Let’s face it — it takes a really big person to open up their heart and forgive.
But being stuck at a crossroads with our mind giving the green light to sweet revenge and the red light to a daunting path of forgiveness is not the answer.
Forgiveness is the decision and process of letting go of resentment. As women, we tend to have an instinct to plot revenge, where we are motivated to let the person who hurt us feel the pain that they have put us through. Women, (raised with sugar and spice and everything nice) usually concoct well thought-out plots; thereby, making a woman’s revenge that more dangerous than her male counterpart, since a guy’s notion of revenge entails using physical means.
Nevertheless, the emotionally excruciating wounds we’re left with after being betrayed or let down can take a toll on our health.
Thus, below are 3 ways forgiveness can help us live an emotionally healthy life.
1. Reduces stress — Replaying the scene that made you upset in the first place? Don't. Holding a grudge can tense muscles, elevate blood pressure and heart rates. The rules are simple: forgive and forget. Your body will thank you.
2. Build stronger relationships — Forgiveness is for you, not for anyone else. Do whatever you have to do to feel better. It will help you resolve future conflicts more effectively.
3. Live well — Still want revenge? Be happy! Remember, a life well lived is your best revenge. Stop focusing on wounded feelings — that only gives the person who caused your pain control over you. Instead, focus your well needed attention to life’s simplicities, like love, kindness, and generosity.