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Told My BF I Was Pregnant to Keep the Relationship

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I told my boyfriend, who I am absolutely in love with, that I was pregnant so maybe he wouldn't break up with me. Now I am faced with all the questions, and how do I tell him I am not pregnant? Or do I claim I lost the pregnancy? I honestly can't lose him from my life, and I feel like I cant tell him the truth. What do I do now?


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Super-steph Super-steph 5 years
Wow thats low...you shouldnt have lied that way. If someone doesnt want to be with you anymore, dont manipulate him even if he means everything to you.
inlove23 inlove23 6 years
Oh, and imagine how he is gonna feel when he realized you lied.
inlove23 inlove23 6 years
I honestly feel like this is the lowest of all time lows. Having a baby is a serious thing, and you shouldn't fake it to make someone who doesn't love you love you. There are a thousands/million of fish in the sea, and although it's hard at first you will find someone out there that will stick around. I'm sorry but this is something a fourteen year old would do, grow up.
jransom94 jransom94 6 years
I think you need to fix this quick. I don't know why young girls think that having a baby keep these men around. It don't work like that if he feels as if he wants to just get up and leave then he will. But your still obligated to that child. Kids do not hold these men down and if somebody told you they do then they told you wrong.
frankytheawesome frankytheawesome 6 years
Everyone has snapped at some point in time and said something (regardless of what it was) that wasn't true. You were desperate. I think the "I misread the pregnancy test" was fine to tell him, because likely he knows a lot of your friends. If your friends are anything like some of the goons that commented... you were right in protecting yourself for making a mistake. I don't think you should tell him you lied for that reason, because he will likely have a seriously stupid "holier than thou" reaction. For now, breathe, get a latte, work on your relationship and pick up a copy of "He's Just Not That Into You"... just in case. I would start reading it. Its not 'THE go to book', but it gets you started in the right direction of what you have the right to expect and the tone makes you feel good. So, even if you do find out that (gasp) he's not the one for you... you'll be prepared. I hope he is the one and this was a deep misunderstanding, but if he's not... you're an awesome person and you will survive. This mistake doesn't mean that you have no morals, no maturity or whatever else people have said. The plain fact is that you made a mistake, we call that experience everywhere else. Also, don't be guilted into feeling sorry for him for having lied to him... that's just an insecure person talking as if they're better than you. Those girls/boys are generally doing more twisted crap to keep partners than what you did. Keep your head up and always know that you're beautiful.
frankytheawesome frankytheawesome 6 years
Everyone has snapped at some point in time and said something (regardless of what it was) that wasn't true. You were desperate. I think the "I misread the pregnancy test" was fine to tell him, because likely he knows a lot of your friends. If your friends are anything like some of the goons that commented... you were right in protecting yourself for making a mistake. I don't think you should tell him you lied for that reason, because he will likely have a seriously stupid "holier than thou" reaction. For now, breathe, get a latte, work on your relationship and pick up a copy of "He's Just Not That Into You"... just in case. I would start reading it. Its not 'THE go to book', but it gets you started in the right direction of what you have the right to expect and the tone makes you feel good. So, even if you do find out that (gasp) he's not the one for you... you'll be prepared. I hope he is the one and this was a deep misunderstanding, but if he's not... you're an awesome person and you will survive.This mistake doesn't mean that you have no morals, no maturity or whatever else people have said. The plain fact is that you made a mistake, we call that experience everywhere else. Also, don't be guilted into feeling sorry for him for having lied to him... that's just an insecure person talking as if they're better than you. Those girls/boys are generally doing more twisted crap to keep partners than what you did. Keep your head up and always know that you're beautiful.
urika urika 6 years
wow. i hope you're kidding. sweetie, that is definitely the worst thing you could possibly think of in order to keep someone around. once you tell him, which you certainly have to -DO NOT LIE to him or make some bullshit up-, he's most likely going to leave unless he's just a really chill dude and you have an award winning explanation.
dikke-kus dikke-kus 6 years
Do you understand what resentment means? How does it feel knowing you had to lie in order to keep him around? How does it feel knowing he would only be there for that reason? That he only stays becuase he has to, not becuase he love you for who you are? That people will say behind your backs that he was trapped? Not becuase you meant anything to him? Now you'll never really know.
weffie weffie 6 years
So you covered up your lie with another lie, huh? Good thinking, now when the truth finally surfaces he'll know that you're not just guilty of the odd lie, but that you're 100% full of pure bullshit. Idiot.
Anne26 Anne26 6 years
Yeah, that is not good. You should never lie about pregnancy because if he ever wants proof you have nothing to show. I actually was but lost it and never told my ex-bf at the time. I guess I did the opposite. Usually when you are you are too scared to tell the guy. That is how I was. But yeah next time just never lie to a guy especially about that.
JessieSP JessieSP 6 years
You did an awful thing. Tell him the truth so that he can leave you for a REAL confident women. You're not worth being with.
Dyznny Dyznny 6 years
Pleassss! sister, are grazy or what? "BI" I think it is. why would you fake being pregnant? its completely heeee. Best thing to do, tell the truth like the others are saying, and kiss him goodbye. I am sure he is not worth having you as his woman. Tell him how stupid you think you were to have even thought of doing such a thing, that you just want to clear your guilt and let him go. Start afresh please, maybe your God will help be content and confident with yourself in the next relationship. Love is blind,you thought u were doing the right thing, it all drives us crazy,just we do not publicly declare our stupit acts like you.Don't feel bad.seek counselling. GOOD LUCK girlfriend.
Dyznny Dyznny 6 years
Pleassss! sister, are grazy or what? "BI" I think it is. why would you fake being pregnant? its completely heeee. Best thing to do, tell the truth like the others are saying, and kiss him goodbye. I am sure he is not worth having you as his woman.Tell him how stupid you think you were to have even thought of doing such a thing, that you just want to clear your guilt and let him go.Start afresh please, maybe your God will help be content and confident with yourself in the next relationship. Love is blind,you thought u were doing the right thing, it all drives us crazy,just we do not publicly declare our stupit acts like you.Don't feel bad.seek counselling. GOOD LUCK girlfriend.
girlgreen girlgreen 6 years
if your only aim is to judge, at least throw in a little advice for good measure. otherwise you're just being a jerk. i'm more alarmed at the hateful, self-righteous judgement in some of these posts than by the OP's actions.
kimberdoll kimberdoll 6 years
Hi, Why would you want him to stay with you out of obligation? This is not true love. You know what you have done is wrong, hence your post here. I don't think you are a bad person because you are regretting it now. But you can never force someone to stay with you through lies and deceit. This has less to do with him and more to do with yourself, and why you think you don't deserve someone who WANTS to be with you, not who feels they HAVE to be. You need to work on yourself first and foremost. My advice would be to come clean and tell him, and then seek help. You aren't the only one with issues, and a professional can help you figure out what's going on in your head so you don't repeat these destructive actions in a future relationship. Good Luck.
kimberdoll kimberdoll 6 years
Hi,Why would you want him to stay with you out of obligation?This is not true love. You know what you have done is wrong, hence your post here. I don't think you are a bad person because you are regretting it now. But you can never force someone to stay with you through lies and deceit. This has less to do with him and more to do with yourself, and why you think you don't deserve someone who WANTS to be with you, not who feels they HAVE to be. You need to work on yourself first and foremost. My advice would be to come clean and tell him, and then seek help. You aren't the only one with issues, and a professional can help you figure out what's going on in your head so you don't repeat these destructive actions in a future relationship.Good Luck.
vmruby vmruby 6 years
If desperation led to you telling that colossal lie then i can't imagine what you would do if he left you......
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 6 years
You have severe issues.
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 6 years
You have severe issues.
mndmay mndmay 6 years
Break up and get counseling before it gets worse. He'll find out one way or another, anyway. When I read this, I thought that she was Katherine from Desperate Housewives. Get help.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 6 years
I agree -- counseling.
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