I am a 15 year old guy and I have discovered that I am gay. I am starting to have feelings for a guy who doesn't even know my name. I don't really know what to do - he's popular, and I am not. I don't know if he likes girls or boys, I only know his name, and some random facts about him. I'm not sure if this is love, but I feel something special for him and I would like to get to know him better. Plus - he's really hot! Should I try and become his friend and then make a move on him? Desperate Teenager
Dear Desperate Teenager
You can start by inquiring about him. Does he hang around with other gays or just straight people? Ask him to do something with you that's gender neutral like going to a concert or out somewhere where people your age are hanging out. When you have a one on one situation with him, you can check him out to see what he's about. He's bound to talk about guys or girls one way or the other. If you can't figure out if he's gay, chances are that he's not. If you aren't worried about publicly coming out of the closet when you hit on him, then go for it - but it's something to consider before you go ahead and make a move.