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Eva Mendes Talks About Girlfriends in August 2010 Allure

What's the Best Part of Having Girlfriends?

She may get attention from men, but Eva Mendes is a girl's girl. The actress, who covers the August issue of Allure, says she values the importance of having girlfriends:

You know those girls who say they don’t have any girlfriends? I always say "run for the hills when you hear that."

So if a lack of girlfriends is a cause for concern, good female friendships are a reason to celebrate. And frenemies, judgmental friends, along with the increasing difficulty of making friends as we get older remind us how valuable a solid friendship can be. In your opinion, what's the best thing about girlfriends — having someone to talk to, a person to lean on, another woman to share common experiences with, or something else?

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jadenirvana jadenirvana 6 years
I will add that if I didn't live where I'd grown up, I think it would be really tough to make girlfriends. I really haven't made any since college, even though I've definitely tried.
jadenirvana jadenirvana 6 years
Totally agree! I am a girl's girl all the way. The thing I love best about my girlfriends is how when I think I've had the worst day and absolutely no one can make me feel better, by the end of the night I'm still roaring laughing in the bar because of my best girls.
jadenirvana jadenirvana 6 years
Totally agree! I am a girl's girl all the way. The thing I love best about my girlfriends is how when I think I've had the worst day and absolutely no one can make me feel better, by the end of the night I'm still roaring laughing in the bar because of my best girls.
brilliance13 brilliance13 6 years
agree!
brilliance13 brilliance13 6 years
agree!
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 6 years
I have only a few people in my inner circle -- my hubbie, a girlfriend, and a sibling. This is by choice, as I'm an introverted person. Everybody else is less close.As far as the best part of having a girlfriend, I like the notion that there is no possibility that the friend would want more than friendship (given that the girlfriend is a straight female). Over the years, I had friendships with men that went awry because they wanted more than friendship from me (they wanted romance). I was already happily involved with my husband, so these men's advances were unwelcomed (and made for terribly awkward situations). Needless to say, it took a toll on our friendships. In my experience, friendships with women are safer, if you will.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 6 years
I have only a few people in my inner circle -- my hubbie, a girlfriend, and a sibling. This is by choice, as I'm an introverted person. Everybody else is less close. As far as the best part of having a girlfriend, I like the notion that there is no possibility that the friend would want more than friendship (given that the girlfriend is a straight female). Over the years, I had friendships with men that went awry because they wanted more than friendship from me (they wanted romance). I was already happily involved with my husband, so these men's advances were unwelcomed (and made for terribly awkward situations). Needless to say, it took a toll on our friendships. In my experience, friendships with women are safer, if you will.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 6 years
I meant too comfortable.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 6 years
I meant too comfortable.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 6 years
I just don't understand whats wrong with no having that many girl friends. I do have girl friends-- but I have gotten lucky because they are very easy going compare to my previous experiences-- but, to be honest, some girls are just too high maintenance. You always have to protect their feelings listen to their idiotic problems that you don't really care about. The problem I have had with guys is that sometimes they get to comfortable and you start losing fate on the male species--you know, there are things is better for woman not to know and for man not to tell. But I don't judge girls that don't like being around other woman.It Is just a preference.
sourcherry sourcherry 6 years
I 100% agree. Every time I met a girl that didn't have any girlfriends, I always knew after a while why that was. I've found that they're typically self-absorbed and never have any time/patience for other people's problems. Maybe that's why they get along with guys better, since they're not as sensitive to that kind of stuff.Anyway, I might be wrong, but that's what my experience has taught me.
sourcherry sourcherry 6 years
I 100% agree. Every time I met a girl that didn't have any girlfriends, I always knew after a while why that was. I've found that they're typically self-absorbed and never have any time/patience for other people's problems. Maybe that's why they get along with guys better, since they're not as sensitive to that kind of stuff. Anyway, I might be wrong, but that's what my experience has taught me.
medenginer medenginer 6 years
I think the best part of having girlfriends for me is like having a sister I never got to have. I grew up mostly with men. Having that experience is a nice perspective when you need it but it only goes so far in issues only women can relate to. I don't think some women act badly any more than some men do.
Girl-Jen Girl-Jen 6 years
On the subject of having no girl friends, I used to be one of those people. There was a point in my life where I had no friends. :( I had just switched jobs, just gotten married, I was shy and introverted, too afraid to keep in touch with work friends from the old job...and there was nobody I was close enough to that I could consider him or her a friend.It happens.
Girl-Jen Girl-Jen 6 years
On the subject of having no girl friends, I used to be one of those people. There was a point in my life where I had no friends. :( I had just switched jobs, just gotten married, I was shy and introverted, too afraid to keep in touch with work friends from the old job...and there was nobody I was close enough to that I could consider him or her a friend. It happens.
kels19 kels19 6 years
I can understand why it would be considered bad for a girl to have no female friends, but that doesn't always make them catty and arrogant. i went through a phase where i had no female friends, because the friends i thought i had weren't true friends in the end. while my guyfriends can be fun to be around, i found myself missing female interaction a lot. luckily i found some kindred souls, and i have girlfriends now. personally i think it's catty to assume that because someone doesn't have female friends or if they don't trust other girls easily they're self absorbed. Maybe they've just had a rough time with girlfriends in the past.
Angelica Angelica 6 years
Sharing experiences and moral support for sure.
amber512 amber512 6 years
I have girl friends/acquaintances, but only one who I'm actually close with. But then I don't have any close guiy friends either. So I guess....I'm a loner?
Natalie-Love Natalie-Love 6 years
I'm split right down the middle, I've got my two closest friends, and one is a male, one is female. I get along with both so well, their gender doesn't even matter. They're like siblings to me.I do know a girl who really doesn't get along with other girls. When I'd hang out with her, she always wanted to be the center of attention, and if any guy would join the group, she would constantly put the other girls down to make herself look better. Especially if you left for any reason, you would know she spoke of you to him when you were gone... I bet she would say that she just can't seem to relate to girls or something. Blah!
Natalie-Love Natalie-Love 6 years
I'm split right down the middle, I've got my two closest friends, and one is a male, one is female. I get along with both so well, their gender doesn't even matter. They're like siblings to me. I do know a girl who really doesn't get along with other girls. When I'd hang out with her, she always wanted to be the center of attention, and if any guy would join the group, she would constantly put the other girls down to make herself look better. Especially if you left for any reason, you would know she spoke of you to him when you were gone... I bet she would say that she just can't seem to relate to girls or something. Blah!
starbucks2 starbucks2 6 years
I kinda agree with her statement. Most girls that I've met who have more guy friend than girlfriends are arrogant, catty and competitive...it's usually the reason why they don't get along with other girls. I have both. Some guy friends and a close group of girls that I've known for years. We're all very supportive of one another and nobody talks behind someone's back!
starbucks2 starbucks2 6 years
I kinda agree with her statement. Most girls that I've met who have more guy friend than girlfriends are arrogant, catty and competitive...it's usually the reason why they don't get along with other girls.I have both. Some guy friends and a close group of girls that I've known for years. We're all very supportive of one another and nobody talks behind someone's back!
MeiGaku MeiGaku 6 years
i used to have more guy friends than girls, since i'm the nerdy/geeky type that these i-have-no-gf women keep saying, but guys just can't relate to a lot of things you go through--relationships, clothes, emotions, etc. i love my close gf cause i can talk to them candidly and get emotional support and talk to my guy friends because it's relaxing and quirky. and i'm SO TIRED of women thinking EVERY FEMALE is gosispy/bitchy/talks behind people's back. that's a sexist belief if i ever heard one.
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 6 years
I'm not a girly girl either and a lot of times I think like a guy, but I have a very close group of gilfriends, one of them being like a sister to me. I wouldn't trade my ladies for the world :) We've been friends for years. We are not catty or gossipy or bitches. We're always there for eachother as shoulders to cry on or there for eachother when all we need is a really good belly laugh. We always consider eachother soulmates. However, when I want to talk Terminator and let my boyish side hang out, I'll turn to my guy friends. I agree that it's good to have a balance.I always feel kind of sorry for girls who don't have girlfriends (and also guys who don't have any guy friends). I think it's great having a woman-to-woman connection when you need one (or man-to-man). But I guess if it works for them and they're happy, there's nothing to feel sorry for.
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 6 years
I'm not a girly girl either and a lot of times I think like a guy, but I have a very close group of gilfriends, one of them being like a sister to me. I wouldn't trade my ladies for the world :) We've been friends for years. We are not catty or gossipy or bitches. We're always there for eachother as shoulders to cry on or there for eachother when all we need is a really good belly laugh. We always consider eachother soulmates. However, when I want to talk Terminator and let my boyish side hang out, I'll turn to my guy friends. I agree that it's good to have a balance. I always feel kind of sorry for girls who don't have girlfriends (and also guys who don't have any guy friends). I think it's great having a woman-to-woman connection when you need one (or man-to-man). But I guess if it works for them and they're happy, there's nothing to feel sorry for.
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