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The End of Macho?

Do Tell: What Macho Traits Do You Wish Would Go Away?

We've heard about the he-cession and how the economic downturn has affected men's mental health perhaps even more than it has women's.

One writer goes further and says that all of this bad news for men is just paving the way for the death of macho as we know it. Macho arrogance got us into a lot of this global financial mess, he reasons, and its exit stage left will get us out of it. Furthermore, power dynamics are either shifting from men to women or equalizing in the public and private sphere into something more egalitarian.

I would love it if macho men stopped being homophobic, communicated better, respected women, and felt comfortable (gasp!) showing their emotional sides rather than trying to prove how tough they are. What macho traits would you be happy to see die off?

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emmebeth emmebeth 7 years
I agree with BellaSugar. I don't know if it's "Macho," but I see more guys spitting than I do women. Spitting is SO GROSS!
emmebeth emmebeth 7 years
I agree with BellaSugar.I don't know if it's "Macho," but I see more guys spitting than I do women.Spitting is SO GROSS!
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 7 years
I just wish my boyfriend would brush his teeth daily and clip his toenails. But apparently basic grooming is too girly.:(
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 7 years
I just wish my boyfriend would brush his teeth daily and clip his toenails. But apparently basic grooming is too girly. :(
danakscully64 danakscully64 7 years
Tori: "CaterpillarGirl, my boyfriend and I are both vegetarians as well and he's the most loving, trustworthy guy you'll ever meet."Mine too :)
danakscully64 danakscully64 7 years
Tori: "CaterpillarGirl, my boyfriend and I are both vegetarians as well and he's the most loving, trustworthy guy you'll ever meet." Mine too :)
merie33 merie33 7 years
Hahah..I don't blame your fiance...that man is beautiful!
heatherhas heatherhas 7 years
True, Merie. Its funny you used Ryan Reynolds as an example, I tease my fiance about him all the time because he has a "man crush" on him. :)
merie33 merie33 7 years
This kind of goes along with the homophobia part, which isn't necessarily "macho", but that's all beside the point. I HATE when guys can't admit that another guy is attractive. I'm a girl. A straight girl. And I have NO problem saying that Megan Fox or whoever you will is beautiful...sexy even. It doesn't make me lesbian. So how come guys won't say, "Oh yeah..Ryan Reynolds...he's not hard on the eyes..." I just don't get it. It's like by admitting it they'd somehow be less manly. Makes me crazy!
merie33 merie33 7 years
This kind of goes along with the homophobia part, which isn't necessarily "macho", but that's all beside the point.I HATE when guys can't admit that another guy is attractive. I'm a girl. A straight girl. And I have NO problem saying that Megan Fox or whoever you will is beautiful...sexy even. It doesn't make me lesbian. So how come guys won't say, "Oh yeah..Ryan Reynolds...he's not hard on the eyes..." I just don't get it. It's like by admitting it they'd somehow be less manly. Makes me crazy!
Choco-cat Choco-cat 7 years
Machismo: 1 : a strong sense of masculine pride : an exaggerated masculinity 2 : an exaggerated or exhilarating sense of power or strength (merriam webster) I think macho is used in this day and age to mean extreme or exaggerated masculinity. I, personnaly, think all macho things could be done away with - I take issue with any belief that someone should act a particular way simply because of their sex.
Choco-cat Choco-cat 7 years
Machismo:1 : a strong sense of masculine pride : an exaggerated masculinity 2 : an exaggerated or exhilarating sense of power or strength(merriam webster)I think macho is used in this day and age to mean extreme or exaggerated masculinity. I, personnaly, think all macho things could be done away with - I take issue with any belief that someone should act a particular way simply because of their sex.
Marci Marci 7 years
Gee, I can't think of a thing since not all men are created equal, and we choose the kind of man that suits us best. Variety is the spice of life, so let's keep the variety there.
teegaall teegaall 7 years
Scratching their area, burping when they're not alone, sagging pants, wifebeaters (in public, at least the white ones)
Phil Phil 7 years
I appreciate your objection, but New Jersey is arguably the epicenter of macho douchebaggery, even douchebagguettery in the US. To kill a tree, you need to attack the roots, and a major part of the root structure happens to run in Jersey. Some suspect the social structure of hyper-macho douchebags are similar to that of vampires. It's also speculated by informed individuals that the first hyper-macho douchebag originated in New Jersey. However, because of the equally dense nature of douchebags, it would be difficult to determine who the alpha-douche is. And so, for the greater good it would make sense to just do away with the entire state. [the word "douchebaggery" does not have the red squiggly line under it. I had no idea douchebaggery was a canonical word.]
Phil Phil 7 years
I appreciate your objection, but New Jersey is arguably the epicenter of macho douchebaggery, even douchebagguettery in the US. To kill a tree, you need to attack the roots, and a major part of the root structure happens to run in Jersey.Some suspect the social structure of hyper-macho douchebags are similar to that of vampires. It's also speculated by informed individuals that the first hyper-macho douchebag originated in New Jersey. However, because of the equally dense nature of douchebags, it would be difficult to determine who the alpha-douche is. And so, for the greater good it would make sense to just do away with the entire state.[the word "douchebaggery" does not have the red squiggly line under it. I had no idea douchebaggery was a canonical word.]
xxstardust xxstardust 7 years
Oh, Phil - don't hate on the Jersey guys! We can't help that we're the guido capital of the world, but we do have a lot of real nice ones, too. =]
Phil Phil 7 years
Could probably do away with the whole state of New Jersey. As with most things there's the positive and the negative. Machismo is often characterized as a male who is (at least superficially) self-confident, courageous strong and virile. However that can too easily overflow into a hyper-machismoism of proud, stubborn, vain, and sexist characteristics. A lot of what's typically characteristic of people who would consider themselves macho is, indeed, homophobia, sexism and sexual infidelity--are all flaws which people in society would benefit from its disposal. We could also do without Arnold Schwartzenegger and anyone who resembles any of the main characters on Entourage.
Phil Phil 7 years
Could probably do away with the whole state of New Jersey.As with most things there's the positive and the negative. Machismo is often characterized as a male who is (at least superficially) self-confident, courageous strong and virile. However that can too easily overflow into a hyper-machismoism of proud, stubborn, vain, and sexist characteristics.A lot of what's typically characteristic of people who would consider themselves macho is, indeed, homophobia, sexism and sexual infidelity--are all flaws which people in society would benefit from its disposal.We could also do without Arnold Schwartzenegger and anyone who resembles any of the main characters on Entourage.
dikke-kus dikke-kus 7 years
I wish men would stop fighting over the outdoor grill and stop buying the bigest coolers they can find. Other than that I love macho. Luv it.
dikke-kus dikke-kus 7 years
I wish men would stop fighting over the outdoor grill and stop buying the bigest coolers they can find.Other than that I love macho. Luv it.
Chrstne Chrstne 7 years
You can be masculine without having it become exaggerated. Honestly, I think the guy who behave in a "macho" fashion have some serious complex's, or are just perhaps insecure, or wanting to purely walk around in all of their self-aggrandizing glory. Hopefully, the macho men out there will learn that you can be a man without being a d-bag. However, these aren't the only guys who want to be something to a fault. What about all the gay men out there who feel the need to make it so public that they change the way they walk, talk, and dress in public. I have met so many gay people who would put on such a show if we went out. But anyway, the macho thing needs to go.
Chrstne Chrstne 7 years
You can be masculine without having it become exaggerated. Honestly, I think the guy who behave in a "macho" fashion have some serious complex's, or are just perhaps insecure, or wanting to purely walk around in all of their self-aggrandizing glory. Hopefully, the macho men out there will learn that you can be a man without being a d-bag. However, these aren't the only guys who want to be something to a fault. What about all the gay men out there who feel the need to make it so public that they change the way they walk, talk, and dress in public. I have met so many gay people who would put on such a show if we went out. But anyway, the macho thing needs to go.
genesisrocks genesisrocks 7 years
I like "manly men" but I don't necessarily equate machoness with homophobia and sexism. Sometimes they go together but not always :shrug:
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