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Don't Be Outraged Over Spitzer's Resignation

Check This: The I Heart Philanderers Backlash

Scandal-aficionados recognize the pattern instantly: the story breaks, the news bashes out wall-to-wall coverage, there's an announcement usually with a side of wife, an agonizing period where the man waits to see if his indiscretion will climax or fade, and then the inevitable bail out. Nothing in our culture will nail you faster than sex. So to speak.

But not everyone is so horrified. I'm not. Sure, prostitution is illegal, so Spitzer-gate might be worth a second glance on that front, but as for being an outrage? Nah. A man having sex? And looking for it as many places as he can get it? Hardly a unicorn. I suppose it could even be argued that Spitzer was being responsible using a professional to fulfill his needs. (A well-paid one at that.) Far from being profligate, Spitzer's outlay of thousands might have been a good investment in her silence — if it wasn't for those pesky investigators, it would have been a wad worth shooting. I'm just getting warmed up,

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I don't know if it's America's Puritanical impulses, or the insatiable desire to grab a cheap thrill by endlessly deconstructing the naughtiness, in the end I might be most shocked by our appetite for coverage — which oft times produces some hilarious results. But as for the sex itself, regardless of a man's job, isn't he just following his biological impulses? Perpetuation of the species, and all?

I do take umbrage with one peccadillo in particular: Monica Lewinsky. I know, but it's not what — it's where. The Oval Office to me is a sacred place. If you're going to do it, please don't sully the altar of democracy. Meanwhile, poor Senator Craig gets drug through mud over an incident so mild and vague it requires elaborate charades and an advanced degree in human sexuality to begin to understand. At the end of the day, give me a leader who rocks out good laws, fair judgment, and stellar diplomacy, regardless of what or who they do on their time off. I'd rather not imagine most of them in bed anyway.

It might not be the most popular stance to take, but at least I can wrap myself in the security that I haven't echoed Dr. Laura who answered the question "do women make men cheat" by saying, “Yes, I hold women accountable for tossing out perfectly good men by not treating them with the love and kindness and respect and attention they need.” Women don't make men philander. Men do.

I'm sure there are a ton of you who beg to differ with itchy commenting fingers. I can't wait to hear from you.

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CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 7 years
.........we had sex on crutches..........cant stop picturing that. help me
j2e1n9 j2e1n9 7 years
Well put tvjunkie and cabaker!
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 7 years
I think prostitution should be legalized, and I could give a SHIT if someone cheats on their husband or wife because it's none of my fucking business. But if you're out there bringing down prostitution rings, and you get caught participating in one... if you're out there preaching anti-gay sentiment, and then you solicit gay sex, then you deserve to have your hypocrisy splashed all over the newspaper. And you know, if you really feel strongly about this, STOP REPORTING ON IT. You're propogating it just as much as the next person.
isahrangme isahrangme 7 years
I agree with Liberty! My issues with this whole situation is not that he had sex outside of marriage. It's that he had sex with a prostitute! Which is ILLEGAL! Even WORSE because he's built his entire political career on being a crime-buster! With Clinton, I didn't think him doing whatever he did w/ Monica Lewinsky made him a bad president. Him LYING about it to his country that he serves... well then YES I do think that is bad. But why was he asked that anyway? It's his personal life... Also, I don't think they were tapping HIS phones. They were tapping the phones of the company and needed enough evidence to catch the ringleader or something? Not tooooo sure though...
tvjunkie45 tvjunkie45 7 years
Yeah well there is no accounting for taste or the obvious lack of moral and ethical values, or a sense of legality. And what I am even more outraged about is that people are defending this piece of trash. Grow a conscience. I know what I wouldn't be reading anymore.
Jillness Jillness 7 years
* I have to amend that. I noticed it a lot on Bill O'Reilly with the Paris commercial, but all news channels were guilty of it! ;) Fox was certainly not alone!
Jillness Jillness 7 years
I heard that before FISA, you could tap a "terrorist's" phone and seek a warrant up to 3 days after the fact. Has anyone else noticed how much the news channels LOVE to run the footage of the prostitute website? Women in bras with no heads. They keep showing it, and showing it. Reminds me when everyone got to "mad" about the Paris Hilton burger commerical, so Fox News decided to run it on repeat while condemning it. If it has boobs, it leads.
harmonyfrance harmonyfrance 7 years
I don't care about their sex life. I don't even really care about the hypocricy.The only thing I would care about is if he used government money to do it. AND I agree Liberty...how stupid was he?
Bookish Bookish 7 years
I don't care about politician's sex lives. In the Lewinsky case, my though is- Dude. Show some respect. In Spitzer's case- I don't care that he had an affair. But that he spent part of his career trying to take down prostitution rings, and then hired a prostitute- that's hypocrisy, and that's breaking the law. THAT's what I care about. I don't want to know about the prostitute's dog's name, or what color socks he wore- I just want to know that the office will be filled by a more capable person and the people of New York aren't overshadowed by the scandal of their governor.
stargrrl stargrrl 7 years
Leaving aside the "sex is natural" & "the US is puritanical" arguments lets remember that Spitzer, by frequenting prostitutes, was potentially exposing his wife to STIs. Sex work, whether well-paid or not, carries an inherent risk of exposure & transmission. Let's also not forget what Spitzer's actions say to his 3 daughters about the value he's placing on women. And lastly, you can't go on moralizing about the evils of prostitution when you're frequenting them.
Jillz1128 Jillz1128 7 years
I agree with Cabaker here. It is not that Spitzer had sex, it is that he committed a crime. Even if everyone might not agree, prostitution is a crime, and you are held responsible if you commit it.
bethany21 bethany21 7 years
Thank you, Citizen! I think many people agree with you, but unfortunately "sex sells" and someone somewhere is under the incorrect assumption that this theory applies to political news coverage. Ditto to Jillness's first comment, as well! If only prostitution was the worst of our worries...
hausfrau hausfrau 7 years
People act like the Clinton thing was about the sex, it wasn't it was about the PERGURY. And this isn't about the sex either, it's about the FELONY.
hausfrau hausfrau 7 years
Jill, we're not allowed to tap terrorist's phones, civil rights remember? :)
Arthur Arthur 7 years
:rotfl: love it.
nyaradzom2001 nyaradzom2001 7 years
Whatever, if you are leading people and making laws, and going after others who have done wrong you better have a spotle.s moral record. JUDGE NO LEST YE BE JUDGED, ain't nobody who's learned this lesson better than Spitzer!
sugarbean sugarbean 7 years
I'm not familiar with his legacy as NY's AG, but I've heard newscasts mention that he prosecuted high-priced prostitution rings during his tenure there. He's a smart guy -- while he was building those prosecution cases, he probably figured out all the things they could have/should have done to avoid being caught (and prosecuted by him) If only he could have found hookers smart enough to get past the IRS
MarinerMandy MarinerMandy 7 years
Great post, Citizen! My first sex scandal was Monica Lewinski...I remember there was a copy of the Starr report circling our high school with the "good parts" highlighted. Maybe that just jaded me. I must admit I do enjoy the initial thrill of these things, but the coverage overload is a bit much.
Jillness Jillness 7 years
I think ratings go up when sex gets into the news cycle. I am so tired of hearing about their bedrooms! Nothing could effect ME less!
Taadie Taadie 7 years
finally someone said it!
Shopaholichunny Shopaholichunny 7 years
I agree w/ you citizen!
bailaoragaditana bailaoragaditana 7 years
Ditto what Liberty said: the hypocrisy is probably the biggest thing, for me anyway, in the Spitzer case. He spent years chasing down prostitutes and johns and giving out harsh punishments... while he was a john himself? Stuuuupid!
bailaoragaditana bailaoragaditana 7 years
I pretty much agree with you on all counts. Sex is a perfectly natural phenomenon, as is (unfortunately) extramarital sex in many cases. I think the whole thing is sad, but it's not really the public's business in general. Unless, like you said, it happens "on the altar of democracy" - I'm a believer in the sanctity of the Oval Office as well. Like... dude. Just no. But: Men choose to philander... that doesn't make it right. It just makes it none of our public beeswax.
LibertySugar LibertySugar 7 years
Great piece, Citizen! I completely agree that our fascination with political sex-lives in unnecessary, and says just as much about the sex-obsessed American public as it does about the sex-obsessed politician. But in the Spitzer case, I'm more mystified by the man's stupidity. How could he pin his entire public persona on ethics, cleaning up crime, etc. and then recklessly participate in a prostitution ring? He knew if he got caught he would be ruined, whatever worthy goals he had for the public would be jeopardized. Do we want leaders with a complete lack of risk aversion and an insane capacity to be so self-destructive?
Jillness Jillness 7 years
I keep thinking...they were tapping HIS phones? Wouldn't our money have been better spent looking for terrorists? New York is such a vulnerable hub of our country, I can't believe their biggest worry is prostitution.
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