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They Don't Call It Trash For Nothing

Dear Sugar
I'm in college, I am 20 years old, and I live in my own apartment that my parents are paying for. They were helping me move my stuff in after winter break and
both of them used my restroom throughout the day. I didn't realize until after they left that I forgot to hide the used condom wrappers in the trashcan!

I have been dating my boyfriend for a few months now. My parents know him and really like him, but I am just mortified that they saw the condom wrappers and now know for sure that we are having sex. I would normally never be so blatant about something like this and I don't know if I should talk to them about it. Humiliated Helen


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Dear Humiliated Helen
As embarrassed as you are by your parents seeing your contraband in the trash, what is done is done. Are you sure they saw the condom wrappers? Is it like them to not mention anything if they did in fact see something? Since they know you have a boyfriend, and given your age, chances are being sexually active is no big surprise to them.

Are you worried that your parents will stop paying for your apartment now that they know about your sex life? On the bright side, if your mom and dad did see your garbage, they can rest assured that you are being safe and responsible which might actually work out to your advantage in the long run.

Try to brush off the incident and use it as a learning experience: remember to take out the trash before vacation! Since you are already assuming the worst, your parents are probably more embarrassed than you so it is more than likely this won't be made into dinner table conversation!

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