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Do you Practice Safe Sex in a Monogamous Relationship?

With infidelity statistics through the roof, you really can never be too careful when it comes to protecting yourself from STDs and AIDS, regardless if you are in a monogamous relationship or single and dating. An estimated one million people are currently living with AIDS in America and 40,000 new infections reported every year, 70% being men and 30% being women.



Misspoli posted an interesting question on TeamSugar that I wanted to ask all of you. Do you practice safe sex if you are in a monogamous relationship? While most couples trust each other's fidelity, the truth is sometimes in the numbers, so do you make sure you are always protected?

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calli-gurl calli-gurl 7 years
why wouldnt i trust him? im his first and hes my first. sleeping around is for sluts and whores. not me =D
nessabum nessabum 9 years
i'm with Advah--i just use condoms anyway.
peachygirl peachygirl 9 years
I haven't used protection in my long term monogamous relationships in the past, but I will going forward. I had to learn that the hard way.
Advah Advah 9 years
I use condoms as contraception, anyway.
t0xxic t0xxic 9 years
And Im with those that say theres no point in being in the relationship if you dont trust the guy.
t0xxic t0xxic 9 years
Im with spm after 2 kids theres really not a point to us using a condom, plus I dont like em and I think Im allergic to latex the poly feels weird as well as those lamb skin condoms :SICK: they make you want to gag lol and the spermicide always burns or the films icky. So I take the pill an suffer the hormonal consequneces lol
Marci Marci 9 years
My boyfriend and I have run things the same way as with SparkleSugar and hers have. We started off using condoms, had ourselves tested twice each, then when we were both given a clean bill of health, I went on the pill.
karebear karebear 9 years
Unfortunately, I've met WAY too many guys who cheat. Even if it's once, it's enough to put your significant other at risk. that is why I always have protected sex. Maybe if I'm married, I'll change my mind, but right now, no.
cravinsugar cravinsugar 9 years
Hey KAtie, I should clarify... That is why i decided, before I met my current boyfriend of 5 years, to use condoms. now it is because I don't want kids, and in fact we triple up...he wears a condom, pulls out, and i use bitrh control. I also have let him no that once married, not only will i live with him (and not until then) but we can nix the condoms. anyways, i hope that makes sense. _________________________________________________________ Why don't you wear the face you have when I am not around?
katie225 katie225 9 years
some people feel like children are diseases, for sure! and that's fine, i hope they use as much protection as possible. i don't think people who hate children should have children! what makes people think that once you're married, all the temptation to have an affair is gone? if you're going to use a condom before you're married to protect against any STDs he might give you, you should still do it after you're married because it doesn't really change anything. just a question to those who use a condom because they're afraid their bf/husband/significant other will cheat: why are you in a relationship if you don't trust him? they always say trust is the most important thing in a relationship, and by using the condom solely for the reason (or "just in case") that he might be cheating on you (not for people using it solely to avoid babies), then why even waste your time with that man you obviously don't trust? i'd be offended if my bf wanted to start wearing a condom because he's afraid i'm banging someone else! and i'd start to think our relationship was at an end...
cravinsugar cravinsugar 9 years
Fool me once, Stupid you Fool me twice, stupid me (or something like that) I was cheated on once before, and unless married, i will be using protection forever! _________________________________________________________ Why don't you wear the face you have when I am not around?
SweetPeasMom SweetPeasMom 9 years
No, we don't use condoms, I feel like that would be silly since we are married and since we obviously had to have sex without protection to have a baby... what would be the point now? I'm on the pill again, but that's not "safe" sex the way it's usually thought of. And I'm a little bit offended by someone referring to babies as the worst STD. :oy: How ridiculous. Children aren't a disease. Although foot-in-mouth seems to be.
PrissyLilBadAss PrissyLilBadAss 9 years
"Protected" is a little vague. Does the b/c pill, patch, etc. count?? "Party like a rock star, pound like a porn star, play like an all star!"
LaLa0428 LaLa0428 9 years
Thank LalaLaurie! Love your use name too, Great minds and all that! :D Style Before Comfort!
ALSW ALSW 9 years
We certainly do use condoms. It's more of an additional protection against baby-making than it is about protection from an STD. In that, I trust him! It's those sperm...:) *I reject your reality and substitute my own*
LaLaLaurie06 LaLaLaurie06 9 years
ALSW - interesting to hear that married couples use condoms too! I can totally understand the being in a very long-term monogomous relationship. I'm sure that will happen with me at some point but I just don't want to risk things yet. Interesting story LaLa0428. Like your username too! ;)
ALSW ALSW 9 years
My husband and I use condoms and it's really for two reasons: one, additional protection against having a baby we're not ready for, and two, I actually prefer the feeling when the condom is on. We do occasionally just forget or decide to forgo it, but the majority of the time, we both prefer that he wear it. *I reject your reality and substitute my own*
nicachica nicachica 9 years
i'm on the pill and we use condoms right before he "finishes"
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 9 years
It's hard - two ex boyfriends have had unprotected sex with other women and then had unprotected sex with me (while we were in a "monogamous" relationship. So you know, I pretty much agree with the better safe than sorry crew. However, for whatever reason, I totally trust my current boyfriend. And I know if he did cheat, he'd use protection. Not that I'm expecting him to, or think he will, but nevertheless...
LaLa0428 LaLa0428 9 years
For all the I totally trust my partner people: A friend of my mom's, (she is 55 and she has been married to her husband for 35 years)went to the doctor a couple a weeks ago and found out she has an STD. I say you need to use protection, regardless! Style Before Comfort!
LaLaLaurie06 LaLaLaurie06 9 years
Babies are the worst STD people!!!! My bf and I are not ready for kids, nor are we financially prepared in ANY WAY, so we like to be extra cautious on that front with me using the pill (love it!) and condoms.
SparkleSugar SparkleSugar 9 years
My boyfriend and I don't use condoms anymore. We did in the beginning of our relationship, but when we got really serious about each other, we decided to go get tested for STDs. When we both came back clean, we gave up the condoms. We use the pill for birth control, and I'm very vigilant about taking it on time every day!
katie225 katie225 9 years
if by "safe sex" you mean using a condom, then no. that's what the pill is for in a monogamous relationship. i completely trust him. if i didn't, i wouldn't be in a relationship with him. but if you're just starting out in the relationship, it's a little different. my man and i have been together for 4 and a half years, so i would say i definitely trust him. but if we were just dating for a few months, we'd be using a condom.
demeter demeter 9 years
Why wouldn't you always be protected?
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