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Dear Sugar
My boyfriend has eight children from eight different women and some of the children are even the same age. My boyfriend seems to have a pretty good relationship with all of these women and I don't know how to deal with this.

I am not jealous of their children, it's just that he's got so many responsibilities and I don't know how to react when he's talking to all of their mothers. Sometimes I even get confused who is who! He has custody of some of the children therefore he has to deal with the moms on a regular basis. How do I deal with this situation? Mom by Association Molly

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Dear Mom by Association Molly
I don't blame you for being confused by this scenario. How long have you been with this man? Has your boyfriend been in relationships with all of these women? Is he financially supporting all eight of his children?

Your boyfriend will be tied to these women for the rest of his life so you are going to have to figure out a way to live with his situation. Has he ever given you a reason to doubt him? Although your boyfriend has been with many women in his past, it doesn't necessarily mean he can't be trusted.

I think you inevitably need to ask yourself if you are able to live with sharing a part of your boyfriend with eight other women. It's pretty clear that he is quite fertile so if you are not ready to become a mother, don't forget the birth control. Good luck.

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kittycat kittycat 9 years
OMG!! what are u doing with this guy? he's such a loser! 8 babies 8 different women!?!? so every time he sperminated a woman, he leaves her and finds another woman! KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED WHILE YOU RUN FOR YOUR LIFE! or else you will be pregnant with baby #9 and he will leave u for woman #10! there is no way he can sufficiently take care of 8 babies on his own in any shape or form. do urself a favour, RUN from this irresponsible guy. u deserve better.
vmruby vmruby 9 years
There is a reason why this guy has 8 kids with 8 different women and from where i'm sitting the reason is not a good one . My suggestion to you would be to run like hell and for god's sakes don't look back.........
honeysugar28 honeysugar28 9 years
This does sound like Flava Flave LOL! But seriously its obvious this man has a way with the ladies but prepare yourself to be in not first or second place but 9th place. Your needs will never be as important as any of these kids. Plus imagine all the child support he has to pay. You're pretty much on your own.
Jinx Jinx 9 years
LOL! Yikes! ------------------------------------------------------ Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited. — Albert Einstein
sugar_bear sugar_bear 9 years
LEAVE-RUN-NOW!!!!
Tiinnaaaa Tiinnaaaa 9 years
8 kids?? ur kidding.. and if some are the same age then wouldnt he have been with two of the women at the same time.. cheating much..?
missnomi missnomi 9 years
wow, that is a complicated situation. I have nog solution for you, apart from what others have said. I only know that I would not be able to cope I think. My thoughts are with you...
lolak lolak 9 years
HOLY CRAP!!!!!!! Why would anyone even have to wonder what to do?
la_clique la_clique 9 years
WTF. RUN AWAY! Reread your email to Dear and ask yourself..."What would I tell a friend in this situation?" Get away from this guy as fast as you can unless you plan on donating an egg and and womb for #9.
SaRaH-22 SaRaH-22 9 years
oh wow..dont kiss him, he is so fertile you might get prego just by kissing!! thats crazy, if you stay you are stronger than I, I dont even know if i could have a serious relationship with somone who has 1 kid!(i tried dating a guy that was a little older than me and it just didnt work, but then again thats just me!)
pink_magnetism pink_magnetism 9 years
This guy has gotten (at least) 8 women pregnant. He doesn't seem to be very responsible about birth control, and he keeps doing the same thing over and over again. I think you need to decide if you want to be added to this list of 8 women as another baby momma, & that possibly there would be others added at the same time as well.
a-nonny-mouse a-nonny-mouse 9 years
((beams at L7)) Thanks! I aim to please. ;)
grl-in-the-world grl-in-the-world 9 years
If some of the kids are the same age as each other than that means he was in "relationships" with more than one woman at a time on multiple occasions. YIKES! Are you even sure he isn't carrying on multiple relationships now? It sounds like he has a history of being seriously irresponsible and isn't mature enough to have an adult relationship that lasts any more than a few months. Consider this a lesson learned and move on to someone who has all of the qualities this guy clearly DOESN'T!!!!
vanyvrgs vanyvrgs 9 years
Run Forest Run. 8 baby mommas, some kids the same age -- why would anyone be attracted to a man that impregnates two women at the same close time? Please do yourselve a favor and get out -- and don't be too sure he ain't right as we speak impregnating someone else.....
lickety-split lickety-split 9 years
i didn't know fedex had a brother! tell us, how does it feel to be #9? bet it feels even worse as #10, #11, #12, etc come and go. sounds like a made up story and i hope it is. i would hate to think there were that many women who could be fooled by the same chump. 2007?
rubialala rubialala 9 years
This doesn't sound like a good situation. I think you should get out. ASAP.
ashleycakes ashleycakes 9 years
Has this man never heard of birth control? _________________________ Yeah!!!
Pinkgirl88 Pinkgirl88 9 years
I hate to say this but---- GET OUT NOW.... RUN!!!!!!!!!! TINA!
L7amiguita L7amiguita 9 years
LOL...I always enjoy reading your comments A Nonny Mouse! You always crack me up :)
paigesweetkisses paigesweetkisses 9 years
:jawdrop: wow, sorry but you are absolutely insane for even putting yourself in this position. watch out, or you'll make baby mama number 9
t0xxic t0xxic 9 years
R u crazy? lol Girl run run as fast as you can ------ only 7 days to go
Moni-B Moni-B 9 years
:-O ~M~
colormesticky colormesticky 9 years
That man is entirely too fertile. You'll be next if you don't get out of there.
a-nonny-mouse a-nonny-mouse 9 years
P.S. What line could he possibly have used on you to convince you that he was worth dating? No, no; wait -- let me guess. . . "I'm great with kids." :OY:
a-nonny-mouse a-nonny-mouse 9 years
**wonders if this is for real** Is he a feral cat? Seriously, eight children from eight different women and some of the kids are the same age -- meaning, he impregnated more than one woman at roughly the same time. Does he have ANY sense of personal responsibility? (I know that some of the kids live with him, and it sounds like he is involved in the lives of all his kids, but there is something to be said for taking action to prevent further conceptions.) Has he ever been introduced to the concept of birth control? Has he been checked for STDs? Is he even able to support all eight of these children? How old is he? (I'm getting the feeling that he isn't all that old -- meaning, younger than middle-aged, and (therefore) he's been a busy little love bunny during these past several years.) I would have issues with this, yes. It is INSANITY. I'm not saying he's a bad guy (or that he'll cheat on you with a baby-momma -- it seems that this guy doesn't stick around long enough to get bored and cheat; he stays just long enough to make a mini-version of himself, and then leaves), but I'm alarmed at the thought that YOU will get pregnant -- and then he'll be done with you. (This guy has a serious pattern of impregnating women, then moving on to the next unoccupied uterus.) This is madness. He doesn't strike me as someone interested in finding a life-partner -- what are you getting out of this relationship? Why are you with him? If you aren't profoundly and fixedly in love, then *move on* NOW -- and if you are in love, heaven help you, because I would guess that you're the next soon-to-be BabyMomma-Ex in a very long line of women.
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