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Group Therapy: Obsessing Over My Husband's Ex-Girlfriend

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My husband and I have been together for almost three years. We met in March 2008, and started dating right away. We broke up in August because he said "he was still in love with his ex."He realized shortly after we broke up that he made a huge mistake and asked for me back and we got back together in January 2009, and got married in June 2011.

I don't know why but I can't stop obsessing about this ex that he broke up with me for. I look at her Facebook pictures, her Myspace, and I feel like I have to live up to this person I have never even met. I look at her pictures and think about how much prettier she is than me, even though when I showed her picture to some of my friends, they didn't think she is pretty at all. My husband does not even talk to her anymore, and he hasn't for years. I feel like a crazy person when I say that I feel like I have to live up to this person, when I don't even know her. Every time my husband and I get in a fight, I constantly have it running through my head that it's because he wants to be with her not me. But he married me so I don't know why I think that.

I tried talking to him about it too, I told him what I do . . . I ask him questions about their relationship, but why do I care so much and let it bother me? It also really bothers me that his friends bring her up sometimes too . . . I don't know why it bothers me so much and I don't know why I obsess over this person I don't know, but I feel like I can't get passed it and it's ruining our relationship.

I love my husband so much, and I would give anything to feel better and not let this haunt me. Please help.

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