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Group Therapy: Is He Shy or Not Interested?

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I'm aware this might be a waste of my time and energy, but sometimes people seem worth it. I have a guy friend who I have some major feelings for. We haven't been friends a huge long time . . . we were online friends for a few years and over the last six or seven months have gotten closer, as I've moved within an hour or so of him and we can hang out now.

He's a sweetheart and we hit it off a lot of the time, but he's also really quiet and sort of lives in a bubble. As in, he goes to work, comes home, plays video games and maybe hangs out with a couple guys he's been friends with for ages. He's rather completely oblivious to girls and me included. I just don't get it. He doesn't look at girls (though he's not gay) . . . just sort of asexual.

I don't know what I can do to get his attention. I tried once to ask if he was interested and he had a bad reaction — he sort of ran away and then later told me he liked hanging out with me. Clearly he's not comfortable with me being direct about this stuff. I took it as him letting me know he wasn't interested but after speaking to some mutual friends, he didn't actually say anything to me.

I accept that he might not like me, but there's a chance, because of the way he is that he could and is afraid or not confident enough to react to me. Like I said, he's worth my energy just because I like him that much. Is there some tactic I can use to make him stop being so indifferent? Lol someone suggested blatent sexuality, but that'd be hard for me. I could probably start flirting with him again, which I stopped doing a while ago. Help???

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