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Getting Even

Dear Sugar
A few years ago my aunt and uncle moved to my home town to help my family take care of my elderly and ill grandmother. My aunt planted herself into my life and we became really good friends. We talked about everything over the years and I trusted her deeply.

As it turns out, my aunt and uncle were extremely unhelpful with my grandmother throughout her illness. My aunt also ended up hurting me by stabbing me in the back and repeating everything to my mother that we talked about in confidence over the past few years.

My aunt is notorious for causing drama in our family and in her own. Some of the things she told my parents really upset them. I am beyond disappointed and furious with her and want revenge. How do I handle this situation? Defied Deirdre

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Dear Defied Deirdre
I am sorry your aunt broke your trust. Confiding in someone only to be let down is a horrible feeling so I understand how upset you must be. As angry as you are, getting revenge isn't the best answer. Use your words and tell her how betrayed you feel.

Have a heart to heart with your aunt and make sure she knows that what she did was wrong. Ask her what she was trying to accomplish by betraying you and why she would intentionally hurt you and your parents. Trusting her to be your confidante meant a lot to you and unfortunately your relationship will suffer from her actions.

As much as you want to settle the score, I think knowing how violated you feel will make her more remorseful in the long run. Hopefully, she will take action to win back your trust. If in time you are feeling more secure around her with your private thoughts, then maybe you can figure out a way to rebuild your relationship.

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JennaV JennaV 9 years
C'est la vie!
snowflake snowflake 9 years
Okay Twinkle and my hubby is President Bush!
snowflake snowflake 9 years
Hey yal, I thought this post was suppose to be about me and my problem! Who the heck is Tom?
Twinkle1 Twinkle1 9 years
My hubby Tom Cruise of course.
snowflake snowflake 9 years
By the way, Who is "the Tom" yal are speaking of? I am a bit confused!
snowflake snowflake 9 years
Torando, please use super glue while your at it (haha)
Twinkle1 Twinkle1 9 years
Who is this Suri you speak of oh Great One?
Twinkle1 Twinkle1 9 years
Must go to Barneys...
atoxicsparkle atoxicsparkle 9 years
Yes, go shopping my little Thetan. I must take Suri, the chosen one, for some calithenics.
Twinkle1 Twinkle1 9 years
Hello pretty `4m': .... oh I need new shoes...
atoxicsparkle atoxicsparkle 9 years
Yes...yes it does tickle...doesn't it....MWAHAHAHAHA :EVIL:
Twinkle1 Twinkle1 9 years
Feeling dizzy...what's that noise...oh that tickles...
atoxicsparkle atoxicsparkle 9 years
Well it seems dear ol' Tom has gone to his Auditing Session, so *I* will be accompanying you through the MEST...don't worry, your going to love it...just love it.
Twinkle1 Twinkle1 9 years
Nooo, not another insemination!!!
Twinkle1 Twinkle1 9 years
Who are all these people Tom?
atoxicsparkle atoxicsparkle 9 years
Tom, did Katie make it to the Dianetics Axioms meeting earlier?? If not, you need to bring her in for dialysis IMMEDIATELY!
Twinkle1 Twinkle1 9 years
Where am I Tom?
Twinkle1 Twinkle1 9 years
Am feeling woozy....
JennaV JennaV 9 years
Ahhhh Xena.....warrior princess
atoxicsparkle atoxicsparkle 9 years
Yes, that's right,'s Xenu's wife...forgot to tell ya'll about her...
atoxicsparkle atoxicsparkle 9 years
Tom, are your Thetans out of wack? Get the hell away from Times Square! Xena is there!
Twinkle1 Twinkle1 9 years
I promise I will be good. Please don't chain me to the basement floor.
JennaV JennaV 9 years
I am off to ride my motorcycle in Times Square. I will be back later. I am stopping the Scientology compound for more materials since the brainwashing of my dear Kate did not quite take.
Toronado Toronado 9 years
Tom, if you don't leave her alone, I'm going to rip off your wang, glue it to your forehead, and force you at knifepoint to pretend you're a unicorn. Got it?
atoxicsparkle atoxicsparkle 9 years
That's right. I see you have been contamenated. Time for another cleansing...
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