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Do Tell: Are You a Yes Ma'am?

Do Tell: Are You a Yes Ma'am?





Are you a push over? Do people constantly ask you for favors because they know you'll always say yes? If so, don't feel bad, because you're not alone. But even though you tend to oblige, do you wish you could just say "no"? Ladies, we all have our weak moments, but do tell: what do you wish you were better at saying "no" to?

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AmberBug AmberBug 8 years
This is definitely one of my biggest weaknesses. It's good and bad. Since I give, give, give... most of the time I have people to back me up whenever I am in need of help but other times I get taken advantage of by people with opposite personalities. My best friend is an opposite but I have learned how to deal with it... it's possible to be close to someone who's a taker as long as you recognize it!
vmruby vmruby 8 years
Never have been and never will be anyone's doormat.....period.
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 8 years
I'm no doormat, but I do try to do favors for friends if I can. If there is something I'm comfortable with though, I definitely have no problem saying no.
emalove emalove 8 years
I am a very friendly, kind person and I'm pretty laidback, but I am not a doormat. I used to be a pushover, I was nice to everyone (even those who I didn't like) and wanted to please everyone. But as I get older, I don't care so much. I have no problem telling someone to go screw.
mooshi mooshi 8 years
unfortunatly that's something i REALLY want to change in me, i can never say no and it's causing me a lot of problems, only recently, i tried to avoid something that has been asked from me and the reaction was shocking! they didn't talk to me anymore they thought it was rude, that's only coz i've always listened without saying one word but now i'm growing up and the people around me cannot accept it. :(
mooshi mooshi 8 years
unfortunatly that's something i REALLY want to change in me, i can never say no and it's causing me a lot of problems, only recently, i tried to avoid something that has been asked from me and the reaction was shocking! they didn't talk to me anymore they thought it was rude, that's only coz i've always listened without saying one word but now i'm growing up and the people around me cannot accept it. :(
PJ-PJ-PJ PJ-PJ-PJ 8 years
I used to be unable to stick up for myself & I never said no (especially at work). However, once I started sticking up for myself it was like a chain reaction. Now, several years later, I don't put up with much & subsequently I've earned my bitch card. Oh well, if that means that I don't let people walk all over me, then so be it.The older I get, the less tolerance for bull shit I have, so it is actually sort of a survival thing!By the way, to all of the baby-sitters that have trouble saying no....Certain family members kept expecting me to become part of her weekly scheduled (almost daily) child care program. After they got the no answer a few times they quit suggesting it. Stick to your guns, it's uncomfortable at first, but they shouldn't try to take advantage in the first place. (Ok, I do babysit, but only every once in a while, like when they want a night out. I'm not a total bitch & I do love those kids!)
PJ-PJ-PJ PJ-PJ-PJ 8 years
I used to be unable to stick up for myself & I never said no (especially at work). However, once I started sticking up for myself it was like a chain reaction. Now, several years later, I don't put up with much & subsequently I've earned my bitch card. Oh well, if that means that I don't let people walk all over me, then so be it. The older I get, the less tolerance for bull shit I have, so it is actually sort of a survival thing! By the way, to all of the baby-sitters that have trouble saying no....Certain family members kept expecting me to become part of her weekly scheduled (almost daily) child care program. After they got the no answer a few times they quit suggesting it. Stick to your guns, it's uncomfortable at first, but they shouldn't try to take advantage in the first place. (Ok, I do babysit, but only every once in a while, like when they want a night out. I'm not a total bitch & I do love those kids!)
omilawd omilawd 8 years
I am a huge pushover. I really wish I could be more assertive, but I don't know if it's going to happen anytime soon. :P
Marci Marci 8 years
I used to be, but not anymore.
Greggie Greggie 8 years
"Honestly, I think that once you start sticking up for yourself and saying no, it opens that door and you can say no again. It's a little uncomfortable, but soooo much better than being a doormat."I agree. And I actually have a really hard time feeling sorry for people who refuse to say no and then complain that they have no personal time. I also agree with gooniette - money is an absolute no unless you *give* it, not loan it. We're pretty much "nope" people when it comes to money because we simply can't afford it, but in an emergency we'll find a way and give it, not loan it. I don't want a "you need to pay me back" hanging over my head.
Greggie Greggie 8 years
"Honestly, I think that once you start sticking up for yourself and saying no, it opens that door and you can say no again. It's a little uncomfortable, but soooo much better than being a doormat." I agree. And I actually have a really hard time feeling sorry for people who refuse to say no and then complain that they have no personal time. I also agree with gooniette - money is an absolute no unless you *give* it, not loan it. We're pretty much "nope" people when it comes to money because we simply can't afford it, but in an emergency we'll find a way and give it, not loan it. I don't want a "you need to pay me back" hanging over my head.
gooniette gooniette 8 years
I don't say no at work. It feels so unprofessional. Otherwise, I'm so easy-going that I say yes all the time. One thing I've learned about money and friends though. If they ask to borrow it, just give it to them without the expectation of ever getting it back, if you can. If you can't afford that, you shouldn't be loaning them anything. If they do pay you back, bonus. If not, you already counted it as lost, so it's no biggie.
gooniette gooniette 8 years
I don't say no at work. It feels so unprofessional. Otherwise, I'm so easy-going that I say yes all the time. One thing I've learned about money and friends though. If they ask to borrow it, just give it to them without the expectation of ever getting it back, if you can. If you can't afford that, you shouldn't be loaning them anything. If they do pay you back, bonus. If not, you already counted it as lost, so it's no biggie.
Le-Luxe Le-Luxe 8 years
Not any more- I am just a bitc* now. Well not really, i am nice about it. haha
Knight-Who-Says-Ni Knight-Who-Says-Ni 8 years
I used to be a pushover, but as I got older that changed. Honestly, I think that once you start sticking up for yourself and saying no, it opens that door and you can say no again. It's a little uncomfortable, but soooo much better than being a doormat.
melda melda 8 years
ashcwebb my sister asks me to babysit her little girl every day!!!and i cannot say no :( she is a teacher and i babysit like everyday for 5 hours!!!! and my nephew asks me to do his homework! and my other sister asks me to type for her, well i have no time for myself...
melda melda 8 years
ashcwebb my sister asks me to babysit her little girl every day!!!and i cannot say no :( she is a teacher and i babysit like everyday for 5 hours!!!!and my nephew asks me to do his homework! and my other sister asks me to type for her, well i have no time for myself...
nikodarling nikodarling 8 years
I'm an absolute door mat. I wish someone would order me to stand up for myself.
fashionhore fashionhore 8 years
I have a hard time saying no to certain family members, but only to them. Others have the other end of the spectrum where they can never get me to do anything!
aimeeb aimeeb 8 years
Hardly...
aimeeb aimeeb 8 years
Hardly...
Tullia Tullia 8 years
no im not a push over. I used to be, but not anymore If someone hated you for saying no than he/she isnt a good friend
Tullia Tullia 8 years
no im not a push over.I used to be, but not anymoreIf someone hated you for saying no than he/she isnt a good friend
Greggie Greggie 8 years
Nope. If I don't want to do something, I don't do it. I'm not going to make me and the person unhappy by doing it against my will. I'm not offended when someone tells me no, either. I'd rather they be honest. Obviously, there's exceptions. I do stuff I don't fully want to when it comes to my family, for instance.
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