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Is Emotional or Physical Cheating Worse

Is Emotional or Physical Cheating Worse?

I don't think monogamy is easy, but it seems better than dealing with a promiscuous partner. It's why I didn't agree with Holly Hill's theory in Sugarbabe that men are wired to cheat, and women should let them.


But there's empirical evidence that says women are more likely to have a problem with emotional cheating than physical cheating — too bad there's rarely one without the other. Yet if you had to choose, which would be worse?

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Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 5 years
Gawj, ultimately it's your decision, but if your need to be desired by other men is that strong, you should end it. Sending racy pics to some other guy is disrespectful, both to your man and the man you're teasing. I doubt you forget about them seconds after, if those texts were really so meaningless you'd probably take your boyfriend's feelings into consideration before sending them. Though maybe he's allowed to do the same thing with other girls, I don't know.
Gawjuslayd Gawjuslayd 5 years
See, I chose physical cheating. I guess you can say that I have "emotionally" cheated on my boyfriend. I often turn to this one guy that adores me for some sexual food. We only text one another back and forth and occassionally send racy pics. I only do it bc I want to still feel desirable to other men and this reminds me. I would never physically cheat on ym boyfriend, because we truly love one another, though getting a rise out of a steamy text is far from going to hurt our relationship.I usually forget about them seconds after we send them.
Gawjuslayd Gawjuslayd 5 years
See, I chose physical cheating. I guess you can say that I have "emotionally" cheated on my boyfriend. I often turn to this one guy that adores me for some sexual food. We only text one another back and forth and occassionally send racy pics. I only do it bc I want to still feel desirable to other men and this reminds me. I would never physically cheat on ym boyfriend, because we truly love one another, though getting a rise out of a steamy text is far from going to hurt our relationship. I usually forget about them seconds after we send them.
danakscully64 danakscully64 5 years
They're almost equal, but emotional is a little ahead. Yes, with physical they can bring back STD's (hopefully they use protection), but with emotional, they develop feelings and if you stay together, you'll always worry that they still feel something for that person or will do it again with someone else. I've been emotionally cheated on, it was horrible. Men are not wired to cheat, that's a BS excuse.
danakscully64 danakscully64 5 years
They're almost equal, but emotional is a little ahead. Yes, with physical they can bring back STD's (hopefully they use protection), but with emotional, they develop feelings and if you stay together, you'll always worry that they still feel something for that person or will do it again with someone else. I've been emotionally cheated on, it was horrible. Men are not wired to cheat, that's a BS excuse.
danaruth danaruth 5 years
I chose physical, because that is a tangible case of cheating. If you kiss someone who is not your spouse, YOU JUST CHEATED. It's that simple, and it's a choice. Emotional cheating? How do you quantify that? If I tell a male friend something I haven't told my husband (like, I'm afraid of losing my job), or if a guy at work makes me laugh like my husband hasn't in a while - is that cheating? Friendships happen, and people shouldn't cut them off because you're afraid you might be cheating emotionally. There are plenty of ways I feel emotionally connected to my best female friend - does that mean I'm having an emotional lesbian affair?!? ;)
blooditsnotfunny blooditsnotfunny 5 years
emotional hurts more, but you could die from physical (STDs), so it's kind of a toss-up. I said emotional though.
genesisrocks genesisrocks 5 years
"I chose physical because for me, it's the materializing point of emotional cheating. If he gets a crush or starts having feelings for someone else, he still can talk to me about it, it's gonna hurt, but we can still try to work on it if our relationship is strong. But if he gets to the point of sleeping with the person, it means he chose to be weak and betray me litterally."Absolutely! Plus if you cheat on me, you risk getting an STD and giving it me. You might as well be emotionally cheating because you obviously don't care about my well-being.
genesisrocks genesisrocks 5 years
"I chose physical because for me, it's the materializing point of emotional cheating. If he gets a crush or starts having feelings for someone else, he still can talk to me about it, it's gonna hurt, but we can still try to work on it if our relationship is strong. But if he gets to the point of sleeping with the person, it means he chose to be weak and betray me litterally." Absolutely! Plus if you cheat on me, you risk getting an STD and giving it me. You might as well be emotionally cheating because you obviously don't care about my well-being.
angel-7 angel-7 5 years
Both are just as bad. If you cheat on someone emotionally then you are living a lie and deceiving the person you claim to love. If a person is having feelings for someone else then clearly there problems or issues in the relationship. Acting on those feelings is even worse by pursuing an affair, as well as hurting the person you allegedly love. If there are problems in a relationship that lead to either having feelings for someone else or wanting to act on those feelings, then its better to be upfront and talk about it or end the relationship, than to ruin another persons life.
acro04 acro04 5 years
Cheating is cheating no matter how you put it. And no one is wired to cheat, Holly Hill should keep her ignorant comments to her self and I guess putting her self in second is ok as long as she has a man next to her. WHAT A SAD AND UNCONFIDENT WOMEN SHE MUST BE!!!!!
stephley stephley 5 years
Emotional cheating is more than a crush - it's finding real friendship and emotional support in someone else, finding a best friend outside your relationship. Kind of cheesy to cite movies on this, but Falling In Love with Robert DeNiro & Meryl Streep would illustrate what I mean by emotional cheating.
chequettex chequettex 5 years
Yes the photo is from Closer, a movie I happen to love. In the movie Jude Law's character cheats both physically and emotionally on his girlfriend. Julia Roberts cheats on her boyfriend/husband physically and I think emotionally too. Clive Owens' character cheats physically at least once, and maybe emotionally too, but only to get back at his cheating spouse, and Natalie Portman's character is the only one who doesn't cheat at all.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 5 years
I chose physical ONLY because emotion cheating can't spread STIs. Beyond that, they are both equally awful.
runswimmerrun runswimmerrun 5 years
Emotional wounds heal, herpes is forever. I wouldn't be too pleased if someone sprung that on me.
marcied23 marcied23 5 years
i think the movie is closer, it had natalie portman in it too, but i never saw it...oh and i chose emotional b/c it's like you're cultivating a relationship with another person right behind my back and not some random hook up, though i would dump him either way...
marcied23 marcied23 5 years
i think the movie is closer, it had natalie portman in it too, but i never saw it...oh and i chose emotional b/c it's like you're cultivating a relationship with another person right behind my back and not some random hook up, though i would dump him either way...
amybdk amybdk 5 years
I chose physical because for me, it's the materializing point of emotional cheating. If he gets a crush or starts having feelings for someone else, he still can talk to me about it, it's gonna hurt, but we can still try to work on it if our relationship is strong. But if he gets to the point of sleeping with the person, it means he chose to be weak and betray me litterally. Exactly, Rjs baby girl. I don't really understand what this emotional cheating is, anyway. I mean... what's the definition? Show me a picture of Taylor Kitsch or Johnny Depp and I'm going to ... get really excited. I don't think there's any way to control that. Maybe I just don't understand what is meant be the term 'emotional cheating'? :puzzled:
amybdk amybdk 5 years
<i>I chose physical because for me, it's the materializing point of emotional cheating. If he gets a crush or starts having feelings for someone else, he still can talk to me about it, it's gonna hurt, but we can still try to work on it if our relationship is strong. But if he gets to the point of sleeping with the person, it means he chose to be weak and betray me litterally. </i>Exactly, Rjs baby girl. I don't really understand what this emotional cheating is, anyway. I mean... what's the definition? Show me a picture of Taylor Kitsch or Johnny Depp and I'm going to ... get really excited. I don't think there's any way to control that.Maybe I just don't understand what is meant be the term 'emotional cheating'? :puzzled:
vabeachbum vabeachbum 5 years
I said emotional. I saw an interview with some rock star's wife awhile ago, and she made the comment that while infidelity had NEVER been an issue in their marriage, she would care more if he had feelings for another woman than if he slept with some drunk roadie. I kind of understood how she felt... It would be far worse to me if my husband 'fessed up to having feelings for another woman than if he 'fessed up to a one night stand on a business trip or something. NEITHER are good, but to me it's the difference between something that goes on long-term and something that happens once. P.S. I can't remember the name of the movie that the picture on this post is from... but I do remember that it was AWFUL lol!
vabeachbum vabeachbum 5 years
I said emotional. I saw an interview with some rock star's wife awhile ago, and she made the comment that while infidelity had NEVER been an issue in their marriage, she would care more if he had feelings for another woman than if he slept with some drunk roadie. I kind of understood how she felt... It would be far worse to me if my husband 'fessed up to having feelings for another woman than if he 'fessed up to a one night stand on a business trip or something. NEITHER are good, but to me it's the difference between something that goes on long-term and something that happens once. P.S. I can't remember the name of the movie that the picture on this post is from... but I do remember that it was AWFUL lol!
Chrstne Chrstne 5 years
Cheating is a cowardly move, period. However, if I had to pick a "worst", it would be emotional cheating.
ladylove004 ladylove004 5 years
Either one is horrible, but emotional is worse. If he sleeps with some random girl at a bar I would probably leave him in the end anyway, however there is something about thinking of him growing strong feelings for another girl or sleeping with a close friend of his that would just utterly break my heart to the point of most possibly no repair.
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