I have a neighbor that totally freeloads off of me. I am a working mom with 2 kids and I have a nanny. My neighbor allows her son to come over to my house every single week day to play with my kids.
Our boys are friends so of course I would never say no to him coming over. However, shouldn't she pay for her own nanny instead of relying on us to provide childcare? What's worse, she never thanks us for our generosity and avoids meeting us by having her son walk home at the end of the day.
I don't want to be petty but I don't like the unfairness of it. How can I bring this up with tactfully? Ticked off Tracey
Dear Ticked Off Tracey
That stinks! There's really no way to win this one. You don't want to seem un-neighborly, but you also don't want to be taken advantage of. There's always one in the bunch who doesn't follow the "do unto other's..." golden rule. You should approach your neighbor in a friendly manner - bring over a pie or a bottle of wine. Explain to her that your nanny is feeding and caring for her child all day. Associate the blame with a cost and say that your nanny is going to charge you for the additional responsibility of an extra child. Ask her how she plans to handle this?