My boyfriend of four years and I recently broke up, in fact I just moved out less than three weeks ago. I am still really sad about it since I ultimately thought that he was the one. Last night completely out of the blue, I ran into him at a restaurant, and he was there with another girl!
They were holding hands and kissing - ICK! I followed them home and once she figured out who I was, she took off. He and I talked for a while and it ended badly. He said he was trying to move on and that he cherished our time together, but I was just not the one for him. How can I get over him? I was still hoping for some kind of reconciliation. I feel crushed. Miserable Meryl
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Dear Miserable Meryl
Please don't forget about all of the reasons why you guys broke up in the first place. Now is the time to focus on what you didn't like about him as a partner. Think about how she gets to inherit all of that stuff! We have this strange ability to focus in on only the good times, and we forget all of the tears.
That couldn't have been easy for you to see last night. But, maybe it's for the best. If you are holding out for someone that's moving on then you are just keeping the door open for more hurt ahead for you. Try to stay positive and surround yourself with loved ones who will support you. This too shall pass.