html
LilGlamDiva LilGlamDiva 7 years
It would definitely give me second thoughts. I want to be with someone who is motivated and involved as a citizen, and a person.... not sure I could deal with such apathy.
mkitty mkitty 7 years
No way, I think people should be informed before they vote on the issues, so if somebody is not informed I think it is their right to self select out. Also, I hate when people say "if you don’t vote, you can't complain"...of course you can if you pay taxes and you are a citizen. I have less respect for people who vote willy-nilly than those who choose not to vote because the candidates don't represent their views.
Michelann Michelann 7 years
It depends on the reason. If he's just lazy or uninterested in politics, he's probably not my type anyway. If he's got a legitimate reason for not voting (say, if he doesn't like any candidate) then it wouldn't bother me at all.
bluesteyes bluesteyes 7 years
I think I would find it hugely disappointing-HUGELY. But if he isn't in the country it's cool. If he is in the country and he's too lazy? I would drag him there myself
iamangiepooh iamangiepooh 7 years
I'm not voting because I know that I'm not that informed about politics. I know I should be, but I haven't invested time to research each candidate thoroughly. My boyfriend is actually very into politics, and has answered a lot of questions for me. In the end, I still wasn't 100% confident enough to vote so I didn't. My boyfriend didn't vote either because he's out of town, although he knew who he wanted to vote for. Either way, it's not that big of a deal to me and definitely not a deal breaker.
Leene Leene 7 years
Yes, it would be a deal-breaker. I can't see future for a relationship, where the other one would be so different from me. I think voting is citizen's duty.
aimeeb aimeeb 7 years
356UIK Nader is on there again??!! I may have to go and vote then, for him!
aimeeb aimeeb 7 years
356UIK Nader is on there again??!! I may have to go and vote then, for him!
Stacey-Cakes Stacey-Cakes 7 years
Definitely a deal-breaker! I could never date someone who didn't care or was too lazy to get informed about the candidates/issues and get out there and vote.
queenlizzie queenlizzie 7 years
MAJOR deal breaker. Respect for one's country and understanding of the political system are absolutely key to me. Of course, I went to school for poli sci...
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