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Feeling Depressed After Quitting Job

"I'm Feeling Depressed After Quitting My Job"

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I quit my job 14 months ago to indulge in my art. I used to be extremely good at it and everyone told me I'd regret it if I kept spending 10 hours a day at an office (plus overall 5 hours a day in traffic) and I'd regret neglecting my art. I remember coming home at 9, having a quick dinner and going to bed, only to wake up at 5 and start everything all over again. I used to live as a machine and I felt horrible and truly depressed by the soul sucking job.

So, I quit and let myself have a resting week, then the week turned into a month and I was like, "Oh, I am an artist I should have 'me' time and wait until the inspiration hits." Unfortunately, the inspiration never came and now, after 14 months of doing absolutely NOTHING, I feel even more awful. I have even stopped doing what I used to enjoy, like working out, reading, swimming, and going out with friends. I am about to hit rock bottom and I am only 25. The saddest thing is I have no willpower to change anything. I wasn't like this, I used to be very active and productive. Now I am this couch potato who is checking Facebook 24/7 and surfing the dumbest stuff on the internet. I became like this little by little and I am feeling horrible right now — I don't know how to change at all. I have put on 11 pounds since quitting my job, I used to do yoga, pilates, and weight training. I used to read A LOT, and now I find myself hardly reading something that is actually fun! 

I really need help, I need to change back to what I used to be, but everyday I wake up, I decide it's a new day and then I go back to being a lazy good for nothing. I honestly can't go back to work, the depression of quitting my dreams will kill me. The only hope that I have is that I'd find a way to start doing what I love again. Going back to work means failing in what I love, failing again, and always being a loser.

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Bubbles12 Bubbles12 3 years
I'm wondering if you're suffering from depression, it sure sounds like it. You've withdrawn from all the things that usually make life worth living -- major symptom. You may actually have become depressed before quitting your job, and quitting became the only thing you could think of to feel better. Please go to a doctor and/or a therapist. Depression is a physical issue if it's got a grip on you and you may need medical help. I'm wondering how you can survive without a job this long, sounds like you have some kind of financial support so hopefully it will be easy for you to get the help you need.
henna-red henna-red 3 years
These things didn't "happen" to you. They are choices you've made. You can get out of your slump, but it means making new choices, and backing them up with action. You have all of the ability to stand up, to go out, to work out, to find work, to be active....but right now you're stuck in inertia, waiting for a push or a pull. You're going to have to be instrumental in finding that push or pull....by going to the gym and connecting with someone, or by dropping resume's and connecting with someone, or by taking an art class, and connecting with someone.....And of course, the most important person you need to connect with, is yourself. I don't think you quit your job to be an artist.....you quit your job because you hated your job. You need a job, a destination, a goal, an imposed structure to help you redefine a healthy routine. You need someone to answer to right now.....you're not in a place where you can discipline yourself to work on your art seriously. And I'm sorry, but people don't just stop earning in order to persue an artistic goal that they're not already working hard on. People who want to be professional artists, of whatever variety, get up every day,a mojority of days, and work on their art....no matter what else they have going on in their lives. They are artists, partly because, they can't be anything else, can't do anything else. And I've never met an artist who hasn't had to work outside of their discipline in order to support themselves, at least at the beginning.....there are some great artists whose work never takes off until after they die, who struggle their whole lives learning how to earn, while struggling to do their art, to afford materials, to afford time, to get noticed and shown or published......it's a process. You need to stop making excuses for yourself, get up off of the couch, drop the pity party, and work for what you want. That's the only way you'll ever have what you want. Finding balance between working a job, and making time to make your art can be hard. It can mean making sacrifices, and making difficult choices.....but right now you aren't doing either....working a job, or working on your art. Quitting your job hasn't been some epiphany that caused an explosion of creative juices......doing nothing isn't creative.....you're just exchanged one extreme for another.....more work than you wanted, for none.....and in neither choice does your art exist. So the thing you need to work for is balance. It's time to get physical, to let those endorphins that come with walking, running, working out power your enthusiasm.....and a work out buddy or two can offer encouragement. It's time to stimulate your brain, instead of letting it stew.....turn off the computer, turn off the tv, talk to people, interact, turn on the brain......step up girl. You made the choice to be where you are, make a new choice, and go somewhere better. You've created your present reality, so create a better one....one that works for you. Action verbs.....none of this "happened" crap. Your life didn't "happen" to you, you chose it. Choose better. good luck!
JessicaM25 JessicaM25 3 years
What you did was , you made your hobby your entire life (which is fine) but you did it as a leap instead of gradually. Get a part time job, for the finances. Every day-force yourself to do something small. Whether it's going to the gym, going for a quick run, reading a funny blog or a few pages of a book. Pace yourself. What I feel happen is you became too hard on yourself. So relax, take it easy and begin to get yourself back into the groove of things. Now what I am going to suggest might frighten you but take a break from the art. Whether it's a day here and there or a few days within a week (this is where your part time will help). Once you begin to unwind..your creative juices will begin to flow and you will feel like your old self again. GL!
Sherrilee Sherrilee 3 years
Maybe you were doing swo much that you just got burnt out. You;re going to have to work yourself back. You can't expect to get it all back in one day, /start by being interested in one thing or a few things like doing some exercises a day if it;s just 20 minutes a day. /take a walk, visit a book store library and find an interesting book. I have to force myself to get offf the internet. I'm a housewife that's home all day and focus on my interests everyday maybe just one like sewing or music. I was trying to do to many things and getting frustrated. If you truly liked what you were doing you;ll do it again. Just don;t overkill.
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