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Do You Know Anyone Who Came Out Later in Life?

We've known Meredith Baxter as the mom from Family Ties for decades now, but it wasn't until seven years ago that the 62-year-old actress really got to know herself. At the age of 55, Meredith realized that she is a lesbian.

The actress, who has been married three times and has five children, talked to Matt Lauer today about her "later-in-life recognition." Meredith explained that she had a great deal of difficulty relating to men, and it wasn't until she really connected with someone romantically — who happened to be a woman — that she accepted that she was gay.

Coming out later in life, which is the theme of a documentary called Out Late, comes with unusual challenges. In addition to worrying about telling her parents, Meredith also had to break the news to her kids. Have you ever known anyone who came out as gay later in life?

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danakscully64 danakscully64 6 years
A friend of my sisters (a family friend really) came out recently. She was married for quite a few years too (to a man). It was shocking to me not because she was a lesbian, but the last I had heard she was still married. I had missed quite a few major moments in her life.
kismekate kismekate 6 years
Glam, my mom came out to me as well 8 years ago!
Venus1 Venus1 6 years
For many it's not just a case of coming out later it is only recognising it later too. It has surprised more than a few people. One of the problems is that society wants to give everybody tags or labels.
kea718 kea718 6 years
A very good friend of mine's mom came out later in life. I know when it first happened it was a huge shock to the family. There had been other martial problems with her and her husband other than her sexuality. Now, she doesn't really have a relationship with her ex husband, but they're cordial to each other and they both went to my friends graduation. She found a female and they are now married. From what my friend and his little sis tell me, and show me, they're happy for their mom.
lauraxtc lauraxtc 6 years
spacekatgal I agree. I am bisexual and have always tried to be open about it. My mom would tell me it was just a phase and she sounded bothered by it but Its so confusing really. I would tell myself, "ok I am straight, I am done with women" but then I always go back to women. Right now I am in a relationship with a man. But in reality I find pleasure in both. In reality though, I have to play a straight role because I have kids and my son is already 10, I cannot bring myself to telling him that I like woman too. So I say nothing. Once he is older and he ever asks me, I will be honest.
lauraxtc lauraxtc 6 years
spacekatgalI agree. I am bisexual and have always tried to be open about it. My mom would tell me it was just a phase and she sounded bothered by it but Its so confusing really. I would tell myself, "ok I am straight, I am done with women" but then I always go back to women.Right now I am in a relationship with a man. But in reality I find pleasure in both.In reality though, I have to play a straight role because I have kids and my son is already 10, I cannot bring myself to telling him that I like woman too. So I say nothing. Once he is older and he ever asks me, I will be honest.
Glambitious Glambitious 6 years
My mother came out to me 3 yrs ago. The fact that she came out is not the issue, because I love my mother no matter what! Her girlfriend is what gets on my damn nerves.
Hiding55 Hiding55 6 years
Seems more like trial and error to me. She had 3 marraiges fail and she moved onto something completely different in hopes of finding happiness. I always say, do what makes you happy.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 6 years
I sure do. Also, I know of those who I strongly suspect to be gay who choose to remain closeted. Some of these folks are parents in a traditional family. Coming out is a difficult decision, and it's not a decision everyone makes.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 6 years
I sure do.Also, I know of those who I strongly suspect to be gay who choose to remain closeted. Some of these folks are parents in a traditional family.Coming out is a difficult decision, and it's not a decision everyone makes.
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 6 years
I agree the topics in general can seem saturated from time to time with gay themes but that's probably because real society is saturated with gay themes from psychology, sociology, politics and civil rights.
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 6 years
I agree the topics in general can seem saturated from time to time with gay themes but that's probably because real society is saturated with gay themes from psychology, sociology, politics and civil rights.
Beauty Beauty 6 years
So glad she came out — what great news!
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 6 years
*who is (now) in his late sixties.......
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 6 years
Sure, I know many people mostly men who have come out after 10-20 years of marriage and raising a family. I dated a 44yr old man for six months who was fresh out of an 18yr marriage with three kids. As I said before I knew it wasn't going to last because he was a kid in a new candy store I was just the first stop on a whole new adventure. My former therapist who is not in his late sixties came out when he was about fifty after twenty three years of marriage and raising a family. The interesting difference at least in my observation between men and women who come out later is that the men did it because they felt they had to hide but they knew all along and the women do it because it is some new realization that they're only just figuring out about themselves. Now that is interesting.
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 6 years
Sure, I know many people mostly men who have come out after 10-20 years of marriage and raising a family. I dated a 44yr old man for six months who was fresh out of an 18yr marriage with three kids. As I said before I knew it wasn't going to last because he was a kid in a new candy store I was just the first stop on a whole new adventure. My former therapist who is not in his late sixties came out when he was about fifty after twenty three years of marriage and raising a family. The interesting difference at least in my observation between men and women who come out later is that the men did it because they felt they had to hide but they knew all along and the women do it because it is some new realization that they're only just figuring out about themselves. Now that is interesting.
chillchic chillchic 6 years
I've known people who come out of the closet later in life, but they've known all along that they were gay. How the heck do you not know that you're not attracted to men and you wanna sleep woth women? That doesn't make sense
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